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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Idk, most women prefer a man that doesn't still refer to having a sex as "just bone" like a thirteen year old.

OK so get you one of those men.

^Hit a nerve, huh? PP was asking what was wrong with the statement from the "pending divorce PP" and just taking a guess here but perhaps wife doesn't get turned on when he asked her to "bone" anymore.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Idk, most women prefer a man that doesn't still refer to having a sex as "just bone" like a thirteen year old.

OK so get you one of those men.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Idk, most women prefer a man that doesn't still refer to having a sex as "just bone" like a thirteen year old.

Not really responsive to the question, since I'm not a woman - but, if a woman wants to get a good sense of how a guy really is - watch how he treats other men who are smaller, weaker, or of lesser social status than him.

He might treat you nicely while trying to impress you, but if he's abusive or a misogynist, he'll probably treat those types of guys poorly. If he treats those guys pretty well, he'll probably continue to treat you well.

Anonymous wrote:They are inherently selfish and ruled by their ego. Many, not all, are poor communicators

This summarizes what I've learned as well. As a woman, (daughter, wife, colleague), it's a lifelong negotiation to protect yourself and your interests in a relationship with a man.

They are inherently selfish and ruled by their ego. Many, not all, are poor communicators

Anonymous wrote:If you want a peaceful life, don't depend on husband for money or household help or childcare. If you want a family, be capable to handle all that like a capable single mom.

However, pick a man who loves and respects you and wants to share life's responsibilities with you.

Good advice

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

I believe the above. But the question was what have you learned about men, not how to get or keep one.

Realizing that 98% of what men care about when choosing a spouse/ romantic partner is looks is something that I wish I would have learned earlier.

This might be true for 98% of the men that you attract.

I don’t think so. I have dated as an attractive person and as unattractive person. Night and day difference.

This thread is sad. Men are surprisingly simple and love love more than most women give them credit for. In my circle, the men believe in equal partnerships, they work hard, coach, cook, clean and provide for their families. Their spouses work (paid and unpaid) too.

I’ve learned that men want to feel safe, to know their spouses have their back and actually desire them. They want to feel cared for not like you’re doing them a favor. They want to be in a team and not a competition with you. Believe it or not they want you to be their biggest champion but they don’t want a doormat or someone so needy they can barely function as an adult. They want to know you would be perfectly fine even if you weren’t married because you’re smart, attractive and goal oriented. They want to feel like they can take on the world because they have you in their corner especially when times are difficult.

The opposite are needy weak men who expect more from their partner than they’re willing to give or think that their main goal is to sleep with anything with a pulse and take out their own failures and shortcomings on their partner. By the way I’m pretty certain women fit both categories too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

He wants a unicorn

And?

You know unicorns don’t exist right?

Basically be independent and respect other person's independence. Unless you know each other well and are clear about each other's ability to do shared responsibilities, don't expect a happily ever after.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

He wants a unicorn

And?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

I believe the above. But the question was what have you learned about men, not how to get or keep one.

Realizing that 98% of what men care about when choosing a spouse/ romantic partner is looks is something that I wish I would have learned earlier.

This might be true for 98% of the men that you attract.

Most of us do care about looks, but only to the extent that we want somebody equally attractive as we consider ourselves. After establishing our dating pool we choose somebody that we enjoy spending time with.

One thing I do know, all those women on tv screaming about I am woman are actually men and none of them are educated.

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Anonymous wrote:Imho women put too much emphasis on men's ability to earn, cook, clean and do chores.

Well someone has to do these things. Who would you suggest do them?

Do it yourself or pay hired help to do it. If you aren't expecting to count on anyone, you'll have less heartaches.

Same goes for men. Don't expect your wife to pay or do things for you. Be self reliant.

If neither is expecting or nagging or has preconceived notions of how other person has be their keeper, they'll be happy if other person tries his/her best, not be upset that other person isn't doing whatever and however they expect him/her to do.