Anonymous
Post 04/25/2024 04:21     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
OP update, we've got no progress at the moment. We've had no initiation, about 20% success when sitting her on the toilet at regular schedules. We're working on it in the evenings and weekends still and hoping we get the breakthrough soon. It's becoming a little tiring for her, because we have barely taken her out for the past two weeks, but we're carrying it on as we can't train in daycare.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 12:42     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
Anonymous wrote:Developmentally (barring a developmental delay), kids are ready to potty train between 18-24 months - some even earlier. This is when almost all kids were trained prior to the invention of disposable diapers. After 24 months, it gets a little harder as the kids psychologically develop and learn more about power and control and doing things their way

However training early isn't as convenient. You have to get them to a toilet / potty often. So many choose not to train until the child wants to as that means they can leave them in diapers and it is much more convenient. Usually however schools need kids to be trained so most will train between 3 and 4 if their kids haven't wanted to by them as it once again becomes inconvenient to not be able to send them to school.

There are so many ways to train. Make a list of 10 and work your way through them. She is old enough to talk to her about it, put her on the toilet regularly and make it a goal.


I see zero benefits to training “on time” before two. It is massively inconvenient for parents. I wish I’d waited longer, actually. Who cares if kids are developmentally ready? It doesn’t harm them to wait.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 07:23     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
Anonymous wrote:Just because you mentioned it in your OP that there were "potty training signs" you needed- this isn't true. You can have success with no potty training signs. I trained all 3 of mine and there wasn't a single sign. They didn't even know the name for potty (they quickly learned the name for the potty and how to tell us).


Yeah we just went for it
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2024 11:04     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
Developmentally (barring a developmental delay), kids are ready to potty train between 18-24 months - some even earlier. This is when almost all kids were trained prior to the invention of disposable diapers. After 24 months, it gets a little harder as the kids psychologically develop and learn more about power and control and doing things their way

However training early isn't as convenient. You have to get them to a toilet / potty often. So many choose not to train until the child wants to as that means they can leave them in diapers and it is much more convenient. Usually however schools need kids to be trained so most will train between 3 and 4 if their kids haven't wanted to by them as it once again becomes inconvenient to not be able to send them to school.

There are so many ways to train. Make a list of 10 and work your way through them. She is old enough to talk to her about it, put her on the toilet regularly and make it a goal.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2024 10:53     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
This might be something to try outside help on. Sometimes kids will push boundaries with their parents and won't with another adult.

I will say Oh Crap didn't work for my kid because he wasn't bothered by peeing on the floor, so having him deal with the consequences of fully peeing himself even if it was a giant pain for us, helped really get through that peeing transition. But then he'd hold his poop and do it as part of his bedtime routine only, which took longer to deal with.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2024 10:33     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
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Anonymous wrote:8-10 times a day? It's really time to start training. I don't think you need to wait for her to be totally interested. Make it interesting.


OP here - thank you, how do I start if she's going so regularly and isn't telling me?


Get her tested for diabetes.


OP here - I don't think they've tested her for this yet, we've looked at other body issues, how would this affect her?


Oh, puleez! She isn't toilet trained because of parental laziness! There is no such think as "showing signs of ready to be toilet trained'! My daughter was completely trained by age 2., and never needed another diaper. Two sons also completely trained by 2.5. the secret is parents doing their job!


She’s not lazy. Read the thread. She’s tried a lot of things and is thinking about this a lot. Her kid is just harder than average on this issue, and the mom can’t figure out how to do it. It’s hard to have the abnormal kid because none of the advice everyone gives works for you so you have to figure it out yourself.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2024 19:52     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:8-10 times a day? It's really time to start training. I don't think you need to wait for her to be totally interested. Make it interesting.


OP here - thank you, how do I start if she's going so regularly and isn't telling me?


Get her tested for diabetes.


OP here - I don't think they've tested her for this yet, we've looked at other body issues, how would this affect her?


Oh, puleez! She isn't toilet trained because of parental laziness! There is no such think as "showing signs of ready to be toilet trained'! My daughter was completely trained by age 2., and never needed another diaper. Two sons also completely trained by 2.5. the secret is parents doing their job!


You have exceedingly poor reading comprehension! You missed the part where OP has tried at least 3 extended times to potty train-she's not lazy at ALL. And btw, you don't know any potty training 'secrets'. Your kids were ready at typical, not early, ages.

OP, I think it just hasn't quite 'clicked' for her yet. Some kids, it does take longer. There are cute videos you can find that are about using the potty for kids-that might help give her the idea. Has she ever watched you go to the bathroom? That might help. My own kids were a range of ages when trained-one trained in like 2 days right at 2, the others around 2.5, and my latest one past 3. That dc just did.not.get.it until finally, one day it clicked and they were trained in a few days! There was no 'secret'-they were just ready on the later end of normal.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2024 16:13     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
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Anonymous wrote:8-10 times a day? It's really time to start training. I don't think you need to wait for her to be totally interested. Make it interesting.


OP here - thank you, how do I start if she's going so regularly and isn't telling me?


Get her tested for diabetes.


OP here - I don't think they've tested her for this yet, we've looked at other body issues, how would this affect her?


Oh, puleez! She isn't toilet trained because of parental laziness! There is no such think as "showing signs of ready to be toilet trained'! My daughter was completely trained by age 2., and never needed another diaper. Two sons also completely trained by 2.5. the secret is parents doing their job!
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 23:43     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
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Anonymous wrote:OP here again, not sure if another thread or to just stick it out, but how long did it take you to see progression with oh crap, we're still where we were on day 1, whilst adding rewards for success and sitting her on the toilet at regular intervals. We've got until Monday before we can't continue 24/7


I didn’t have a long period to commit to potty training so I did it on the weekends only and I think it was about 1 month (aka 8-10 days) between starting and getting to a place where accidents felt like actual accidents and not just “diaperless baby.” And then another month or two before there were no accidents and I could send them to daycare in undies. Although my kids were younger when I trained so it might be faster for you.

Also, that first bit (nonstop accidents) is one of my absolute least favorite parts of parenting so I’m just going to extend my sympathy and try and send you good vibes right now, OP.


OP here, thanks I think it's good to know this is expected, and we've got to just ride it out! Hopefully we get some progress soon
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 12:09     Subject: How many diapers a day with 3yo
Anonymous wrote:OP here again, not sure if another thread or to just stick it out, but how long did it take you to see progression with oh crap, we're still where we were on day 1, whilst adding rewards for success and sitting her on the toilet at regular intervals. We've got until Monday before we can't continue 24/7


I didn’t have a long period to commit to potty training so I did it on the weekends only and I think it was about 1 month (aka 8-10 days) between starting and getting to a place where accidents felt like actual accidents and not just “diaperless baby.” And then another month or two before there were no accidents and I could send them to daycare in undies. Although my kids were younger when I trained so it might be faster for you.

Also, that first bit (nonstop accidents) is one of my absolute least favorite parts of parenting so I’m just going to extend my sympathy and try and send you good vibes right now, OP.