Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.
Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.
My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.
We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I didn't expect to wake up to 4 pages!
My issue with the dresses is that they're just so boring. They're carbon copies of each other with absolutely nothing to them.
When you go to lulus.com or Revolve or ASOS or Anthro there are pages and pages of gorgeous mini dresses.... and they're all different. Meanwhile the girls all wear the most basic an boring solid colored slip dresses (or at least they did last year) My daughter wore a dress with a full skirt to winter formal last year and I think she was the only girl there not in a solid color slip dress and sneakers.
I know she can do her own thing (and she did last year) but I'm hoping that maybe the girls are getting bored of looking exactly the same year-after-year. Slip dress and sneakers. Slip dress and sneakers. Why even dress up if you're just wearing a uniform? What happened to personality or creativity? When I was young we all wore unique dresses.
I like that sequins are in. At least it's different.
Most people are followers. I find it hard to believe that everyone wore a unique dress when you were young -- maybe your friend group did, or maybe that's what you remember, but most people tend to stay in similar range. I'd say the only way to inspire creativity is to tell your girl to be the one who is willing to be different. Then she'll encourage those who are afraid to take more of a risk.
OP here. Yep, well I think she's going for unique. And completely out of left field she was asked by a boy who is about as popular as it gets (lacrosse star, etc). My daughter is pretty but also super brainy and artsy. This guy usually goes for the instagram-model, bikini picture-taking types. Not this year. It's funny. I think some boys mature with age and realize they can break the mold of what is expected of them too.
OP, your daughter should wear what she likes (and if she is confident about that as you indicate, then why the need to post on here?). But there is judgment coming off in your responses. Girls who wear bikinis can also be pretty, brainy, artsy, sporty, creative, so on. All of the judgment on this thread (and I know plenty of posters did not judge) feed into why girls have insecurities. Each should dress as she wants, and not have ideas attached to her clothes as to whether she is smart, sexual, etc. So many gross replies on this thread.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.
Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.
My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.
We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).
This isn't something to be proud of. I'd be lived if my son said something like this because of how someone dressed.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I didn't expect to wake up to 4 pages!
My issue with the dresses is that they're just so boring. They're carbon copies of each other with absolutely nothing to them.
When you go to lulus.com or Revolve or ASOS or Anthro there are pages and pages of gorgeous mini dresses.... and they're all different. Meanwhile the girls all wear the most basic an boring solid colored slip dresses (or at least they did last year) My daughter wore a dress with a full skirt to winter formal last year and I think she was the only girl there not in a solid color slip dress and sneakers.
I know she can do her own thing (and she did last year) but I'm hoping that maybe the girls are getting bored of looking exactly the same year-after-year. Slip dress and sneakers. Slip dress and sneakers. Why even dress up if you're just wearing a uniform? What happened to personality or creativity? When I was young we all wore unique dresses.
I like that sequins are in. At least it's different.
Most people are followers. I find it hard to believe that everyone wore a unique dress when you were young -- maybe your friend group did, or maybe that's what you remember, but most people tend to stay in similar range. I'd say the only way to inspire creativity is to tell your girl to be the one who is willing to be different. Then she'll encourage those who are afraid to take more of a risk.
OP here. Yep, well I think she's going for unique. And completely out of left field she was asked by a boy who is about as popular as it gets (lacrosse star, etc). My daughter is pretty but also super brainy and artsy. This guy usually goes for the instagram-model, bikini picture-taking types. Not this year. It's funny. I think some boys mature with age and realize they can break the mold of what is expected of them too.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.
Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.
My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.
We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).
Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine, as a junior in high school, asking my mother to shop for a homecoming dress for me.
Is this how teens are now??
A coworker whose daughter just left for college said she calls every day asking to come home. She's only about 90 minutes from home.
Sorry to hijack but this is crazy to me. My kids are still in elementary.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.
Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.
My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.
We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).
This isn't something to be proud of. I'd be lived if my son said something like this because of how someone dressed.
Definitely proud!![]()
Anonymous wrote:Lol at the idea of a junior asking her mom to look for her homecoming dress because she is swamped with HW 😂
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.
Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.
My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.
We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).
Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.
Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.
The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.
There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.
Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?
Please, the boy looking for a good girl would absolutely go for a popular girl if they had the chance. They cope by talking about only wanting a good girl. When their perfect good girl either doesn't exist or won't talk to them, the become an incel
DP. My son(the aforementioned 13yo) is a good looking, slightly shy, well adjusted nerd. He rejected 2 popular girls, and is crushing hard on the “best friend not girlfriend.” My youngest brother(the cool one) dated many ”socially mature” girls and dumped them for the next(I agree that he’s a jerk). Most of his friends did the same(or cheated).
The popular girls are objectified, and apparently delusional.
Ok now we know you are a troll. Omg with these replies LOL
Truth is hurting you. Sorry!
No 13 year old boy has the length of dating history that you're implying.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I didn't expect to wake up to 4 pages!
My issue with the dresses is that they're just so boring. They're carbon copies of each other with absolutely nothing to them.
When you go to lulus.com or Revolve or ASOS or Anthro there are pages and pages of gorgeous mini dresses.... and they're all different. Meanwhile the girls all wear the most basic an boring solid colored slip dresses (or at least they did last year) My daughter wore a dress with a full skirt to winter formal last year and I think she was the only girl there not in a solid color slip dress and sneakers.
I know she can do her own thing (and she did last year) but I'm hoping that maybe the girls are getting bored of looking exactly the same year-after-year. Slip dress and sneakers. Slip dress and sneakers. Why even dress up if you're just wearing a uniform? What happened to personality or creativity? When I was young we all wore unique dresses.
I like that sequins are in. At least it's different.
Most people are followers. I find it hard to believe that everyone wore a unique dress when you were young -- maybe your friend group did, or maybe that's what you remember, but most people tend to stay in similar range. I'd say the only way to inspire creativity is to tell your girl to be the one who is willing to be different. Then she'll encourage those who are afraid to take more of a risk.
OP here. Yep, well I think she's going for unique. And completely out of left field she was asked by a boy who is about as popular as it gets (lacrosse star, etc). My daughter is pretty but also super brainy and artsy. This guy usually goes for the instagram-model, bikini picture-taking types. Not this year. It's funny. I think some boys mature with age and realize they can break the mold of what is expected of them too.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.
Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.
My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.
We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).
Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.
Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.
The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.
There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.
Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?
Please, the boy looking for a good girl would absolutely go for a popular girl if they had the chance. They cope by talking about only wanting a good girl. When their perfect good girl either doesn't exist or won't talk to them, the become an incel
DP. My son(the aforementioned 13yo) is a good looking, slightly shy, well adjusted nerd. He rejected 2 popular girls, and is crushing hard on the “best friend not girlfriend.” My youngest brother(the cool one) dated many ”socially mature” girls and dumped them for the next(I agree that he’s a jerk). Most of his friends did the same(or cheated).
The popular girls are objectified, and apparently delusional.
Ok now we know you are a troll. Omg with these replies LOL
Truth is hurting you. Sorry!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:From DD’s group, and what I’ve seen on social media things similar to these:
https://www.forever21.com/us/2000473685.html
https://www.lulus.com/products/gift-of-love-black-and-gold-backless-long-sleeve-bodycon-dress/1667576.html
https://www.lulus.com/products/mesh-perspective-black-long-sleeve-mesh-bodycon-mini-dress/2027976.html
https://www.lulus.com/products/lover-s-game-navy-blue-lace-skater-dress/579332.html
But they’re either short, or midi/long with spaghetti straps.
all good