Anonymous wrote:I don’t feel sorry for kids in care center camps, I feel sorry for your daughter. I can’t imagine a summer without my dad around as a kid to go to the pool, grill, bike ride, go on hikes, celebrate Fourth of July, hug, say goodnight. I hope your daughter makes it through OK. Thinking of her and hope she has as good a summer as possible.
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about her staying quiet about it. Focus on telling people about your summer without being boastful.
If other kids are put in daycare for the summer, I guarantee they don't give two sh*ts that your kid went to Paris.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lol Iceland sucks as a family vacation
I think it sounds awesome. Some of you sound v jealous.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re a loon OP
For not wanting DD to lose friends by talking about things she shouldn't? Mmmkay.
She’s not going to lose friends if she said she went to camp or on a trip or to a water park. All kids have different summers. Your kid probably won’t see most of her classmates this summer since they’re in “daycare” and yours isn’t. By the time school starts it won’t matter what your kid did all summer.
One thing that’s annoying is you’re not acknowledging that those kids will also have cool experiences of their own this summer. They’re not the same ones as your kids’ but they’ll be special anyway. They’ll have fun outings with their daycare/camp. They’ll have pizza and movie night with their family. They’ll have cousin sleepovers or neighborhood hangouts and bike rides and makeovers and any manner of small thing that makes childhood summer so fun that has nothing to do with how much money your parents threw at you. They’re not beleaguered little Dickensian orphans- you’re pitying them when you have no reason to.
Anonymous wrote:This is not something you need to try and control; it’s life. There will be people in your DD’s life who are able to do things she can’t. That’s not a reality you need to hide, it will be a fact of life forever, for everyone.
“Just going to daycare” - these kids might have plenty of fun there - school is out! As long as your kid isn’t incessantly bragging, which is a lesson in social skills. But that’s the only thing you really need to advise on.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re a loon OP
For not wanting DD to lose friends by talking about things she shouldn't? Mmmkay.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's necessary to ask her to lie or defect about this.
It's smart to tell her not to brag and not to bring it up constantly, but there is really nothing wrong or weird about a conversation that goes "What did you guys do this summer?"
and the responses go "Nothing" and "I go to my grandma's house and we go to the beach in July" and "I go to the aftercare all day in the summer" and "I'm doing a bunch of camps - art and acting and stuff."
There are always kinds who do different things. So what if your kid's are more expensive or posh. Someone's always are. And there is a clear line between interesting and obnoxious (like there is no need to say "I am going to taste pasta in five Italian cities after my $5K sleep away camp in the Berkshires!" when you can just say "My parents send me to a sleep away camp and we're going on vacation."
This is exactly what I was looking for, thank you.
FYI, I said daycare because last year she DID attend daycare. Yes, she was only in with kids her own age, but yes, it was at a daycare facility and no, they did not do field trips. At all. Her father will be deployed all summer, so I decided to pull out all the stops and give her opportunities that she wouldn't have locally, and I think we'll continue that going forward. She's at the age where she needs to be exposed to things outside a daycare's four walls.
Maybe other kids were coaching their kids to be “gentle” when talking about how their dads were around all last summer to ride bikes in the evenings, go to their swim meets, and tuck them in each and every night.
So I guess maybe other people have had to be tactful about your family’s sensitive spots too, eh? Are you gettting yet how obnoxious you are acting?
Anonymous wrote:Isn't summer "daycare" for 10 year olds just camp? I'm confused what all the other kids are doing...
Teach your DD not to brag in general.
In this instance, maybe just coach her to say that she won't be local most of the summer...I'll be in X city with my cousins in June, etc.