Anonymous wrote:For me, if I haven't had an O for two days, I never have trouble rising to the occasion. In fact, I usually can do it twice in one day with the right woman. Unfortunately, with some women I have a trouble finishing. Sildenifil helps, but the main thing that helps us being with a woman who's attuned to my body. The attractiveness of the woman matters too, but not as much as her timing and touch. Those skills are a really big deal and hard to teach.

Why can't you just find the right one and stop with others? Maybe having so many partners creates anxiety. It certainly would for me as a woman. Just saying.

Anonymous wrote:It's all, don't blame your partner.

WRONG guess lady. Unless you're a man with physical issues then you're correct. Most ED is in the brain however.

Experience talking here. Some women I just can't get hard for on the first go round or any other round. Usually it's an attraction issue when nude, not always, but a particularly sexually open woman that knows what she wants and knows how to please a man, regardless of how ugly she is (again I'm experienced) will get me super hard and can even make me finish 2 and 3 times. Having sex with someone you know is into it and into you makes all the difference in the world. That means for you ladies that won't show off your rear ends bent over without getting all embarrassed or don't know how to stroke and give oral are the most likely to experience a man's ED. But the key is, you have to actually want to do it and enjoy it. It doesn't matter how tired or stressed I am if a woman knows how to be a good lover. Most men aren't looking to rape someone under any circumstances; we have to know you want it. It's true for a long-term marriage (again I'm experienced) also. It gets real old after a number of years giving more than you receive.
Enthusiasm is where it's at. It gets me right over the first time jitters when I'm most likely to experience ED.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband started to have performance issues when he turned 60. Fortunately he decided to deal with it with viagra. If he skips alcohol and takes the pill early in the evening he will quickly be ready to go. He can stay firm a long time which allows for great foreplay.

Most women will openly mock, laugh at, and look down on any man who reveals he takes viagra.

This is total projection. I’m 52 divorced F with a lot of similar friends. Quite the opposite IME - we are supportive and pleased if a guy takes care of this on his own. Way better than dealing with limpness and all the ego issues that come with it, and also it’s a green flag that the guy takes care of himself and is willing to see a Dr if they have a problem (esp important if we are thinking about longer term relationships). The only time we are bothered by it is when the guys our age brag about how they keep some 25 year old going all night long with their medically enhanced parts 🤮

Anonymous wrote:My husband started to have performance issues when he turned 60. Fortunately he decided to deal with it with viagra. If he skips alcohol and takes the pill early in the evening he will quickly be ready to go. He can stay firm a long time which allows for great foreplay.

Most women will openly mock, laugh at, and look down on any man who reveals he takes viagra.

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Anonymous wrote:Porn addiction, being overweight and having high blood pressure are also huge issues. He needs to see a dr.

DCUM is, if nothing else, very predictable. If a guy can’t get it up, it’s because he’s an unhealthy fatty who watches too much porn.

Exactly. It never ceases to amaze me how many women make it to middle age thinking that men are mindless erection vending machines. It's ironic that this view owes a lot to the porn that women despise.

Look: of course the woman's attractiveness and enthusiasm/skill matter. My wife and I have been together for 10+ years, and I still get it up for her because she's hot and because she's fun in bed. If I had been with the same boring frump for over a decade, would I be having erection issues at this point? It's quite possible.

And "hot" isn't about genetic good looks, either. It means staying in shape and wearing clothes that flatter your body type. I get it, we're all busy, but if you *never* put on a cute outfit for your husband, how much room do you really have to complain if he can't get it up? Sometimes (many times, I bet) the way to fix ED is for the woman to take some ownership.

There’s no way a straight man wrote the above screed.

I’m straight and I agree with a lot of what he said. My wife gave up a bit during thenoandemic and it never came back. She’s not in as good of shape and wears frumpy drab clothes. Its made it where I can no longer see her as a sexual person and its killed my ability to get hard with her. Have have gotten an ed med prescribed but I don’t really have “bloodflow” issues - its more on the arousal side.

Are you sure you’re not a porn addicted ADHD rapist?

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Anonymous wrote:Porn addiction, being overweight and having high blood pressure are also huge issues. He needs to see a dr.

DCUM is, if nothing else, very predictable. If a guy can’t get it up, it’s because he’s an unhealthy fatty who watches too much porn.

Exactly. It never ceases to amaze me how many women make it to middle age thinking that men are mindless erection vending machines. It's ironic that this view owes a lot to the porn that women despise.

Look: of course the woman's attractiveness and enthusiasm/skill matter. My wife and I have been together for 10+ years, and I still get it up for her because she's hot and because she's fun in bed. If I had been with the same boring frump for over a decade, would I be having erection issues at this point? It's quite possible.

And "hot" isn't about genetic good looks, either. It means staying in shape and wearing clothes that flatter your body type. I get it, we're all busy, but if you *never* put on a cute outfit for your husband, how much room do you really have to complain if he can't get it up? Sometimes (many times, I bet) the way to fix ED is for the woman to take some ownership.

There’s no way a straight man wrote the above screed.

I’m straight and I agree with a lot of what he said. My wife gave up a bit during thenoandemic and it never came back. She’s not in as good of shape and wears frumpy drab clothes. Its made it where I can no longer see her as a sexual person and its killed my ability to get hard with her. Have have gotten an ed med prescribed but I don’t really have “bloodflow” issues - its more on the arousal side.

For me, if I haven't had an O for two days, I never have trouble rising to the occasion. In fact, I usually can do it twice in one day with the right woman. Unfortunately, with some women I have a trouble finishing. Sildenifil helps, but the main thing that helps us being with a woman who's attuned to my body. The attractiveness of the woman matters too, but not as much as her timing and touch. Those skills are a really big deal and hard to teach.

Anonymous wrote:Psychologically based? Only some.

Physically based? Same for every woman.

This.

I sometimes had performance anxiety that would lead to ED. But only with some women. So for me it was psychological. I never figured out why this occurred with some women but perhaps it was my big head trying to tell my little head something about those women.

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Anonymous wrote:It also have to do with how enthusiastic your partner is in the bed. No enthusiasm is going to result into ED issues.

Lol, which is a direct result of how enthusiastic a partner a man is to the woman.

I remember once stupidly asking my husband if he could tell when I wasn’t really into it. His answer was “when I start thinking about my early morning tee time.” No doubt that there are times when it’s not really happening for one is us.

Anonymous wrote:It also have to do with how enthusiastic your partner is in the bed. No enthusiasm is going to result into ED issues.

Lol, which is a direct result of how enthusiastic a partner a man is to the woman.

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Anonymous wrote:Porn addiction, being overweight and having high blood pressure are also huge issues. He needs to see a dr.

DCUM is, if nothing else, very predictable. If a guy can’t get it up, it’s because he’s an unhealthy fatty who watches too much porn.

Exactly. It never ceases to amaze me how many women make it to middle age thinking that men are mindless erection vending machines. It's ironic that this view owes a lot to the porn that women despise.

Look: of course the woman's attractiveness and enthusiasm/skill matter. My wife and I have been together for 10+ years, and I still get it up for her because she's hot and because she's fun in bed. If I had been with the same boring frump for over a decade, would I be having erection issues at this point? It's quite possible.

And "hot" isn't about genetic good looks, either. It means staying in shape and wearing clothes that flatter your body type. I get it, we're all busy, but if you *never* put on a cute outfit for your husband, how much room do you really have to complain if he can't get it up? Sometimes (many times, I bet) the way to fix ED is for the woman to take some ownership.

There’s no way a straight man wrote the above screed.

It also have to do with how enthusiastic your partner is in the bed. No enthusiasm is going to result into ED issues.

My husband started to have performance issues when he turned 60. Fortunately he decided to deal with it with viagra. If he skips alcohol and takes the pill early in the evening he will quickly be ready to go. He can stay firm a long time which allows for great foreplay.

Anonymous wrote:It's never an issue with my thin hot gf who is 30 years younger than me.

Would she say that?