Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:+1 on short tight dresses. Wear with sneakers. This is what EVERY girl does. My daughter went to one last night and some ever wore off the shoulder sweatshirts over the dresses when it got dark.

It’s definitely not what every girl wears. Girls should wear whatever they are comfortable in instead of feeling the need to conform to some unrealistic dress standards. My 13 yo daughter is a size women’s 10/12 almost 6’ with DD breasts and there’s no way she’d leave the house dressed like that. Most of those dresses wouldn’t even fit her body type if she wanted them to. It’s fine if you have an undeveloped or underdeveloped body at that age and it still looks little girlish. When a 14 year old has the body of a 25 year old though skimpy and tight is NOT the kind of dress they should be wearing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- My child had a Bat Mitzvah this year and we have been to a lot. This thread is terrible- people are making things up or do not have teen girls or have not been to actual Bat Mitzvahs.

Like it or not, kids are wearing short, tight dresses. You can get one that is not quite as short or quite as tight (size up, or slight Aline on short dress), so it looks less skimpy. But that is what the majority of the kids are wearing.

Some posters are posting from Nordstrom Kids dept- that is fine if you have an early 7th grade 12 year old. OP said her daughter is 14!

This type of thing is what most girls wear to Bat Mitzvahs (like it or not, this is what they wear, and they where cute sneakers like Nikes with the dress, little sweater over it for service). Mine always wear little bike shorts under the dress. The ones that wear dresses like in some of the early links look ridiculous.

https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-square-neck-linen-mini-dress/516286773

https://www.dillards.com/p/b.-darlin-one-shoulder-ruched-side-bodycon-dress/512639722

Katie J is very trendy, you can size up to have the dress not be as short (but these are pricier than Dillards/Macys):

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-maddy-sequin-dress-big-kid?ID=4490784&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-ava-dress-big-kid?ID=4091572&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-tween-scarlett-nylon-stretch-ruched-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4951862&CategoryID=3866

If you want less tight:
https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-textured-sleeveless-wrap-dress/513070804

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-cali-crepe-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4200428&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/city-studios-juniors-double-strap-v-neck-skater-dress?ID=16287072

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/crystal-doll-juniors-tulle-sleeve-a-line-dress?ID=16540472&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_A~xcm_choiceId~zcidM05RUB-323dbc55-2cb3-47bc-9e63-38108a5e9197%40HDI%40Others%2Byou%2Bmay%2Blike%2418109%2416540472~xcm_pos~zPos2~xcm_srcCatID~z18109

For morning service, without party right after:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-molly-long-sleeve-dress-big-kid?ID=4452984&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/bcx-juniors-flutter-sleeve-tiered-skirt-a-line-dress?ID=17350481

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/speechless-juniors-square-neck-mesh-tiered-skirt-dress?ID=17262326

Are you crazy? They’re 14 not 24!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:+1 on short tight dresses. Wear with sneakers. This is what EVERY girl does. My daughter went to one last night and some ever wore off the shoulder sweatshirts over the dresses when it got dark.

It’s definitely not what every girl wears. Girls should wear whatever they are comfortable in instead of feeling the need to conform to some unrealistic dress standards. My 13 yo daughter is a size women’s 10/12 almost 6’ with DD breasts and there’s no way she’d leave the house dressed like that. Most of those dresses wouldn’t even fit her body type if she wanted them to. It’s fine if you have an undeveloped or underdeveloped body at that age and it still looks little girlish. When a 14 year old has the body of a 25 year old though skimpy and tight is NOT the kind of dress they should be wearing.

Anonymous wrote:I would not recommend putting a 14-year-old in a bodycon dress. It is essential to consider the child's comfort, age appropriateness, and the potential for confusion or discomfort in others. Instead, opt for age-appropriate clothing that allows the child to express their individuality while also respecting social norms and their own boundaries.

Anonymous wrote:Something like this. It is a religious ceremony so be covered up. Not too frilly a dress. If needed cover with a cardigan for the ceremony.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP

None of the dresses are right on this thread.

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/un-deux-trois-kids-pleated-high-low-party-dress-big-kid/7204973?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=001

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-high-low-party-dress-big-kid/7621121?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=401

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-ruffle-satin-dress-big-kid/7507478?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=675

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/zunie-kids-lace-fit-flare-dress-big-girl/5836264?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=412

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-mesh-insert-skater-dress-big-kid/6835369?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=001

These seem right to me. Not old lady, but not bodycon either, and are appropriate for a service. These are also the kinds of dresses I see girls wearing at music recitals and awards ceremonies.

Anonymous wrote:OP- My child had a Bat Mitzvah this year and we have been to a lot. This thread is terrible- people are making things up or do not have teen girls or have not been to actual Bat Mitzvahs.

Like it or not, kids are wearing short, tight dresses. You can get one that is not quite as short or quite as tight (size up, or slight Aline on short dress), so it looks less skimpy. But that is what the majority of the kids are wearing.

Some posters are posting from Nordstrom Kids dept- that is fine if you have an early 7th grade 12 year old. OP said her daughter is 14!

This type of thing is what most girls wear to Bat Mitzvahs (like it or not, this is what they wear, and they where cute sneakers like Nikes with the dress, little sweater over it for service). Mine always wear little bike shorts under the dress. The ones that wear dresses like in some of the early links look ridiculous.

https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-square-neck-linen-mini-dress/516286773

https://www.dillards.com/p/b.-darlin-one-shoulder-ruched-side-bodycon-dress/512639722

Katie J is very trendy, you can size up to have the dress not be as short (but these are pricier than Dillards/Macys):

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-maddy-sequin-dress-big-kid?ID=4490784&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-ava-dress-big-kid?ID=4091572&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-tween-scarlett-nylon-stretch-ruched-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4951862&CategoryID=3866

If you want less tight:
https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-textured-sleeveless-wrap-dress/513070804

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-cali-crepe-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4200428&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/city-studios-juniors-double-strap-v-neck-skater-dress?ID=16287072

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/crystal-doll-juniors-tulle-sleeve-a-line-dress?ID=16540472&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_A~xcm_choiceId~zcidM05RUB-323dbc55-2cb3-47bc-9e63-38108a5e9197%40HDI%40Others%2Byou%2Bmay%2Blike%2418109%2416540472~xcm_pos~zPos2~xcm_srcCatID~z18109

For morning service, without party right after:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-molly-long-sleeve-dress-big-kid?ID=4452984&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/bcx-juniors-flutter-sleeve-tiered-skirt-a-line-dress?ID=17350481

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/speechless-juniors-square-neck-mesh-tiered-skirt-dress?ID=17262326

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- My child had a Bat Mitzvah this year and we have been to a lot. This thread is terrible- people are making things up or do not have teen girls or have not been to actual Bat Mitzvahs.

Like it or not, kids are wearing short, tight dresses. You can get one that is not quite as short or quite as tight (size up, or slight Aline on short dress), so it looks less skimpy. But that is what the majority of the kids are wearing.

Some posters are posting from Nordstrom Kids dept- that is fine if you have an early 7th grade 12 year old. OP said her daughter is 14!

This type of thing is what most girls wear to Bat Mitzvahs (like it or not, this is what they wear, and they where cute sneakers like Nikes with the dress, little sweater over it for service). Mine always wear little bike shorts under the dress. The ones that wear dresses like in some of the early links look ridiculous.

https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-square-neck-linen-mini-dress/516286773

https://www.dillards.com/p/b.-darlin-one-shoulder-ruched-side-bodycon-dress/512639722

Katie J is very trendy, you can size up to have the dress not be as short (but these are pricier than Dillards/Macys):

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-maddy-sequin-dress-big-kid?ID=4490784&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-ava-dress-big-kid?ID=4091572&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-tween-scarlett-nylon-stretch-ruched-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4951862&CategoryID=3866

If you want less tight:
https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-textured-sleeveless-wrap-dress/513070804

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-cali-crepe-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4200428&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/city-studios-juniors-double-strap-v-neck-skater-dress?ID=16287072

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/crystal-doll-juniors-tulle-sleeve-a-line-dress?ID=16540472&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_A~xcm_choiceId~zcidM05RUB-323dbc55-2cb3-47bc-9e63-38108a5e9197%40HDI%40Others%2Byou%2Bmay%2Blike%2418109%2416540472~xcm_pos~zPos2~xcm_srcCatID~z18109

For morning service, without party right after:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-molly-long-sleeve-dress-big-kid?ID=4452984&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/bcx-juniors-flutter-sleeve-tiered-skirt-a-line-dress?ID=17350481

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/speechless-juniors-square-neck-mesh-tiered-skirt-dress?ID=17262326

Are you crazy? They’re 14 not 24!

Anonymous wrote:+1 on short tight dresses. Wear with sneakers. This is what EVERY girl does. My daughter went to one last night and some ever wore off the shoulder sweatshirts over the dresses when it got dark.