Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 15:32     Subject: Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you so much everyone!

I definitely need to say something. I'm deciding between an anonymous email to the counselor or anonymous email to my friend. Which would you do?


Neither OP. Tell your friend directly. This is a community. I agree with a pp that a lot of people already know about it. A friend's kid was dealing drugs and it was common knowledge. A bunch of people told the kid's parents, including neighbors and friends. A bunch of our parents in our group have had to share bad news with other families. Some are more receptive than others, but we take the village approach. Be casual and factual, and express how much you like the girl and that it's hard for you to disclose this, but you would want to know the same.


Ok with more of this detail, I may send an anonymous email saying that your daughter is selling drugs and send the link to the account.

I would not want to be involved and don’t want my child involved. I would protect my child first.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 14:26     Subject: Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you so much everyone!

I definitely need to say something. I'm deciding between an anonymous email to the counselor or anonymous email to my friend. Which would you do?


Counselor and principal of school.


Counselor. I did this regarding some potential self harm at a younger age, that was reported by my daughter. I did tell my daughter that I had to talk to a professional about it and that she did the right thing. Again, she was much younger. My one regret is trusting the counselor with my daughters name because she did not maintain confidentiality -so I support the anonymous email idea.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 14:12     Subject: Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP again. I love my best friend but I need to 100 percent make sure I'm protecting my DD too.


This involves drugs and possibly guns and minors. All illegal activities. There is no anonymous, even with a fake gmail. Don’t complicate the situation more with fake gmail addresses when the investigation happens.

Tell your daughter you will be telling the parents and then you can always say you found out by going through your daughter’s phone.


Telling the parents is dumb. It's also a risk that someone might violently retaliate against your child. People who own guns and who have a business to protect. Don't play hero here, OP, stakes are too high.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 14:09     Subject: Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you everyone. My friends DD is purchasing drugs and is reselling them to other kids. There is a social media account where people contact the child and the girl has been hanging out with people who own guns. My DD also said that the child’s co dealer got jumped with a gun.

I need to tell my best friend and also protect my DD confidences.


I'd worry about protecting your child not only socially but also re: physical safety in light of the above.

I'd tell her to steer clear of the girl.

Not sure I'd act given the potential for violent retaliation against my own child.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 13:58     Subject: Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I definitely definitely would not tell the school. They have obligations to other students.

Tell the mom. The police will know soon if they don’t already (this is never kept quiet) and she could get arrested and ruin her life. This warrants telling the mom and I hope you daughter understands.


Awesome, let's aid and abet a teen ruining the lives of everyone around her, because she's... a pretty girl?

Don't the victims lives matter?


+1000. I’d call the police immediately.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 13:42     Subject: Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
Anonymous wrote:Also, this kid is dealing drugs and hanging out with people with guns. Police should be involved. Looking the other way doesn't help society.


+1 NP
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 13:14     Subject: Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
Also, this kid is dealing drugs and hanging out with people with guns. Police should be involved. Looking the other way doesn't help society.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 13:13     Subject: Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
Anonymous wrote:You don’t op

You go to the non emergency police number and you get advice

Telling her parents is stupid

You think those people with guns are not coming for your kid the narc?

This is not simple her parents are stupid she has a ton of cash they haven’t noticed give me a break

You call the police or you hav3 the school do it but do not call her parents!

And why on the world have you not noticed this friend is not a good kid. No one hides drug dealing that well. Your kid has shitty friends


THE BOLDED!
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 12:25     Subject: Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
Your #1 priority in this situation is to protect your kid. Not your BFF or her kid. If your friend is that naive to not know what's going on under her own nose, that's on her.

Think very carefully about how you proceed.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 12:24     Subject: Re:Need to Tell my Best Friend Something Anonymously About Her Child
I would not do anything in writing. I would only do it by word of mouth.