Anonymous
01/27/2024 16:58
Subject: Advice on twins in terms of college acceptances
OP, you sound like a great parent as do lots of the twin parents on this thread. Not a tein parent, but you'll figure this out with compassion and support for both. Good luck to both next year.
Anonymous
01/27/2024 16:57
Subject: Advice on twins in terms of college acceptances
It's fine.
You just let the results come in and deal with what you have when you know. They're both in, so that's a win. There is no getting shut out, but there might be sadness if one kid doesn't get into where they hoped to go the most.
Don't talk a lot about it unless they want to.
Don't do the "reassuring prep" of "it will be fine! You could get shut out, or you should get shut out..." it just projects your anxiety and they see right through it.
And do not mention rankings or prestige or anything. Just think of college as a generic brand and be glad your kids are gonna go.
You just let the results come in and deal with what you have when you know. They're both in, so that's a win. There is no getting shut out, but there might be sadness if one kid doesn't get into where they hoped to go the most.
Don't talk a lot about it unless they want to.
Don't do the "reassuring prep" of "it will be fine! You could get shut out, or you should get shut out..." it just projects your anxiety and they see right through it.
And do not mention rankings or prestige or anything. Just think of college as a generic brand and be glad your kids are gonna go.
Anonymous
01/27/2024 16:56
Subject: Advice on twins in terms of college acceptances
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Also have twins going through this process, with a much bigger divergence in terms of academic strength. One only applied to, and has been admitted to, a small college in FL specifically for kids with learning disabilities, while her sister has applied to a range of 10 more typical options, mostly in-state in VA. There is huge amount of FOMO happening with DD1 as the acceptances continue to roll in for DD2. Fearing things will get worse as we get into Admitted Students Days season, as I already have 2 overnight trips planned for DD2, and probably will do at least 2 more, while DD1 will just have the one trip. Trying my best to reassure her that this school is a great fit for her, and to get her to focus on that rather than what is going on with her sister, but it is certainly a challenge. Lots of love and support is the only advice I can give. Hang in there, it will all be good at the end of the day!!!
PP, not to hijack but can you please share the name of the small school in FL for kids with disabilities?
Beacon College, they are great! And have an awesome 3-week summer program for HS juniors and sophomores to try it out.
Thank you!
Anonymous
01/27/2024 16:53
Subject: Re:Advice on twins in terms of college acceptances
As an identical twin myself, I'm a little surprised you haven't taken the time and consideration to think about this long before now. They're like what, 18?