Anonymous wrote:Meeting a guy for coffee is no problem. Infatuation? Yuck. Grow up.

You can't help who you are attracted to, no? Doesn't mean you have to act on it.

Meeting a guy for coffee is no problem. Infatuation? Yuck. Grow up.

Did you ever meet your friend for coffee?

I think you are looking for someone to confirm what you already know OP…

If this is someone you have nothing to worry about because there are no sparks between you and it’s just a friendly
coffee with some flirting here and there, then it seems harmless and fine.

OTOH, if you know you have an intense crush for this person or feelings that could cross the line… I would suggest others come with you or pass altogether.
Those butterflies are fun but if you are locking eyes and thinking of future babies…lol you may want to sit this one out.

Op ask your DH to come to a place and hit on you like you just met. Problem solved

You should definitely get pregnant. Children will fix everything.

Anonymous wrote:I had a very intimate relationship with a married friend of the opposite sex that I would work out with weekly. It started as a friendship but then turned intense for several years. I guess it was just a date but we just fell into each other. It was too easy to take a work out into a more romantic work out

Were you married, too? How did it end?

I had a very intimate relationship with a married friend of the opposite sex that I would work out with weekly. It started as a friendship but then turned intense for several years. I guess it was just a date but we just fell into each other. It was too easy to take a work out into a more romantic work out

Anonymous wrote:So… am out of town now but my DH left me at a bar in Virginia or close to go to a social function nearby I did not want to attend and my friend appears when my DH should have never left! And I enjoyed it more. Now I cant stop thinking about him. Help!?

Based on your post, I assume you’re still drinking at the bar you mention.

I think having a married friend of the opposite sex is ok. If it gets flirty and that happens it is fine. Just dont cross a line.

Anonymous wrote:I love my male best friend

Sure. My DH loved his female best friend but now decided to screw her. And he’s filed for divorce from me and the kids.
Such life shattering betrayal

NFW. Control yourself

Anonymous wrote:So… am out of town now but my DH left me at a bar in Virginia or close to go to a social function nearby I did not want to attend and my friend appears when my DH should have never left! And I enjoyed it more. Now I cant stop thinking about him. Help!?

Word salad.

And I doubt you're OP though you want us to think you are....maybe. Hard to tell, because your post is nonsensical. Out of town? Is the bar out of town or what? Why would DH leave you in a bar alone while he went to a function? Why would you WANT to be in a bar alone? Blatherig nonsense.

So… am out of town now but my DH left me at a bar in Virginia or close to go to a social function nearby I did not want to attend and my friend appears when my DH should have never left! And I enjoyed it more. Now I cant stop thinking about him. Help!?

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP. I have a married friend of opposite sex I have known for years. We see each other regularly and I do sometimes go out of my way to see this person. We do seem to end up together at every social setting. Is it a date? Yes and no we do share personal issues kids etc. and I trust this person. I think given a different scenario I would act on it! But we havent so I just enjoy the flirting and seeing this person and leave it at that. I dont think that is playing with fire.

Same! There are two different non-DH men in my life who I will see every month or two for coffee or a walk. All of us are happily married to our own spouses, and that makes us safe to each other. But I love the light flirting and value the friendship (about a decade in each case). DH teases me about it sometimes - he knows they like me and I’m not made of stone either. Am I going to act on it? Nope. I’d choose DH as a husband all over again. But this world is full of attractive, interesting people and I like to enjoy them. What’s the problem?