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Anonymous wrote:Kumon and spelling bees.

Ha ha! surprisingly my kid is into AOPS and never showed the remotest interested in spelling bees.. again great generalization

You inadvertently proved the generalization as accurate with the AOPS.

Oh yes, Asians and not just desis are big on STEM education… I thought by now everyone knew that, especially the ones who immigrated in their 20s and are now in high paying jobs visiting DCUM regularly ( the demographics for this site is much more educated and has higher HHI than US average) lawyers, doctors, tech, start up founders. I just meant that not everyone is into Kumon, I agree most desis are spending a lot of time, money and resources to get their kids ahead in academics.

We usually hit the outdoors on long treks (50-100 mi). So wherever in the world we can do them is where we go (Alps, Dolomites, Pyrenees, Scotland, Patagonia, NZ, Oz, Himalayas, the Stans, Norway, Iceland, Rockies -- Canadian and US, Alaska, the desert Southwest). Prefer to stay in huts, but the occasional backpacking trip is fine but bear country has us quite jumpy. Haven't met too many Desis on our trips.

Pakistani married to AA. We love to travel to variety of countries but our favorite trips are where we combine city and beach. Here are a few trips that we have loved.

-Barcelona and Mallorca
-Lyon and Corsica
-Bangkok and Krabi
-Medellin and Cartagena


In the states we love Martha's Vineyard and Sag Harbor. Have also done lots of Caribbean islands but I definitely prefer ones where you leave the resort and explore!

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Anonymous wrote:I have been to Niagara Falls at least a dozen times, not entirely by choice. Every group of visiting relatives has insisted on seeing it. And then they want to visit Hindu temples all over the place, like there’s a shortage of them in India.

This has to be rare. No one on my side of the family, my in laws , my Desi friends, my sisters family visiting from India has ever asked to visit Hindu temples in the US? You family may be too religious.

No - it's a thing. I'm married to a South Indian who grew up in India in a pretty conservative Hindu family. Every time my in-laws visit (from Bangalore), they visit temples. Same for every auntie and uncle who visits, and the families of our other South Indian friends. And they host a lot of pujas while they're here as well. As a PP said, the Pittsburgh temple is particularly popular. But we have visited temples all over the country! Its a normal stop when we travel with them.

It might just be a South Indian religious Hindu thing though.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh? Cape Cod is where wealthy people go? LOL!

Some parts of Cape Cod attract very wealthy people. Some parts are more middle class. Might surprise you, but some very wealthy people goto Fenwick Island every year.

Is the sand and water different where the wealthy people go in Cape Cod?

This is such a stupid question but I’ll play.

We go wherever we want taking into account places that may be less than friendly to brown people. Less than friendly, sure whatever, that’s on you. Hostile? I’ll take my money elsewhere.

Beach, mountains, cities, we’re not a monolith, we like them all and we like different things. -you know like other human beings.

To the poster that hates seeing groups of brown people traveling together. I assure you there are plenty of big groups of traveling white people. Think of all those expensive tour companies. Yet you don’t notice them, because to you, they blend in.

+Safety in numbers. And It’s not like we’re going around trying to colonize the world (like some nationalities have a history of, maybe watch out for big traveling groups of them!).

Lots of young Desis live in metro Boston and tons of Desis visit Martha’s Vineyard in the warm weather months. Not sure if they’re coming from Boston though.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly most of the “Desis” I see abroad are horribly insecure, travel in huge groups, and stick out like a sore thumb. This thread only serves to confirm that impression.

Your sample size is too low. Our family of 4 have travelled Hawaii (3x), Costa Rica, Canada, Aruba, Bahamas, Austria, Germany, UK, Switzerland, France, Italy plus lots of placed in US, a couple of times with friends. Just recently we started vacationing with extended family in Europe cause it is mid point for us to meet. Planning a trip with extended family to Australia and maybe Egypt. There were multiple times when we chose a resort or a hotel in Europe where we were the only Desi family.

Also, define huge group, if my family travels with my two siblings and their families would that be a huge group to you?

Yes absolutely, that would be a large group and annoying to be around surely.

Wait, I’m Indian American. Is there some sort of guide I should be reading for how to be Indian? I thought we were just human like everyone else just lived how we wanted, doing things that we enjoyed because, you know, we’re all different. Right? Now I’m finding out that I’m supposed to vacation anywhere but the beach and then have my kids do Kumon while we’re in Europe and brush up on their spelling when we’re in the Caribbean. God damn it! I’m so far behind…

We haven’t been to many places in the US but have been to countries in all the continents other then Antartica.
We love just laying in the beaches,to visiting cities, to African safaris … and dont travel in groups.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been to Niagara Falls at least a dozen times, not entirely by choice. Every group of visiting relatives has insisted on seeing it. And then they want to visit Hindu temples all over the place, like there’s a shortage of them in India.

This has to be rare. No one on my side of the family, my in laws , my Desi friends, my sisters family visiting from India has ever asked to visit Hindu temples in the US? You family may be too religious.

Indian immigrants often know where I grew up in Pennsylvania because it was near Sri Venkateswara in the Pittsburgh area. I saw it being built in the 1970s.

https://svtemple.org/#/

Anonymous wrote:Honestly most of the “Desis” I see abroad are horribly insecure, travel in huge groups, and stick out like a sore thumb. This thread only serves to confirm that impression.

Why this Desi hate? What is insecure about group travel in a foreign country? Most Americans of Indian origin do not travel in groups abroad. Those groups you see are from India. It makes sense for them to travel in a group when they are multi generational and food is an issue.

I hate group travels of all kind, including cruises. But people of all origins go on cruises and take group tours, Why single out desis?

Anonymous wrote:I have been to Niagara Falls at least a dozen times, not entirely by choice. Every group of visiting relatives has insisted on seeing it. And then they want to visit Hindu temples all over the place, like there’s a shortage of them in India.

This has to be rare. No one on my side of the family, my in laws , my Desi friends, my sisters family visiting from India has ever asked to visit Hindu temples in the US? You family may be too religious.

FWIW, My husband is first gen Indian (his parents immigrated in the 60s). We live in the Boston area and spent summer of 2020/21/22 in Cape Cod (because we were avoiding flying during the pandemic) and his parents and sister joined us. It was lovely, but likely not something we are planning to repeat.

Last summer they seemed to all be in San Francisco. I went to the in and out burger location on the pier and chatted up a young group from India. They told me they were trying all the fast food they could while they were here.