You know when you make slight changes to your schedule to be together or arrive at an event you know they will be at.

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Anonymous wrote:EA means you think about them way too often. When you think of time spent together or see/hear their name it makes you smile. You keep bringing up their name in conversation without thinking about it and always want to be around them. You can't wait to be around each other.

I think most of this can still fall into “crush” territory, which can be harmless as well as unrequited. EA also involves a connection where you begin to depend on that person to meet needs that should be met by your spouse first and foremost.

And that’s why I don’t understand the shaming of people who engage in EA. When I observe my friend with her DH, the tension is palpable, he barely reacts to her. It’s no surprise she is into someone who meets her needs: is happy to see her, compliments her on her looks, and chats about her life.

And this something that men are absolutely blind about. Women are the perfect example of free agents. They will give you all the attention you need and take care of you. If you do not reciprocate they will drop you midair without a parachute. And what men failed to understand is how quick a woman (true for men as well to an extent) can redirect that same energy to the guy that will meet her NEEDS. Men seriously underestimate how quickly a woman will leave if her needs are not met. Especially if she has children and has a good job where she can support herself she will leave as soon as the opportunity presents itself. And what I find more impressive is women's incredible ability to justify their affair.

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Anonymous wrote:EA means you think about them way too often. When you think of time spent together or see/hear their name it makes you smile. You keep bringing up their name in conversation without thinking about it and always want to be around them. You can't wait to be around each other.

I think most of this can still fall into “crush” territory, which can be harmless as well as unrequited. EA also involves a connection where you begin to depend on that person to meet needs that should be met by your spouse first and foremost.

And that’s why I don’t understand the shaming of people who engage in EA. When I observe my friend with her DH, the tension is palpable, he barely reacts to her. It’s no surprise she is into someone who meets her needs: is happy to see her, compliments her on her looks, and chats about her life.

Anonymous wrote:EA means you think about them way too often. When you think of time spent together or see/hear their name it makes you smile. You keep bringing up their name in conversation without thinking about it and always want to be around them. You can't wait to be around each other.

I think most of this can still fall into “crush” territory, which can be harmless as well as unrequited. EA also involves a connection where you begin to depend on that person to meet needs that should be met by your spouse first and foremost.