Anonymous wrote:I have been asked to pay to attend a home holiday party for the first time. I don’t know how different this is from splitting a bill with a group of friends.

Is this common?

Maybe just new for me.

Nope. I wouldn't go.

Out of pure curiosity how much are they asking for?

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Anonymous wrote:Aren't Friendsgiving usually either contribute money or bring a dish.

My son's friends ordered from Whole foods and somebody got all the alcohol and they chipped in. The girls brought desserts and apps.

How old is your son? Sounds like something college kids would do.

Agree. Sounds like something people excited about buying new Ikea furniture would do.

Anonymous wrote:Aren't Friendsgiving usually either contribute money or bring a dish.

My son's friends ordered from Whole foods and somebody got all the alcohol and they chipped in. The girls brought desserts and apps.

How old is your son? Sounds like something college kids would do.

Is it a fundraiser?

Anonymous wrote:Aren't Friendsgiving usually either contribute money or bring a dish.

My son's friends ordered from Whole foods and somebody got all the alcohol and they chipped in. The girls brought desserts and apps.

We host Friendsgiving. The point of it is to have a fun Thanksgiving with people we actually like before we trundle off to do the obligatory family gathering. When we host, we fully host. Everyone who's invited us has also fully hosted. We would never order a dry and over-salted turkey from Whole Foods.

Aren't Friendsgiving usually either contribute money or bring a dish.

My son's friends ordered from Whole foods and somebody got all the alcohol and they chipped in. The girls brought desserts and apps.

In Black neighborhoods during the Great Migration "rent parties" were a thing. People would raise funds to pay their rent this way.

If you watch the film "Cooley High" there's a scene where high school kids throw a house party and charge 25 cents for admission.

But otherwise, never heard of charging admission for a party at someone's home.

Anonymous wrote:People can ask for anything they like, but nobody is obligated to attend when an invitation contains terms and conditions which are onerous, distasteful, or offensive. Just respond by ignoring such boorish requests.

Drama.

You all are clutching your pearls over nothing. It happened. Even if it's the tackiest thing in the world, OP should go and pay if they feel like it or decline if they don't.

People can ask for anything they like, but nobody is obligated to attend when an invitation contains terms and conditions which are onerous, distasteful, or offensive. Just respond by ignoring such boorish requests.