Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 09:28     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Not necessarily someone’s whole personality, but I don’t like Rainbow Baby posters. I understand it was terrible to have a miscarriage (I had some myself), but your surviving child’s identity should not be tied at all to the fact you had a miscarriage.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 09:22     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Anonymous wrote:Sports. The Eagles. The Steelers. Whatever.


This is so true, especially at work. It’s all we ever hear about. I’m so over it.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 09:15     Subject: Re:Annoying things people make their whole personality

Anonymous wrote:People in therapy


OMG! Yes! Most people do NOT need to go to therapy. Going to therapy is not something to be proud of and is not something that should be talked about publicly. I have several friends who go to therapy and I have to try not to visibly cringe when they talk about it. Sometimes I want to scream at them, "Stop talking about your therapist!"
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 09:14     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Sports. The Eagles. The Steelers. Whatever.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 09:09     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Travel people. I’m a millennial and I don’t know how common this is with other age groups but the wanderlust/I have to be planning a trip or on one people are so annoying. Nothing against vacationing or traveling to interesting places but that, in itself, is not a personality.


+1

You are supposed to travel for yourself, not for bragging rights, but travel has somehow turned into a bragging rights thing, which is shameful.


This is the problem with our whole society now. Everything has turned into a competition. Travel, parenting, working, remodeling. The “Look at me! I do X better than you!” phenomenon. And the fact that all these things appear contagious. If neighbor A and B remodel their kitchen, you just know which neighbors C and D will soon follow, even if they hadn’t previously discussed it.


I don't know if the whole society is like this, but certainly the DMV. It sucks the joy out of a lot of stuff.


+1

Self proclaimed "foodies" (or whatever they call them now) too.


Striver culture in DC is a whole thing. I knew a woman whose "thing" was knowing all the hot new bars and restaurants. If a new bar or restaurant opened, she'd get mad if someone she knew went there before she did. This extended to travel, too, of course. She was friends with some of my friends so I saw her often and talking to her was so tedious.

But, relevant to this conversation, she later had a baby and now when we see her all she talks about is her kid and parenting and schools and activities and if someone mentions a vacation or a new restaurant, she loudly proclaims "WHO has the time or energy for that stuff with kids?!" Even though all of us have kids.

It's aaaaaaaall insecurity.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 09:01     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Soccer moms (also football/baseball/basketball/lacrosse/cheer moms)

Parents where the kids sport dominates their entire family’s lives, and it’s all they talk about and can relate to. Very one-dimensional .
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 08:47     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Travel people. I’m a millennial and I don’t know how common this is with other age groups but the wanderlust/I have to be planning a trip or on one people are so annoying. Nothing against vacationing or traveling to interesting places but that, in itself, is not a personality.


+1

You are supposed to travel for yourself, not for bragging rights, but travel has somehow turned into a bragging rights thing, which is shameful.


This is the problem with our whole society now. Everything has turned into a competition. Travel, parenting, working, remodeling. The “Look at me! I do X better than you!” phenomenon. And the fact that all these things appear contagious. If neighbor A and B remodel their kitchen, you just know which neighbors C and D will soon follow, even if they hadn’t previously discussed it.


I don't know if the whole society is like this, but certainly the DMV. It sucks the joy out of a lot of stuff.


+1

Self proclaimed "foodies" (or whatever they call them now) too.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 08:46     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:The kind of cancer survivors who use it as a trump card or demand that everybody praise their courage. Persevering through medical treatment is an amazing thing, I am sincerely happy for them and wish all the best. But people survive all kinds of life threatening conditions without making it their identity.


It's narcissism. I have a family member whose cancer resolved 20 years ago, and it's still all about her cancer.


There are a lot of people who make an old trauma their whole personality. I know a woman who had a premie her a decade ago, and went on to have two more kids, and it's still her "thing." As her kid gets older I feel like it gets more and more awkward -- this child is healthy and fine and has no memory of any of this, but her mom brings it up all the time.


Oh wow, this really is sad -- poor kid (for having to listen)!
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 08:45     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Travel people. I’m a millennial and I don’t know how common this is with other age groups but the wanderlust/I have to be planning a trip or on one people are so annoying. Nothing against vacationing or traveling to interesting places but that, in itself, is not a personality.


+1

You are supposed to travel for yourself, not for bragging rights, but travel has somehow turned into a bragging rights thing, which is shameful.


This is the problem with our whole society now. Everything has turned into a competition. Travel, parenting, working, remodeling. The “Look at me! I do X better than you!” phenomenon. And the fact that all these things appear contagious. If neighbor A and B remodel their kitchen, you just know which neighbors C and D will soon follow, even if they hadn’t previously discussed it.


+1

PP here. Agree. Social media society is so sad. Live your life without having to post about it - undoubtedly yelling from the rooftops as if you are the first to have been there or done that. So many look at mes - especially in the DMV area. My God, they have to take ten minutes and multiple maneuvers just to back into a parking space, to get the attention mommy and daddy never gave them. Sit down already.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 08:40     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Anonymous wrote:Live in the city people. The ones who are most invested in identifying that way often moved here from elsewhere.

DC native and I love it, but I often feel like the place I grew up with is completely different from the one I read about on DCUM.


That’s because most people who post on DCUM don’t live in DC, or any city. They live in the suburbs.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 08:24     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Improv
Marathon running
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 08:22     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being chronically ill with something bizarre (Ehler Danlos anyone) yet simultaneously constantly traveling/hiking


I know dove one who claims to have ED it’s so odd. She posts about its ll the time an age with the friend with “ fibromyalgia”.


Huh? Want to rewrite this?
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 08:15     Subject: Re:Annoying things people make their whole personality

People in therapy
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 08:12     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Mom with kids who have food allergies
Hating trump

Anonymous
Post 12/10/2023 07:50     Subject: Annoying things people make their whole personality

Anonymous wrote:Being chronically ill with something bizarre (Ehler Danlos anyone) yet simultaneously constantly traveling/hiking


I know dove one who claims to have ED it’s so odd. She posts about its ll the time an age with the friend with “ fibromyalgia”.