I mean how much control over your teen's diet are you able to have? Like you are watching the kitchen and counting fruit?

But if I bought a bin of strawberries on Monday. I would expect them to be there for my yogurt on Tuesday morning. I wouldn't just wait the next grocery run. I would ask who the heck ate all the strawberries, and are they not aware that other people in the house. The concept of "other people" needs to be taught

I would probably just buy a larger quantity of strawberries if I knew everyone would want some strawberries (well, OK, maybe not in January when they cost $7.00). I got through several pints of blueberries on my own every week (and no, this has not made me obese or diabetic).

When my older DD worked at Sweetgreen a few years back, she told me about a mom who screamed at her tween son for wanting a little spoonful of sliced strawberries on his salad because it was "so much sugar!" Knowing her, she probably snuck them in there. Hope the kid survived.

I catch my kids eating fruit, I confiscate it and make them shoot smack as God intended! And I take away their electronics too!

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Anonymous wrote:No limit on fruit. Usually it is good and all gone immediately or it isn’t and just sits there and eventually gets tossed.

The only problem is if you bought the fruit for the family.

It's not about controlling calories or sugar or anything like that. It's learning to share/think of others.

In our family, if you want something then help yourself. When it runs out, you just wait a few days until stock gets replenished. We don’t have any hoarders, but we also don’t have anyone who gets upset when things run out.

I guess.

But if I bought a bin of strawberries on Monday. I would expect them to be there for my yogurt on Tuesday morning. I wouldn't just wait the next grocery run. I would ask who the heck ate all the strawberries, and are they not aware that other people in the house. The concept of "other people" needs to be taught

This. I guess I am thankful I've not needed to explain this about regular foods. Its just not been an issue. We do impose limits on dessert foods, sugary drinks and empty calorie snacks (aka Goldfish.)

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Anonymous wrote:No limit on fruit. Usually it is good and all gone immediately or it isn’t and just sits there and eventually gets tossed.

The only problem is if you bought the fruit for the family.

It's not about controlling calories or sugar or anything like that. It's learning to share/think of others.

In our family, if you want something then help yourself. When it runs out, you just wait a few days until stock gets replenished. We don’t have any hoarders, but we also don’t have anyone who gets upset when things run out.

I guess.

But if I bought a bin of strawberries on Monday. I would expect them to be there for my yogurt on Tuesday morning. I wouldn't just wait the next grocery run. I would ask who the heck ate all the strawberries, and are they not aware that other people in the house. The concept of "other people" needs to be taught

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No limit on fruit. Usually it is good and all gone immediately or it isn’t and just sits there and eventually gets tossed.

The only problem is if you bought the fruit for the family.

It's not about controlling calories or sugar or anything like that. It's learning to share/think of others.

In our family, if you want something then help yourself. When it runs out, you just wait a few days until stock gets replenished. We don’t have any hoarders, but we also don’t have anyone who gets upset when things run out.

This is how we handle it too. Except for things like a birthday cake (save the leftover pieces for the next night) or items I label with sticky notes as being for a recipe, they can feel free to take what they want. If you want something we don’t have, add it to the grocery list or walk to the market and buy some.

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Anonymous wrote:No limit on fruit. Usually it is good and all gone immediately or it isn’t and just sits there and eventually gets tossed.

The only problem is if you bought the fruit for the family.

It's not about controlling calories or sugar or anything like that. It's learning to share/think of others.

In our family, if you want something then help yourself. When it runs out, you just wait a few days until stock gets replenished. We don’t have any hoarders, but we also don’t have anyone who gets upset when things run out.

Yes and the only things I would put any type of restriction on (soda and artificial beverages for example) I don’t bring into the house in large quantities. That doesn’t mean I’m buying 7 bags of clementines and I may put half the bag out wait a day or two to put the other half out (if the kids want them badly enough they can grab them from the fridge) but I will also have bananas, grapes, kiwi, apples etc. available. Restricting food makes food an issue. We have plenty of treats ice cream, cookies etc. and the kids are good at regulating their intake of those but they don’t need to ask permission or hide/feel guilty about their consumption.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m convinced this thread was written by and for the anti-Stanley cup moms.

A lot of posters are projecting their own issues on this thread. The op was a pretty basic question.

Use of the word “allow” in this context is pretty gross.

Really?
Pretty sure anyone whose teens are currently interesting clementines by the bag is not currently locking the cupboard. To not "allow" unlimited would probably look like "hey guys, I'm buying you each a three pound bag a week."

No, the connotation of “allow” is that the stuff is sitting there to be doled out or not depending on the largesse or caprice of the parent.

Anonymous wrote:Nah, some people are very controlling and disordered. It’s okay to acknowledge that.

Eating an entire bag of clementines in a day is also disordered.

Anonymous wrote:No limit on fruit. Usually it is good and all gone immediately or it isn’t and just sits there and eventually gets tossed.

The only problem is if you bought the fruit for the family.

It's not about controlling calories or sugar or anything like that. It's learning to share/think of others.

No limit on fruit. Usually it is good and all gone immediately or it isn’t and just sits there and eventually gets tossed.

I will never forget the time I saw on this very forum someone refer to grapes as "sugar bombs." Some of you need help.

Nah, some people are very controlling and disordered. It’s okay to acknowledge that.

What other food is available?