Anonymous wrote:First kid did unusually well, admitted to HYPS without a hook. A couple of parents ghosted me forever, and a couple more went out of their way to share their views on my child’s social/emotional deficiencies. A couple were genuinely happy for her. You definitely learn who your friends are!

Mom here. I myself got into HYPSM back in the day, and got some interesting reactions. A close high school friend ghosted me. Friends/acquaintances of my parents grilled me on how their kids could get in too. Local newspaper did a profile on me.

This is why people who go to these schools will say "I go to school in Boston..."

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, particularly the ones with unfair hooks

Which hooks are fair?

The ones that help my kid.

Yes totally jealous if my kid is rejected or deferred and theirs gets in. Who isn't? Am I defective?

Anonymous wrote:First kid did unusually well, admitted to HYPS without a hook. A couple of parents ghosted me forever, and a couple more went out of their way to share their views on my child’s social/emotional deficiencies. A couple were genuinely happy for her. You definitely learn who your friends are!

That’s awful! Wtf is wrong with people?

I am currently on a trip with my child who is auditioning for performing arts scholarships at schools this board would laugh at. In the middle of this, I got a text from a teacher begging her to turn in her assignments so she doesn’t get a D in her class.

So even though she managed to get a couple acceptances, I now think I have to tell my child with ADHD and associated other issues we’re not throwing money down a black hole when she is going to have to fight to just graduate high school at this point. If she can’t take school seriously now, I’m not assuming she’s going to magically figure it out next fall.

I am more envious that other people have kids that don’t struggle so darn much. I was a kid that did well in school without much effort, so this child has been such a challenge as a parent because I truly do not understand her and what makes her tick.

I guess my child will be getting a job and going to community college now. Yes, I am sad and frustrated

The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer?

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Anonymous wrote:Three pages of posters who don’t know the difference between jealousy and envy, yet think that their kid should have gotten into a better school…..

Shut up nerd. We know what OP meant.

Every single poster compounded the error. If you’re not smart enough to understand the difference, how can you expect your kids to get in to the college of their choice?

Okay, stickler. Okay.

Thinking through this.

I like my kids' friends and I think I'll be genuinely thrilled for all of them--no jealousy--just happy feelings.

Now I'll be jealous of some of the parents. A few of them are kind of nuts. Some have college expectations that are way off base. For instance, my kid has a friend whose ridiculously snobby mom just took the kid (A-/B+, non legacy) to visit Yale and Princeton and posted non-stop about it online. If that kids gets into those schools, I will be jealous of the mom and her ability to will something into existence. But even then I'll be happy for the kid.

Thinking through this.

I like my kids' friends and I think I'll be genuinely thrilled for all of them--no jealousy--just happy feelings.

Now I'll be jealous of some of the parents. A few of them are kind of nuts. Some have college expectations that are way off base. For instance, my kid has a friend whose ridiculously snobby mom just took the kid (A-/B+, non legacy) to visit Yale and Princeton and posted non-stop about it online. If that kids gets into those schools, I will be jealous of the mom and her ability to will something into existence. But even then I'll be happy for the kid.

Anonymous wrote:This is an anonymous forum, so let’s be real: do you get jealous when your kids’ friends and classmates get admitted to more prestigious colleges than your kids?

No. What’s the point in that.

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Anonymous wrote:First kid did unusually well, admitted to HYPS without a hook. A couple of parents ghosted me forever, and a couple more went out of their way to share their views on my child’s social/emotional deficiencies. A couple were genuinely happy for her. You definitely learn who your friends are!

This is why ivy kids and parents learn to be quiet - except with those who are secure in themselves.

+1. Agree. You learn so much by occasionally reading the DCUM troll posts regarding the top schools - so much misinformation. You also learn so much about the posters, and the kind of people who would post such things.

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Anonymous wrote:First kid did unusually well, admitted to HYPS without a hook. A couple of parents ghosted me forever, and a couple more went out of their way to share their views on my child’s social/emotional deficiencies. A couple were genuinely happy for her. You definitely learn who your friends are!

This is why ivy kids and parents learn to be quiet - except with those who are secure in themselves.

I told nobody. Word spreads very fast!

Anonymous wrote:First kid did unusually well, admitted to HYPS without a hook. A couple of parents ghosted me forever, and a couple more went out of their way to share their views on my child’s social/emotional deficiencies. A couple were genuinely happy for her. You definitely learn who your friends are!

This is why ivy kids and parents learn to be quiet - except with those who are secure in themselves.

First kid did unusually well, admitted to HYPS without a hook. A couple of parents ghosted me forever, and a couple more went out of their way to share their views on my child’s social/emotional deficiencies. A couple were genuinely happy for her. You definitely learn who your friends are!

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Anonymous wrote:No but people are jealous of me and where my kids got in.

But you and your kids are inferior in some other way and everyone judges you for that. Such is life.

PP is disgusting. What a loser...

Anonymous wrote:When they have much lower gpa and scores and not in equivalent ecs…all around much lower star candidates:

It pisses me off.

How do you even know what their gpa and ecs are?

I have close friends and I know what some of their kid's ECs are, but I have no idea what their GPAs are. I'm not going to be jealous of them because they're friends and I wish them well. People who are acquaintances, I simply have no idea what their kids do with their free time.