Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 21:50     Subject: Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:Based on this thread, I looked up the top 20-125 designers. Color me shocked, not one in DMV.


x1000000

DMV = bored SAHM = "designer". I decided very early, no matter how big my house or budget, I would be facilitating my own designs and tastes, which are no doubt better.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 21:49     Subject: Re:Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:Ballsy, but on some level, good for her for saying that.


+1

She has a point.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 21:48     Subject: Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:I’m assuming you texted her on a Friday night because you were annoyed she didn’t supply you with what you had expected by EOB Friday. And now you’d have to wait several more days to receive it.

She likely responded passively aggressively because she was annoyed with you (you might have to do some soul searching here to determine the reasons why). I’d probably bail on this relationship and take it as a learning experience. Going forward: receive timeline estimates for things you care about, ask the person for their communication preferences, and then follow those preferences.

Sidenote. Some people think passive aggressiveness is kinder/more polite than being straight. I can’t stand it. So I’d have a hard time with this particular swat on the nose. But I think only op knows if she deserved it. If that’s the case, she might be able to proceed. But it doesn’t sound like that’s the case here.


She wasn't "passive aggressive." She was clear and direct to someone who was clearly going to be a nightmare client.

Passive aggressive would be not answering emails or texts for weeks and waiting for OP to get mad
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 21:44     Subject: Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:How can an interior designer not work on the weekend? Are they expecting all their clients to be SAHMs or retired, or independently wealthy and not gainfully engaged in any work day pursuits?



I met with our designer on days I WAH and on days I was taking time off to deal with other life stuff
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 21:18     Subject: Interior designer blues
Based on this thread, I looked up the top 20-125 designers. Color me shocked, not one in DMV.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 21:17     Subject: Interior designer blues
How can an interior designer not work on the weekend? Are they expecting all their clients to be SAHMs or retired, or independently wealthy and not gainfully engaged in any work day pursuits?

Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 21:15     Subject: Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine for you to send a text at 7:45pm on a Friday evening and also think it's fine for her to wait to respond until working hours Monday morning. She's not even doing that to you - she's saying she'll send you the revised contract Saturday morning. Get over yourself. 40 hours of work is very small beans.


I agree with everything you said above but I found the “I ask that you please respect my family time over the weekend” unnecessarily chastising- like in what way is she expecting me to invade her space this weekend?


This. She didn't need to say that unless OP demanded a response that weekend. That said, if I email or text a professional on a Friday evening or weekend, I make it clear I don't expect them to see it or respond until the work week. Sometimes the only time I have to respond is when they aren't working.

Also, for that much money an hour I do expect stellar service and good communication. I don't expect to hear from them on weekends, but if I am signing a contract, I want to know you are on the ball and not flaky. OP< I would move on.


The notion that you are texting a professional on a Friday evening or weekend denotes that you are not interacting with them in a professional manner.

The very nature of a text is to interrupt the recipient.

If you were relating in a professional manner you would be respectful and send a time delayed email.

You sound like an entitled pita.


The professional needs to be more flexible. She doesn’t work a traditional 9-5.


How do you know what hours any professional works? Seriously? Professionals work whatever hours they say they do.


If they have special skills, like a doctor But if they are in a client service and aren’t famous? Not really.

They can set the hours but people can take their business elsewhere
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 21:12     Subject: Interior designer blues
Exactly. Also, the talk of just what a rip off the local designers are rattled them so much they run to the “website feedback”. It’s so very funny.

It’s not one poster. Too many people have had bad experiences as the OP. Luckily she’s only out $400. There just aren’t great interior designers in DMV who warrant these kinds of prices.

There are great local architects and design builds, the best of which employ architects for the interior design. Do your research.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 20:58     Subject: Interior designer blues
Yeah, I wouldn't work with her. She is clearly putting you on notice that she will work on "Her Time", regardless of the fact that she is working for you.

She must not need the business. So she will feel embolden to finish when she finishes. The only contractors that finish on time, in my experience, are those who have will be hurt financially if they don't. I've worked with two that our buildings have a contract as well as us. So if contractor doesn't finish in time they are fined. And it doesn't serve them to make the client pay because if they mess up and owner has to pay, they get banned from the building.

Incentive. This woman has none. It wouldn't matter if you didn't have a deadline, and she is clearly showing she will work on her schedule.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 20:51     Subject: Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Is it a marketing bot or just one person posting a bunch of times about her cheap overseas designers?


I think it's a mentally unstable person on a tirade. It's non-sensical and odd, but I'm trying to have empathy because it seems so obviously batty.


It’s clear you are a decorator who feels threatened. I would totally prefer a top architect online for 10% if your cost.


Not a decorator You are making this thread unpleasant though.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 20:48     Subject: Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it a marketing bot or just one person posting a bunch of times about her cheap overseas designers?


I think it's a mentally unstable person on a tirade. It's non-sensical and odd, but I'm trying to have empathy because it seems so obviously batty.


It’s clear you are a decorator who feels threatened. I would totally prefer a top architect online for 10% if your cost.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 19:26     Subject: Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine for you to send a text at 7:45pm on a Friday evening and also think it's fine for her to wait to respond until working hours Monday morning. She's not even doing that to you - she's saying she'll send you the revised contract Saturday morning. Get over yourself. 40 hours of work is very small beans.


I agree with everything you said above but I found the “I ask that you please respect my family time over the weekend” unnecessarily chastising- like in what way is she expecting me to invade her space this weekend?


This. She didn't need to say that unless OP demanded a response that weekend. That said, if I email or text a professional on a Friday evening or weekend, I make it clear I don't expect them to see it or respond until the work week. Sometimes the only time I have to respond is when they aren't working.

Also, for that much money an hour I do expect stellar service and good communication. I don't expect to hear from them on weekends, but if I am signing a contract, I want to know you are on the ball and not flaky. OP< I would move on.


The notion that you are texting a professional on a Friday evening or weekend denotes that you are not interacting with them in a professional manner.

The very nature of a text is to interrupt the recipient.

If you were relating in a professional manner you would be respectful and send a time delayed email.

You sound like an entitled pita.


The professional needs to be more flexible. She doesn’t work a traditional 9-5.


How do you know what hours any professional works? Seriously? Professionals work whatever hours they say they do.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 19:25     Subject: Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:Is it a marketing bot or just one person posting a bunch of times about her cheap overseas designers?


I think it's a mentally unstable person on a tirade. It's non-sensical and odd, but I'm trying to have empathy because it seems so obviously batty.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 19:22     Subject: Interior designer blues
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine for you to send a text at 7:45pm on a Friday evening and also think it's fine for her to wait to respond until working hours Monday morning. She's not even doing that to you - she's saying she'll send you the revised contract Saturday morning. Get over yourself. 40 hours of work is very small beans.


I agree with everything you said above but I found the “I ask that you please respect my family time over the weekend” unnecessarily chastising- like in what way is she expecting me to invade her space this weekend?


Agree. She was annoyed that you texted and tried to write back in the nicest way possible but her true feelings shined through. I would move on
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2024 14:41     Subject: Interior designer blues
It hasn’t. You just don’t like it