Anonymous
06/11/2024 11:59
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
My almost 11 year old (has an iPad with limits, no phone and not on apps) who is still telling me things (don’t know how long that will last) says he doesn’t like that his friends have Snap. It’s mostly kids in 6th grade and up but he says that’s where the bullying and inappropriate behavior happens. I hate that when he id with certain friends he sees this stuff but I can’t further shelter him from it considering kids have their phones at school on the walk home from school, etc.
At this point his friends who do have phones seem to mostly text but that could change with age. It also depends on location, school, group habits I am sure. There will be variation. I hate all this crap and as a HS teacher of 16 years, the effect of tech on teen mental health has been profoundly disturbing to witness.
At this point his friends who do have phones seem to mostly text but that could change with age. It also depends on location, school, group habits I am sure. There will be variation. I hate all this crap and as a HS teacher of 16 years, the effect of tech on teen mental health has been profoundly disturbing to witness.
Anonymous
06/07/2024 12:36
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you don’t want your kid to use Snap, then forbid it. But omg shut up with what other parents do.
You do you
And the parents that think their teens don’t lie and are wholesome, you are wrong. All teens - all of them lie to parents. Whether it’s snap or anything else it doesn’t matter. It’s a right of passage.
No, they don’t. Parents who are doing a good job and raising teens with morals get to enjoy teens that don’t lie to them.
Awwwww, you're cute.
Awwwww, you obviously suck at parenting. Sorry you’re jealous of those of us with honest teens. They aren’t unicorns.
Anonymous
06/07/2024 12:01
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you don’t want your kid to use Snap, then forbid it. But omg shut up with what other parents do.
You do you
And the parents that think their teens don’t lie and are wholesome, you are wrong. All teens - all of them lie to parents. Whether it’s snap or anything else it doesn’t matter. It’s a right of passage.
No, they don’t. Parents who are doing a good job and raising teens with morals get to enjoy teens that don’t lie to them.
Awwwww, you're cute.
Anonymous
06/07/2024 12:01
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:According to my teens, snap is more common, and less of a big deal. Like you would give your snap or snap friends, acquaintances, etc. Texting is deemed more “intimate” & more of like a next level thing - close friends or SOs.
I know, doesn’t make much sense to me, but they seem to differentiate between the levels of communication.
Yup, my kid said the same.
Anonymous
06/07/2024 12:00
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:If you don’t want your kid to use Snap, then forbid it. But omg shut up with what other parents do.
You do you
And the parents that think their teens don’t lie and are wholesome, you are wrong. All teens - all of them lie to parents. Whether it’s snap or anything else it doesn’t matter. It’s a right of passage.
Agree
Anonymous
06/07/2024 11:58
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you don’t want your kid to use Snap, then forbid it. But omg shut up with what other parents do.
You do you
And the parents that think their teens don’t lie and are wholesome, you are wrong. All teens - all of them lie to parents. Whether it’s snap or anything else it doesn’t matter. It’s a right of passage.
No, they don’t. Parents who are doing a good job and raising teens with morals get to enjoy teens that don’t lie to them.
Not the PP but how naive are you? Ask every adult if they ever lied to their parents when they were teens. Either straight up or by omission and every single one will say yes.
Anonymous
06/07/2024 11:55
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. I'm the only one who texts my young adults. All their friends use snap.
My 16, 17, and 22yr old all made me get a snap chat but they talk so much more and send some great snaps and funny things that I would never get otherwise. I love it!
Anonymous
06/07/2024 08:01
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:If you don’t want your kid to use Snap, then forbid it. But omg shut up with what other parents do.
You do you
And the parents that think their teens don’t lie and are wholesome, you are wrong. All teens - all of them lie to parents. Whether it’s snap or anything else it doesn’t matter. It’s a right of passage.
No, they don’t. Parents who are doing a good job and raising teens with morals get to enjoy teens that don’t lie to them.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 22:58
Subject: Re:Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your tween is lying to you. It is not universally true that kids talk ONLY on Snapchat. Many teens use text messages.
NP.
I think OP’s kid is largely telling the truth. By and large, my kids communicate with friends using Snapchat.
Sometimes they text but it’s not common.
Again: The topic's question says: "Do kids only talk on Snapchat?"
The answer to that question is no, as that is not universally true. My kids live on iMessage all day, everyday. And if teens/tweens weren't using text messaging, the blue bubbles versus green bubbles thing wouldn't be an issue as it has been proven to be: https://www.wsj.com/articles/why-apples-imessage-is-winning-teens-dread-the-green-text-bubble-11641618009
Apple’s iMessage plays a significant role in the lives of young smartphone users and their parents, according to data and interviews with a dozen of these people. Teens and college students said they dread the ostracism that comes with a green text. The social pressure is palpable, with some reporting being ostracized or singled out after switching away from iPhones.
Might it be that the kids in OP's circle PRIMARILY talk on Snapchat? Sure. But even with those kids, I'd be hard pressed to believe that they never use anything other than Snapchat to communicate and text messaging is completely alien and foreign to them.
So, is this now just some pedantic lecture on the difference between only and primarily?
My son’s friends mostly use Snapchat to talk. If they want to get together, they include those without Snapchat on regular text. But that person misses out on all the many many conversations happening all day. We gave in in 9th grade for that reason.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 16:18
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
If you don’t want your kid to use Snap, then forbid it. But omg shut up with what other parents do.
You do you
And the parents that think their teens don’t lie and are wholesome, you are wrong. All teens - all of them lie to parents. Whether it’s snap or anything else it doesn’t matter. It’s a right of passage.
You do you
And the parents that think their teens don’t lie and are wholesome, you are wrong. All teens - all of them lie to parents. Whether it’s snap or anything else it doesn’t matter. It’s a right of passage.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 15:12
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Yes. I'm the only one who texts my young adults. All their friends use snap.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 15:11
Subject: Re:Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t give a flying F if my child is left out of asinine conversations on those platforms. If she’s not worthy of being texted over regular text, or WhatsApp, then she can go tell those kids to F off. I really really really wish more parents would grow some balls and just say NO to their kids on having these toxic Platforms. You are causing your child’s downward spiral mentally by allowing them to use them. How on earth are you rationalizing giving them a communication tool that then disappears so you are not able to check what’s being discussed, passed around, shared with your child? Honestly, think about it. The people who have created these platforms are evil and they don’t allow their own children to use them. Why are you allowing yours? Again, grow some balls, and say no to your child. If they’re upset, too bad. Say if texting is not good enough for them, then they can get used to having no phone and no communication with anyone. Stop blaming the generation, this is the way it is now, blah blah… you’re just giving in and making yourself feel better about doing the wrong thing.
Agree. I do not let my son use it. It so terrible. This was also how he was bullied and it took me catching it in real time. I tool pictures of bullying snaps from another phone. Also, strangers can find your kids this way. Track all movement. Send inappropriate videos that disappear.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 14:52
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If parents saw some of things that are out there and the way these kids are being preyed upon, they would not give social media to kids so easily at 13yrs old.
It’s going to be just like smoking and vaping. Until the damaging effects impact them or those close to them they will bury their head in the sand and assume it won’t be them.
People from all corners, doctors, social workers, psychologists, teachers, even some in tech are basically screaming at folks to stop this. But folks are more worried their kid is going to be left out.
Any parent in 2024 would have to be a total idiot to allow their child to use SnapChat.
X1000
And because there’s so many idiot parents, Snapchat needs to be banned for anyone under 18.
Anonymous
06/06/2024 14:17
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If parents saw some of things that are out there and the way these kids are being preyed upon, they would not give social media to kids so easily at 13yrs old.
It’s going to be just like smoking and vaping. Until the damaging effects impact them or those close to them they will bury their head in the sand and assume it won’t be them.
People from all corners, doctors, social workers, psychologists, teachers, even some in tech are basically screaming at folks to stop this. But folks are more worried their kid is going to be left out.
Any parent in 2024 would have to be a total idiot to allow their child to use SnapChat.
Yet all high schoolers have it. My daughter is a 3 sport athlete and their team group chats are snap only. Even the coaches are in it. Because there are always a few with androids. Snap is easiest. I have a snap too and I love seeing my teens and their friends snaps. Most are hilariously funny.
You all make it seem like other apps are safer and they aren’t.
Regular iMessage you can screen shot without the other person knowing, you can delete messages so parents can’t see, and you can change and delete contacts on the fly.
At least snap shows any shots or recordings, shows deleted messages and also when people read or opened the message.
As long as you have access to their account and can log in anytime. And say delete after 24hrs it’s totally fine.
You parent your kids the right way. And middle schoolers shouldn’t have phones let a lone apps under 13. But after, it’s fine
Anonymous
06/06/2024 14:17
Subject: Do kids only talk on Snapchat?
Yeah, I don't get it. Ppl are afraid to let their kids out and socialize in person, but don't bat an eye at social media.