Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 11:37     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
I’m 38 and look great for my age, but no one would ever actually mistake me for a 20-something. My daughters school friends say i look 25, bless them, but that’s because I had my kids young (at least by insane NWDC standards) and what they actually mean is I’m 10 years younger than the median mom at this school. They have no idea what actual 25yos look like.

My husband, on the other hand, legitimately elicits genuine shock when people find out his actual age. He’s in great shape, dresses well, and doesn’t have grey hair, but I’m afraid his main secret is basically being Asian.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 11:27     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:I definitely look younger. How much is up for grabs. Men tell me late 20s. I’m 38 though. So not quite old old yet, so obviously that helps.

I have olive white skin skin. I had a baby face which now has thinned out to look like high cheekbones. I’m in shape and avoid the sun.

Both things can be true. What 40-50 used to look like was like a granny with a short hair cut and overweight. If you don’t look like that you already look good. Then of on top of that you have good genetics, you can been seen as younger. Sadly though, only for so long. I probably can only pull off late 20s until my 40s and then I’m on 30s and so on. At some point, you just age and it sucks!


That's not how it works. In your 40s, you will look 40. It's not that hard to tell how most people age especially when you stand next to someone who actually is in their 30s. There are plenty of tells.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 11:22     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
I definitely look younger. How much is up for grabs. Men tell me late 20s. I’m 38 though. So not quite old old yet, so obviously that helps.

I have olive white skin skin. I had a baby face which now has thinned out to look like high cheekbones. I’m in shape and avoid the sun.

Both things can be true. What 40-50 used to look like was like a granny with a short hair cut and overweight. If you don’t look like that you already look good. Then of on top of that you have good genetics, you can been seen as younger. Sadly though, only for so long. I probably can only pull off late 20s until my 40s and then I’m on 30s and so on. At some point, you just age and it sucks!
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 10:59     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm really immature, which makes it hard to guess my age. Jowls come for us all at some point though!




Well it's either jowls or sinking. Nobody in my family has jowls, instead we get really...gaunt? Like hollow eyes, cheekbones TOO sharp, you can see all the bones and tendons in our neck.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 10:55     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have many friends and sisters and colleagues my age, 45. I know a ton of women. Most are professional, affluent, healthy and happy. Many are diverse. All of them look their age. Many look good for their age. But they look their age. The only women I know in real life, not these DCUM legends in their own minds who I suspect may just be delusional, who look a decade younger in reality own medical spas, do Pilates, do laser facials, have extensions, microblading, and extensive work done and make themselves their full time job. The rest of you, you look 45. Trust me. You do. I myself look great. But 45.


Exactly! They look like 45 year old women who take are if themselves and haven’t let themselves go. Not someone who is 35, no matter how thin and fit they are, hate dye they use, how much they’re stayed out of the sun, Botox, tret sunscreen, etc.

Ladies, you still look your age but just like you have maintained your appearance. At least to other women…I think some ( straight ) men may assume you are younger because they are generally simpletons when it comes to these things.


This is hilarious!

Because some posters can’t accept that there are some middle aged women who do look a decade younger, they have decided to label those women delusional and straight men simpletons.

It’s okay if you look your age. There’s going to be a range of some women who look younger and some who look older. Maybe most women fall right at the looks their age spot, but there are outliers.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 10:11     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Good genes, lasers, Botox, retinA. Never smoked. Drink just a few times a year. I drink a good amount of water and wear sunscreen every day.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 09:12     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have many friends and sisters and colleagues my age, 45. I know a ton of women. Most are professional, affluent, healthy and happy. Many are diverse. All of them look their age. Many look good for their age. But they look their age. The only women I know in real life, not these DCUM legends in their own minds who I suspect may just be delusional, who look a decade younger in reality own medical spas, do Pilates, do laser facials, have extensions, microblading, and extensive work done and make themselves their full time job. The rest of you, you look 45. Trust me. You do. I myself look great. But 45.


Exactly! They look like 45 year old women who take are if themselves and haven’t let themselves go. Not someone who is 35, no matter how thin and fit they are, hate dye they use, how much they’re stayed out of the sun, Botox, tret sunscreen, etc.

Ladies, you still look your age but just like you have maintained your appearance. At least to other women…I think some ( straight ) men may assume you are younger because they are generally simpletons when it comes to these things.


Yep. Agree with this. I'm 49 and live in NW DC. My kids attend two different "Big3" or top privates. I probably know 300 women in their 40s and 50s and almost all are affluent, trim, and have kept up with all preventative and corrective maintenance. They're all races and nationalities. I can tell you that 99.99% of them look their age--which I mean they look within the correct decade of their age or within 5 years of their age. Many look GREAT! for their age. But no one looks 30. They just don't.
I don't---although I'm thin, toned, take estrogen daily and have great skin and no menopause body, good hair, light Botox. But I don't look like my 30 year old self.
I have people all the time say "oh, you don't look 50!" but it means I don't look like their idea of a grandmotherly 50. Or their mom at 50. Because usually these people are in their 20s or 30s and when they think 50, they think "old lady in rhinestones and elastic waist pants and Christmas sweaters." That's not me (or anyone of my age these days) but it doesn't mean I look 30.




Ha, earlier poster and same, also with kids at various “big 3” schools. These ladies are at thr top of their game, folks. And they look their age. Even the gasp! Ones with melanin. Also, if you are dying your hair very dark past like 35, stop. It is horrifically aging. No matter what you may think.


Wow. I guess Asians, Latinas, and blacks should start going blond at 36 according to you.


They should add dimension with a professional colorist, yeah. An overall dark dye is harsh and aging.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 08:49     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have many friends and sisters and colleagues my age, 45. I know a ton of women. Most are professional, affluent, healthy and happy. Many are diverse. All of them look their age. Many look good for their age. But they look their age. The only women I know in real life, not these DCUM legends in their own minds who I suspect may just be delusional, who look a decade younger in reality own medical spas, do Pilates, do laser facials, have extensions, microblading, and extensive work done and make themselves their full time job. The rest of you, you look 45. Trust me. You do. I myself look great. But 45.


Exactly! They look like 45 year old women who take are if themselves and haven’t let themselves go. Not someone who is 35, no matter how thin and fit they are, hate dye they use, how much they’re stayed out of the sun, Botox, tret sunscreen, etc.

Ladies, you still look your age but just like you have maintained your appearance. At least to other women…I think some ( straight ) men may assume you are younger because they are generally simpletons when it comes to these things.


Yep. Agree with this. I'm 49 and live in NW DC. My kids attend two different "Big3" or top privates. I probably know 300 women in their 40s and 50s and almost all are affluent, trim, and have kept up with all preventative and corrective maintenance. They're all races and nationalities. I can tell you that 99.99% of them look their age--which I mean they look within the correct decade of their age or within 5 years of their age. Many look GREAT! for their age. But no one looks 30. They just don't.
I don't---although I'm thin, toned, take estrogen daily and have great skin and no menopause body, good hair, light Botox. But I don't look like my 30 year old self.
I have people all the time say "oh, you don't look 50!" but it means I don't look like their idea of a grandmotherly 50. Or their mom at 50. Because usually these people are in their 20s or 30s and when they think 50, they think "old lady in rhinestones and elastic waist pants and Christmas sweaters." That's not me (or anyone of my age these days) but it doesn't mean I look 30.




Ha, earlier poster and same, also with kids at various “big 3” schools. These ladies are at thr top of their game, folks. And they look their age. Even the gasp! Ones with melanin. Also, if you are dying your hair very dark past like 35, stop. It is horrifically aging. No matter what you may think.


Wow. I guess Asians, Latinas, and blacks should start going blond at 36 according to you.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 08:46     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have many friends and sisters and colleagues my age, 45. I know a ton of women. Most are professional, affluent, healthy and happy. Many are diverse. All of them look their age. Many look good for their age. But they look their age. The only women I know in real life, not these DCUM legends in their own minds who I suspect may just be delusional, who look a decade younger in reality own medical spas, do Pilates, do laser facials, have extensions, microblading, and extensive work done and make themselves their full time job. The rest of you, you look 45. Trust me. You do. I myself look great. But 45.


Exactly! They look like 45 year old women who take are if themselves and haven’t let themselves go. Not someone who is 35, no matter how thin and fit they are, hate dye they use, how much they’re stayed out of the sun, Botox, tret sunscreen, etc.

Ladies, you still look your age but just like you have maintained your appearance. At least to other women…I think some ( straight ) men may assume you are younger because they are generally simpletons when it comes to these things.


Yep. Agree with this. I'm 49 and live in NW DC. My kids attend two different "Big3" or top privates. I probably know 300 women in their 40s and 50s and almost all are affluent, trim, and have kept up with all preventative and corrective maintenance. They're all races and nationalities. I can tell you that 99.99% of them look their age--which I mean they look within the correct decade of their age or within 5 years of their age. Many look GREAT! for their age. But no one looks 30. They just don't.
I don't---although I'm thin, toned, take estrogen daily and have great skin and no menopause body, good hair, light Botox. But I don't look like my 30 year old self.
I have people all the time say "oh, you don't look 50!" but it means I don't look like their idea of a grandmotherly 50. Or their mom at 50. Because usually these people are in their 20s or 30s and when they think 50, they think "old lady in rhinestones and elastic waist pants and Christmas sweaters." That's not me (or anyone of my age these days) but it doesn't mean I look 30.




Ha, earlier poster and same, also with kids at various “big 3” schools. These ladies are at thr top of their game, folks. And they look their age. Even the gasp! Ones with melanin. Also, if you are dying your hair very dark past like 35, stop. It is horrifically aging. No matter what you may think.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 08:33     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:What are your beauty secrets and practices?


Good genes is the number one factor for me. But I'm also overweight, so my face is not gaunt and I honestly think that helps.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 08:30     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have many friends and sisters and colleagues my age, 45. I know a ton of women. Most are professional, affluent, healthy and happy. Many are diverse. All of them look their age. Many look good for their age. But they look their age. The only women I know in real life, not these DCUM legends in their own minds who I suspect may just be delusional, who look a decade younger in reality own medical spas, do Pilates, do laser facials, have extensions, microblading, and extensive work done and make themselves their full time job. The rest of you, you look 45. Trust me. You do. I myself look great. But 45.


Exactly! They look like 45 year old women who take are if themselves and haven’t let themselves go. Not someone who is 35, no matter how thin and fit they are, hate dye they use, how much they’re stayed out of the sun, Botox, tret sunscreen, etc.

Ladies, you still look your age but just like you have maintained your appearance. At least to other women…I think some ( straight ) men may assume you are younger because they are generally simpletons when it comes to these things.


Yep. Agree with this. I'm 49 and live in NW DC. My kids attend two different "Big3" or top privates. I probably know 300 women in their 40s and 50s and almost all are affluent, trim, and have kept up with all preventative and corrective maintenance. They're all races and nationalities. I can tell you that 99.99% of them look their age--which I mean they look within the correct decade of their age or within 5 years of their age. Many look GREAT! for their age. But no one looks 30. They just don't.
I don't---although I'm thin, toned, take estrogen daily and have great skin and no menopause body, good hair, light Botox. But I don't look like my 30 year old self.
I have people all the time say "oh, you don't look 50!" but it means I don't look like their idea of a grandmotherly 50. Or their mom at 50. Because usually these people are in their 20s or 30s and when they think 50, they think "old lady in rhinestones and elastic waist pants and Christmas sweaters." That's not me (or anyone of my age these days) but it doesn't mean I look 30.


Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 07:57     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Color the gray hair I’ve had since I turned 30.

always worn large sunglasses year round so no wrinkles from squinting.

Always wear sunblock on my face

I’m not skinny so my face isn’t gaunt.

My skin was oily when younger and that’s supposed to show less age as well.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 07:55     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:To everyone crowing about "no wrinkles". I hate to break it to you, but wrinkles are not the only marker of aging. Loss of facial fat, skin laxity, the beginnings of jowls and nasolabial folds, neck bands, etc... these things give away your age even if your hair isn't white and your skin is smooth. Post-menopause, add a thicker middle to that list. I have yet to meet a person over 50 of any race that doesn't have at least some of the items that I listed.


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 07:50     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have many friends and sisters and colleagues my age, 45. I know a ton of women. Most are professional, affluent, healthy and happy. Many are diverse. All of them look their age. Many look good for their age. But they look their age. The only women I know in real life, not these DCUM legends in their own minds who I suspect may just be delusional, who look a decade younger in reality own medical spas, do Pilates, do laser facials, have extensions, microblading, and extensive work done and make themselves their full time job. The rest of you, you look 45. Trust me. You do. I myself look great. But 45.


Exactly! They look like 45 year old women who take are if themselves and haven’t let themselves go. Not someone who is 35, no matter how thin and fit they are, hate dye they use, how much they’re stayed out of the sun, Botox, tret sunscreen, etc.

Ladies, you still look your age but just like you have maintained your appearance. At least to other women…I think some ( straight ) men may assume you are younger because they are generally simpletons when it comes to these things.


DP - even among 45 year old women who take care of themselves, there's variation in what that looks like. How well their skin looks alone can make a difference between a 45 year old looking 50 vs. looking 40.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 07:33     Subject: If people regularly think you look a decade younger
Anonymous wrote:I have many friends and sisters and colleagues my age, 45. I know a ton of women. Most are professional, affluent, healthy and happy. Many are diverse. All of them look their age. Many look good for their age. But they look their age. The only women I know in real life, not these DCUM legends in their own minds who I suspect may just be delusional, who look a decade younger in reality own medical spas, do Pilates, do laser facials, have extensions, microblading, and extensive work done and make themselves their full time job. The rest of you, you look 45. Trust me. You do. I myself look great. But 45.


Exactly! They look like 45 year old women who take are if themselves and haven’t let themselves go. Not someone who is 35, no matter how thin and fit they are, hate dye they use, how much they’re stayed out of the sun, Botox, tret sunscreen, etc.

Ladies, you still look your age but just like you have maintained your appearance. At least to other women…I think some ( straight ) men may assume you are younger because they are generally simpletons when it comes to these things.