Anonymous wrote:WTF is a DADT marriage? Why do people assume when they use bizarre acronyms that normal people know what they are talking about?

If you even read the first 2 posts you would have seen it defined. But I guess headline-only is the extent of your attention span.

WTF is a DADT marriage? Why do people assume when they use bizarre acronyms that normal people know what they are talking about?

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Anonymous wrote:Given that it's 2023 in the United States, it's very surprising to me how many of the PP reflexively assume that everyone else shares their religiosity. When I got married, I made NO vows to any god; I made them to my spouse. We can revise our vows if we want.

I'm one of the PP who doesn't believe in extramarital sex and I'm an atheist. It's not always a religious thing. ...

I only mad vows to my wife. Still no need or desire to involve others.

I didn't say that only religious people oppose extra-marital sex. I was referring to the posts that are saying that people who have such arrangements are violating religious obligations, such as breaking their "holy vows." Those PPs are assuming that people in such arrangements actually made "holy vows." I sure didn't.

Anonymous wrote:Given that it's 2023 in the United States, it's very surprising to me how many of the PP reflexively assume that everyone else shares their religiosity. When I got married, I made NO vows to any god; I made them to my spouse. We can revise our vows if we want.

I only mad vows to my wife. Still no need or desire to involve others.

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Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married almost 40 years and I can’t imagine the need for a DADT marriage. Yes, we’ve had our dry periods but sex wasn’t the reason we fell in love or the reason we’ve been very happy. Sex has always been an important part of our marriage but it doesn’t define it.

If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the parishes and given up those 40 years?

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If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the *marriage* and given up those 40 years?

Yes, because I wanted to have children and a family. And as I said sex is important to me. I would have had the marriage annulled.

What if you already had children together and a family? And then no sex?

That’s usually how it works.

Anonymous wrote:Given that it's 2023 in the United States, it's very surprising to me how many of the PP reflexively assume that everyone else shares their religiosity. When I got married, I made NO vows to any god; I made them to my spouse. We can revise our vows if we want.

I'm one of the PP who doesn't believe in extramarital sex and I'm an atheist. It's not always a religious thing.

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Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married almost 40 years and I can’t imagine the need for a DADT marriage. Yes, we’ve had our dry periods but sex wasn’t the reason we fell in love or the reason we’ve been very happy. Sex has always been an important part of our marriage but it doesn’t define it.

If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the parishes and given up those 40 years?

Fixed typo:
If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the *marriage* and given up those 40 years?

Yes, because I wanted to have children and a family. And as I said sex is important to me. I would have had the marriage annulled.

What if you already had children together and a family? And then no sex?

The lack of sex would likely be part of a much bigger issue in our marriage.

I grew up in a very conservative household and I am still Christian and you know what? To each his own. Marriage is a long and complicated thing. I think the best thing is to stay married to the same person and just have sex with them, but if both partners are happy with some alternative arrangement, that’s not offensive to me at all. It makes my husband very excited and frisky if he thinks another man has flirted with me… I honestly think he’s the type that would be into an open arrangement but we are too risk averse.

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Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married almost 40 years and I can’t imagine the need for a DADT marriage. Yes, we’ve had our dry periods but sex wasn’t the reason we fell in love or the reason we’ve been very happy. Sex has always been an important part of our marriage but it doesn’t define it.

If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the parishes and given up those 40 years?

Fixed typo:
If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the *marriage* and given up those 40 years?

Yes, because I wanted to have children and a family. And as I said sex is important to me. I would have had the marriage annulled.

What if you already had children together and a family? And then no sex?

Given that it's 2023 in the United States, it's very surprising to me how many of the PP reflexively assume that everyone else shares their religiosity. When I got married, I made NO vows to any god; I made them to my spouse. We can revise our vows if we want.

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Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married almost 40 years and I can’t imagine the need for a DADT marriage. Yes, we’ve had our dry periods but sex wasn’t the reason we fell in love or the reason we’ve been very happy. Sex has always been an important part of our marriage but it doesn’t define it.

If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the parishes and given up those 40 years?

Fixed typo:
If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the *marriage* and given up those 40 years?

Yes, because I wanted to have children and a family. And as I said sex is important to me. I would have had the marriage annulled.

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Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married almost 40 years and I can’t imagine the need for a DADT marriage. Yes, we’ve had our dry periods but sex wasn’t the reason we fell in love or the reason we’ve been very happy. Sex has always been an important part of our marriage but it doesn’t define it.

If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the parishes and given up those 40 years?

Fixed typo:
If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the *marriage* and given up those 40 years?

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married almost 40 years and I can’t imagine the need for a DADT marriage. Yes, we’ve had our dry periods but sex wasn’t the reason we fell in love or the reason we’ve been very happy. Sex has always been an important part of our marriage but it doesn’t define it.

If your spouse didn't want to have sex with you after your wedding day, would you have left the parishes and given up those 40 years?

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been married almost 40 years and I can’t imagine the need for a DADT marriage. Yes, we’ve had our dry periods but sex wasn’t the reason we fell in love or the reason we’ve been very happy. Sex has always been an important part of our marriage but it doesn’t define it.

I couldn't have said it better myself. Marriage is not defined by your sex life. But it is a holy vow that you entered into willingly.

We’ve been married almost 40 years and I can’t imagine the need for a DADT marriage. Yes, we’ve had our dry periods but sex wasn’t the reason we fell in love or the reason we’ve been very happy. Sex has always been an important part of our marriage but it doesn’t define it.