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Anonymous wrote:HHI $250k, we pay $0 - grandparents pay for the two kids, roughly the equivalent of $100k a year. Obviously we could never afford this ourselves.

Just curious: why is this your setup? You don’t feel uncomfortable taking that kind of money from family?

Not the previous poster but in most families with generational wealth this is a tradition. Not something that parents are asking for. For several generations the grandparents have paid for private school for all of their grandchildren. Everyone in the family has grown up with this structure and it’s “normal” so there’s no uncomfortable asking and no guilt. In fact, older generations feel obligated to pay it forward bc they received the gift of private education when they were younger.

This. Same situation for us. People really seem to get bent out of shape about this on DCUM though, it's weird.

Are you obtuse or just generally out of touch? You really do not understand why people feel "bent out of shape" at the great disparities in wealth in this country? I find the huge wealth gap in the US to be deeply problematic, but I find annoying people like you who are so completely clueless about their own privilege that I think private school education is a wasted on them.

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I actually don't understand this mentality at all. Are you 'obtuse'? In your adult state did you not learn the world is unfair in many ways and are only now finding out about it?

We pay every cent of our kids tuition. No grandparent help. My parents barely helped me. I went to public school and earned scholarships. I had one medical bill in grad school that they gave me $800 to pay. I still hear about all their generosity from them. I very much understand some people win the parent lottery (not me), some people win the looks lottery (not me), some people win the athletic lottery (not me). God gave me a decent IQ (not 99th% or anything but good enough) and enough drive and determination to accomplish anything I set my mind to. My kids came out like me. I am not jealous of those who won the parent lottery. Everyone has a gift from God that makes them successful if they find it and use it. Stop being jealous and start finding your gift, use it and you won't see the playing field and binary. It's skewed for you too, just in a different way.

To answer OPs question - HHI 400-800k. We pay ~150 in tuition.

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Anonymous wrote:HHI $250k, we pay $0 - grandparents pay for the two kids, roughly the equivalent of $100k a year. Obviously we could never afford this ourselves.

Just curious: why is this your setup? You don’t feel uncomfortable taking that kind of money from family?

Not the previous poster but in most families with generational wealth this is a tradition. Not something that parents are asking for. For several generations the grandparents have paid for private school for all of their grandchildren. Everyone in the family has grown up with this structure and it’s “normal” so there’s no uncomfortable asking and no guilt. In fact, older generations feel obligated to pay it forward bc they received the gift of private education when they were younger.

This. Same situation for us. People really seem to get bent out of shape about this on DCUM though, it's weird.

Are you obtuse or just generally out of touch? You really do not understand why people feel "bent out of shape" at the great disparities in wealth in this country? I find the huge wealth gap in the US to be deeply problematic, but I find annoying people like you who are so completely clueless about their own privilege that I think private school education is a wasted on them.

Thank you for proving my point. If you read carefully, my 'bent out of shape' comment was aimed toward people upset that Grandparents help with tuition for the younger generations. Lots of 'I could never accept that help' or 'how to you feel good about that' comments.

But thanks for posting your HHI to 'make a point,' I hope since you make that much up on your soapbox that you are doing more than your fair share to fix the disparity!

Anonymous wrote:300k HHI- 10k with FA at 59K school.

Why so much FA??

300k HHI- 10k with FA at 59K school.

Why is everyone so interested in what other people make, how frugally they live, what they spend their money on, and so forth.

Seriously. If you want to know if your own family can afford a particular school, that’s what financial planners are for.

Poring over and judging everyone else’s financial details which are probably mostly false anyway accomplishes what?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. There are a lot of very generous grandparents. My parents are quite comfortable and we have a good relationship with them, but I can't imagine them ever paying for our kids' tuition.

I'm not going to lie, I'm a bit jealous of people with said grandparents. But good for them! I certainly wouldn't refuse such help if it were possible. I sure hope I can be financially conservative enough to help out my own grandkids some day. 200HHI, paying 30K for 1 kid but only for 4 years of high school. Definitely could not manage private from K all the way through 12th grade. We live extremely frugally, have a lot in savings, and value education above everything else.

We comfortably paid $30K on less income than that so not sure why it is such a struggle. Usually people saying they are living extremely frugal are not and have expensive mortgages.

Anonymous wrote:I just want to know what people are doing to bring in HHI of 2 million! Our HHI is about 400 and two kids in private school - paying about 80k total for both.

Seriously? It’s not that hard to know what industries pay what. If you really wanted to know you could visit the library or any schools career services.

Anonymous wrote:Wow. There are a lot of very generous grandparents. My parents are quite comfortable and we have a good relationship with them, but I can't imagine them ever paying for our kids' tuition.

I'm not going to lie, I'm a bit jealous of people with said grandparents. But good for them! I certainly wouldn't refuse such help if it were possible. I sure hope I can be financially conservative enough to help out my own grandkids some day. 200HHI, paying 30K for 1 kid but only for 4 years of high school. Definitely could not manage private from K all the way through 12th grade. We live extremely frugally, have a lot in savings, and value education above everything else.

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Anonymous wrote:HHI $250k, we pay $0 - grandparents pay for the two kids, roughly the equivalent of $100k a year. Obviously we could never afford this ourselves.

Just curious: why is this your setup? You don’t feel uncomfortable taking that kind of money from family?

Not the previous poster but in most families with generational wealth this is a tradition. Not something that parents are asking for. For several generations the grandparents have paid for private school for all of their grandchildren. Everyone in the family has grown up with this structure and it’s “normal” so there’s no uncomfortable asking and no guilt. In fact, older generations feel obligated to pay it forward bc they received the gift of private education when they were younger.

This. Same situation for us. People really seem to get bent out of shape about this on DCUM though, it's weird.

Are you obtuse or just generally out of touch? You really do not understand why people feel "bent out of shape" at the great disparities in wealth in this country? I find the huge wealth gap in the US to be deeply problematic, but I find annoying people like you who are so completely clueless about their own privilege that I think private school education is a wasted on them.

welcome to the real world. try to focus on being the best you can be and not being envious or resentful of others.

Envious and resentful are different than annoyed--there is a difference. I personally have not met parents at my kids' school who who are that oblivious to the financial struggles of some families, but I assume they exist, and I would be incredulous at their ignorance and stupidity. At some point being that wealthy and unaware of their privilege is simply rude.
-Spend $100K, HHI $2.3M

The families that I know at my sons private school who have seven figure incomes (of which there are plenty) are usually quite generous in terms of donations to the school, and other worthy causes, and also generous with their time in terms of volunteering. Without their contributions, the school would be as exceptional as it is. You sounds as if you want the successful families to be stupid, ignorant, rude, etc., even though you admit that you have not met a family that actually behaves that way. Try to be a bit more tolerant of others.

If you read the thread, it's a response to the PP who failed to understand why people felt "bent out of shape" about her generational wealth.

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Anonymous wrote:HHI $250k, we pay $0 - grandparents pay for the two kids, roughly the equivalent of $100k a year. Obviously we could never afford this ourselves.

Just curious: why is this your setup? You don’t feel uncomfortable taking that kind of money from family?

Not the previous poster but in most families with generational wealth this is a tradition. Not something that parents are asking for. For several generations the grandparents have paid for private school for all of their grandchildren. Everyone in the family has grown up with this structure and it’s “normal” so there’s no uncomfortable asking and no guilt. In fact, older generations feel obligated to pay it forward bc they received the gift of private education when they were younger.

This. Same situation for us. People really seem to get bent out of shape about this on DCUM though, it's weird.

Are you obtuse or just generally out of touch? You really do not understand why people feel "bent out of shape" at the great disparities in wealth in this country? I find the huge wealth gap in the US to be deeply problematic, but I find annoying people like you who are so completely clueless about their own privilege that I think private school education is a wasted on them.

welcome to the real world. try to focus on being the best you can be and not being envious or resentful of others.

Envious and resentful are different than annoyed--there is a difference. I personally have not met parents at my kids' school who who are that oblivious to the financial struggles of some families, but I assume they exist, and I would be incredulous at their ignorance and stupidity. At some point being that wealthy and unaware of their privilege is simply rude.
-Spend $100K, HHI $2.3M

The families that I know at my sons private school who have seven figure incomes (of which there are plenty) are usually quite generous in terms of donations to the school, and other worthy causes, and also generous with their time in terms of volunteering. Without their contributions, the school would be as exceptional as it is. You sounds as if you want the successful families to be stupid, ignorant, rude, etc., even though you admit that you have not met a family that actually behaves that way. Try to be a bit more tolerant of others.

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Anonymous wrote:HHI $250k, we pay $0 - grandparents pay for the two kids, roughly the equivalent of $100k a year. Obviously we could never afford this ourselves.

Just curious: why is this your setup? You don’t feel uncomfortable taking that kind of money from family?

Not the previous poster but in most families with generational wealth this is a tradition. Not something that parents are asking for. For several generations the grandparents have paid for private school for all of their grandchildren. Everyone in the family has grown up with this structure and it’s “normal” so there’s no uncomfortable asking and no guilt. In fact, older generations feel obligated to pay it forward bc they received the gift of private education when they were younger.

This. Same situation for us. People really seem to get bent out of shape about this on DCUM though, it's weird.

Are you obtuse or just generally out of touch? You really do not understand why people feel "bent out of shape" at the great disparities in wealth in this country? I find the huge wealth gap in the US to be deeply problematic, but I find annoying people like you who are so completely clueless about their own privilege that I think private school education is a wasted on them.

welcome to the real world. try to focus on being the best you can be and not being envious or resentful of others.

Envious and resentful are different than annoyed--there is a difference. I personally have not met parents at my kids' school who who are that oblivious to the financial struggles of some families, but I assume they exist, and I would be incredulous at their ignorance and stupidity. At some point being that wealthy and unaware of their privilege is simply rude.
-Spend $100K, HHI $2.3M

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Anonymous wrote:HHI $250k, we pay $0 - grandparents pay for the two kids, roughly the equivalent of $100k a year. Obviously we could never afford this ourselves.

Just curious: why is this your setup? You don’t feel uncomfortable taking that kind of money from family?

Not the previous poster but in most families with generational wealth this is a tradition. Not something that parents are asking for. For several generations the grandparents have paid for private school for all of their grandchildren. Everyone in the family has grown up with this structure and it’s “normal” so there’s no uncomfortable asking and no guilt. In fact, older generations feel obligated to pay it forward bc they received the gift of private education when they were younger.

This. Same situation for us. People really seem to get bent out of shape about this on DCUM though, it's weird.

Are you obtuse or just generally out of touch? You really do not understand why people feel "bent out of shape" at the great disparities in wealth in this country? I find the huge wealth gap in the US to be deeply problematic, but I find annoying people like you who are so completely clueless about their own privilege that I think private school education is a wasted on them.

welcome to the real world. try to focus on being the best you can be and not being envious or resentful of others.

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Anonymous wrote:HHI $250k, we pay $0 - grandparents pay for the two kids, roughly the equivalent of $100k a year. Obviously we could never afford this ourselves.

Just curious: why is this your setup? You don’t feel uncomfortable taking that kind of money from family?

Not the previous poster but in most families with generational wealth this is a tradition. Not something that parents are asking for. For several generations the grandparents have paid for private school for all of their grandchildren. Everyone in the family has grown up with this structure and it’s “normal” so there’s no uncomfortable asking and no guilt. In fact, older generations feel obligated to pay it forward bc they received the gift of private education when they were younger.

This. Same situation for us. People really seem to get bent out of shape about this on DCUM though, it's weird.

Are you obtuse or just generally out of touch? You really do not understand why people feel "bent out of shape" at the great disparities in wealth in this country? I find the huge wealth gap in the US to be deeply problematic, but I find annoying people like you who are so completely clueless about their own privilege that I think private school education is a wasted on them.

Do you somehow think people who get help from grandparents aren’t grateful or appreciative of that assistance? It seems to me the ones clueless about their privilege are the ones who can afford private education without batting an eye. Those of us who have to budget or make sacrifices or get financial aid or assistance from family are maybe a little more thankful for the privilege of attending private school.

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Anonymous wrote:HHI $250k, we pay $0 - grandparents pay for the two kids, roughly the equivalent of $100k a year. Obviously we could never afford this ourselves.

Just curious: why is this your setup? You don’t feel uncomfortable taking that kind of money from family?

Not the previous poster but in most families with generational wealth this is a tradition. Not something that parents are asking for. For several generations the grandparents have paid for private school for all of their grandchildren. Everyone in the family has grown up with this structure and it’s “normal” so there’s no uncomfortable asking and no guilt. In fact, older generations feel obligated to pay it forward bc they received the gift of private education when they were younger.

This. Same situation for us. People really seem to get bent out of shape about this on DCUM though, it's weird.

Are you obtuse or just generally out of touch? You really do not understand why people feel "bent out of shape" at the great disparities in wealth in this country? I find the huge wealth gap in the US to be deeply problematic, but I find annoying people like you who are so completely clueless about their own privilege that I think private school education is a wasted on them.