There’s nothing wrong with OP going to her son. Those who are pathologizing it are triggered for their own reasons. There’s also nothing wrong with not going. We all have our own unique relationships with our kids.

I do think 20 year olds are still learning to navigate the health care system. Heck, many adults find it difficult! It’s a vulnerable time, and it’s not infantilizing your kid to keep them company at the hospital, at any age.

Hope your DS is on the mend, OP.

I wonder how many posters in this thread were or are SAHMs that feel lost without a child to take care of.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is a worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

I don’t think OP is a worrier with anxiety.

She was up all night by her own admission, and now is posting on Dcum as an outlet. If course she has anxiety.

Stop the Tik Tok psychology. Being anxious about a sick child in the ER does not equal anxiety. It’s totally normal. Christ, this generation has trashed psychology with all the pathologizing BS.

Strep turns into Scarlet Fever and being with a loved one in the hospital is the most normal thing to do. And everyone needs an advocate when they’re hospitalized.

No, most adults would not expect or want someone to drive 2.5 hours to be with them in the hospital unless they're in serious condition. The OP's son isn't even admitted!

Scarlet fever is serious. Are you 20?

2.5 hour drive is not a big deal. It’s not much longer than some people’s work commutes here.

Scarlet fever is serious? Did you grow up before antibiotics were developed? It's only potentially serious if left untreated, which isn't the case here. If the culture is positive, they'll give him antibiotics.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is a worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

I don’t think OP is a worrier with anxiety.

She was up all night by her own admission, and now is posting on Dcum as an outlet. If course she has anxiety.

Stop the Tik Tok psychology. Being anxious about a sick child in the ER does not equal anxiety. It’s totally normal. Christ, this generation has trashed psychology with all the pathologizing BS.

Strep turns into Scarlet Fever and being with a loved one in the hospital is the most normal thing to do. And everyone needs an advocate when they’re hospitalized.

No, most adults would not expect or want someone to drive 2.5 hours to be with them in the hospital unless they're in serious condition. The OP's son isn't even admitted!

Scarlet fever is serious. Are you 20?

2.5 hour drive is not a big deal. It’s not much longer than some people’s work commutes here.

Where did the OP say the son was diagnosed with scarlet fever?

Why do you think the college kid called his mom?

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is a worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

I don’t think OP is a worrier with anxiety.

She was up all night by her own admission, and now is posting on Dcum as an outlet. If course she has anxiety.

Stop the Tik Tok psychology. Being anxious about a sick child in the ER does not equal anxiety. It’s totally normal. Christ, this generation has trashed psychology with all the pathologizing BS.

Strep turns into Scarlet Fever and being with a loved one in the hospital is the most normal thing to do. And everyone needs an advocate when they’re hospitalized.

No, most adults would not expect or want someone to drive 2.5 hours to be with them in the hospital unless they're in serious condition. The OP's son isn't even admitted!

Scarlet fever is serious. Are you 20?

2.5 hour drive is not a big deal. It’s not much longer than some people’s work commutes here.

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OP, if your son authorizes it the RN and/or emergency room doc can talk to you on the phone and give you an update.

Anonymous wrote:I was sick at the emergency room 2 weeks ago. They pushed and did every test under the sun. They ended up rehydrating me. My bill came to $2500. Having a lay person with me would not have changed any outcomes.

And everyone’s illness, underlying conditions ,treatment, and experience is exactly like yours. Sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is a worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

I don’t think OP is a worrier with anxiety.

She was up all night by her own admission, and now is posting on Dcum as an outlet. If course she has anxiety.

Stop the Tik Tok psychology. Being anxious about a sick child in the ER does not equal anxiety. It’s totally normal. Christ, this generation has trashed psychology with all the pathologizing BS.

Strep turns into Scarlet Fever and being with a loved one in the hospital is the most normal thing to do. And everyone needs an advocate when they’re hospitalized.

No, most adults would not expect or want someone to drive 2.5 hours to be with them in the hospital unless they're in serious condition. The OP's son isn't even admitted!

I was sick at the emergency room 2 weeks ago. They pushed and did every test under the sun. They ended up rehydrating me. My bill came to $2500. Having a lay person with me would not have changed any outcomes.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the age, every person in the ER who is sick needs a patient advocate. When you are sick and exhausted you just aren’t in the best state of mind to navigate the system. Mistakes happen all the time even with an excellent medical team - they are just overwhelmed.

He has his roommates with him who can advocate for him.

20 year old college guys? Haha.

I'd take that over a hysterical mother any day. Hands down.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the age, every person in the ER who is sick needs a patient advocate. When you are sick and exhausted you just aren’t in the best state of mind to navigate the system. Mistakes happen all the time even with an excellent medical team - they are just overwhelmed.

He has his roommates with him who can advocate for him.

20 year old college guys? Haha.

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the age, every person in the ER who is sick needs a patient advocate. When you are sick and exhausted you just aren’t in the best state of mind to navigate the system. Mistakes happen all the time even with an excellent medical team - they are just overwhelmed.

+1 I would go with my DH, a friend, a relative…plus at 20 they are still learning to navigate this stuff. It’s not 25.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is a worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

I don’t think OP is a worrier with anxiety.

She was up all night by her own admission, and now is posting on Dcum as an outlet. If course she has anxiety.

Stop the Tik Tok psychology. Being anxious about a sick child in the ER does not equal anxiety. It’s totally normal. Christ, this generation has trashed psychology with all the pathologizing BS.

Strep turns into Scarlet Fever and being with a loved one in the hospital is the most normal thing to do. And everyone needs an advocate when they’re hospitalized.