Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 15:31     Subject: Re:Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

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Anonymous wrote:My son graduated last yr from Gonzaga. He absolutely loved his 4 yrs on Eye Street and was well prepared for college. Gonzaga is a special place - located in the city on Cap Hill, pulls from over 30 zip codes and has many clubs/sports/music/theatre for every interest.

That's great. But the best schools in the country are coed. Why do you think it wouldn't have done better at a better coed school? This discussion is meant to help people decide what they should do with themselves or their children. Did your son want to go their and want to be there? That might be the most important part about this debate. If he did great, but the best schools are still coed.


What is your definition of “best schools”?


niche.com has a list of the best private schools in the country. Almost all of the top schools are coed. It's not my definition.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 15:31     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

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Anonymous wrote:My boy cousins went to all boys catholic and notably said that it was hard to focus in college classes because they weren’t used to having classes with girls. That stuck with me and we are going coed for our kids. Although we also know all boys school grads who were fine.


My sons did public K-8 and then all-boy Catholic HS. Zero issues with focusing in college. That's weird to me. In 8th grade, however, it was a real thing for my second son--but he was 13 and raging puberty.


+1 My boys have been around girls their whole lives, they just didn't have classes with them for 9 months of 4 years. No problem in college (why would that even be a thing, lol?).


Because it is the most important time in life to be around the opposite sex. All boys schools lead to higher rates of depression and anxiety. If you want private, do private coed.
Private coed schools are the best schools in the country for a reason.


Please cite your source of this information.


You can Google best private high schools in the US. Niche has a list and the overwhelming number of them are coed. This isnt a secret.


This isn’t true. Some are coed and some are single sex. This is clearly personal for you.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 15:26     Subject: Re:Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My son graduated last yr from Gonzaga. He absolutely loved his 4 yrs on Eye Street and was well prepared for college. Gonzaga is a special place - located in the city on Cap Hill, pulls from over 30 zip codes and has many clubs/sports/music/theatre for every interest.

That's great. But the best schools in the country are coed. Why do you think it wouldn't have done better at a better coed school? This discussion is meant to help people decide what they should do with themselves or their children. Did your son want to go their and want to be there? That might be the most important part about this debate. If he did great, but the best schools are still coed.


What is your definition of “best schools”?
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 15:23     Subject: Re:Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

Anonymous wrote:My son graduated last yr from Gonzaga. He absolutely loved his 4 yrs on Eye Street and was well prepared for college. Gonzaga is a special place - located in the city on Cap Hill, pulls from over 30 zip codes and has many clubs/sports/music/theatre for every interest.

That's great. But the best schools in the country are coed. Why do you think it wouldn't have done better at a better coed school? This discussion is meant to help people decide what they should do with themselves or their children. Did your son want to go their and want to be there? That might be the most important part about this debate. If he did great, but the best schools are still coed.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 15:12     Subject: Re:Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

My son graduated last yr from Gonzaga. He absolutely loved his 4 yrs on Eye Street and was well prepared for college. Gonzaga is a special place - located in the city on Cap Hill, pulls from over 30 zip codes and has many clubs/sports/music/theatre for every interest.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 14:23     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

Anonymous wrote:I'm a former teacher with both co-ed and all-boys experience, and I can say that it is not uncommon to unfavorably compare boys with girls in co-ed settings. On a massive scale, without fail, boys in the co-ed school were disproportionally disciplined, kicked out of class, or cited for "attention issues," "aggressive behavior," or an inability to "sit still." While every student is an individual, and you don't want to over-generalize, there are some generalities one can form about typical learning styles for boys and girls with classroom experience, and the modern education system in the U.S. does boys a disservice in this respect. In an all-boys setting, these unfavorable comparisons are mitigated, you have teachers who are consciously willing to work with and understand boys of all learning styles. In this regard, I can understand why a family would choose a single-sex setting for their son.


Thanks. So why do you think the best schools are coed? Guessing the coed schools you taught at were public? I think public schools can be taken out of the equation when discussing all boys vs coed.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 14:16     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

I went to a Catholic girls' school outside of the DMV and regularly socialized with guys from our "brother" schools. "Prestige" Catholic high schools are all single-sex, but we'd always say that going to a dance at a Catholic boys school was a bit like going to Alaska--the odds are good but the goods are odd. The girls were pretty much the same as what you'd find in a coed school but the boys were a self-selecting group. Do with that info what you will.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 13:59     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

I'm a former teacher with both co-ed and all-boys experience, and I can say that it is not uncommon to unfavorably compare boys with girls in co-ed settings. On a massive scale, without fail, boys in the co-ed school were disproportionally disciplined, kicked out of class, or cited for "attention issues," "aggressive behavior," or an inability to "sit still." While every student is an individual, and you don't want to over-generalize, there are some generalities one can form about typical learning styles for boys and girls with classroom experience, and the modern education system in the U.S. does boys a disservice in this respect. In an all-boys setting, these unfavorable comparisons are mitigated, you have teachers who are consciously willing to work with and understand boys of all learning styles. In this regard, I can understand why a family would choose a single-sex setting for their son.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 12:52     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

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Anonymous wrote:Look at the research data for yourself. Lots of data supporting the benefits of of all girls schools for the development of girls and coed schools for the development of boys.


Lot's of data saying the opposite too, so choose whichever "research" supports your own agenda.


No there isn't. The only real study i have seen confirmed what the previous poster said. All girls can be better for girls but coed is better for boys.


Well, an organizati was allowed to do similar research AT my boys' school while my boys were there, and the results were polar opposite of what you say.


So why are the best schools coed?


A completely different topic.

Please allow the families that believe an all boys school is a better experience to do what they believe is best.


Thats not what this thread is. Its pros and cons.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 12:49     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

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Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Look at the research data for yourself. Lots of data supporting the benefits of of all girls schools for the development of girls and coed schools for the development of boys.


Lot's of data saying the opposite too, so choose whichever "research" supports your own agenda.


No there isn't. The only real study i have seen confirmed what the previous poster said. All girls can be better for girls but coed is better for boys.


Well, an organizati was allowed to do similar research AT my boys' school while my boys were there, and the results were polar opposite of what you say.


So why are the best schools coed?


A completely different topic.

Please allow the families that believe an all boys school is a better experience to do what they believe is best.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 12:36     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Look at the research data for yourself. Lots of data supporting the benefits of of all girls schools for the development of girls and coed schools for the development of boys.


Lot's of data saying the opposite too, so choose whichever "research" supports your own agenda.


No there isn't. The only real study i have seen confirmed what the previous poster said. All girls can be better for girls but coed is better for boys.


Well, an organizati was allowed to do similar research AT my boys' school while my boys were there, and the results were polar opposite of what you say.


So why are the best schools coed?
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 12:34     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Look at the research data for yourself. Lots of data supporting the benefits of of all girls schools for the development of girls and coed schools for the development of boys.


Lot's of data saying the opposite too, so choose whichever "research" supports your own agenda.


No there isn't. The only real study i have seen confirmed what the previous poster said. All girls can be better for girls but coed is better for boys.


Well, an organizati was allowed to do similar research AT my boys' school while my boys were there, and the results were polar opposite of what you say.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 12:30     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

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Anonymous wrote:My boy cousins went to all boys catholic and notably said that it was hard to focus in college classes because they weren’t used to having classes with girls. That stuck with me and we are going coed for our kids. Although we also know all boys school grads who were fine.


My sons did public K-8 and then all-boy Catholic HS. Zero issues with focusing in college. That's weird to me. In 8th grade, however, it was a real thing for my second son--but he was 13 and raging puberty.


+1 My boys have been around girls their whole lives, they just didn't have classes with them for 9 months of 4 years. No problem in college (why would that even be a thing, lol?).


Because it is the most important time in life to be around the opposite sex. All boys schools lead to higher rates of depression and anxiety. If you want private, do private coed.
Private coed schools are the best schools in the country for a reason.


They ARE around the opposite sex every day. Just not in class.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 12:27     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

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Anonymous wrote:My boy cousins went to all boys catholic and notably said that it was hard to focus in college classes because they weren’t used to having classes with girls. That stuck with me and we are going coed for our kids. Although we also know all boys school grads who were fine.


My sons did public K-8 and then all-boy Catholic HS. Zero issues with focusing in college. That's weird to me. In 8th grade, however, it was a real thing for my second son--but he was 13 and raging puberty.


+1 My boys have been around girls their whole lives, they just didn't have classes with them for 9 months of 4 years. No problem in college (why would that even be a thing, lol?).


Because it is the most important time in life to be around the opposite sex. All boys schools lead to higher rates of depression and anxiety. If you want private, do private coed.
Private coed schools are the best schools in the country for a reason.


Please cite your source of this information.


You can Google best private high schools in the US. Niche has a list and the overwhelming number of them are coed. This isnt a secret.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2026 12:24     Subject: Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Look at the research data for yourself. Lots of data supporting the benefits of of all girls schools for the development of girls and coed schools for the development of boys.


Lot's of data saying the opposite too, so choose whichever "research" supports your own agenda.


No there isn't. The only real study i have seen confirmed what the previous poster said. All girls can be better for girls but coed is better for boys.