Anonymous
Post 09/12/2023 11:41     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mom of a late elem school girl who has been hoping a new trend would emerge, but alas…. Anyway serious question - most of these dresses can’t pass the “bend over” or “squat” tests. Some don’t look like they’d pass the “sit down” test frankly. Is there some undergarment I’m not aware of or are parents really cool with their daughters’ crotches and behinds being exposed with any sudden move.


Answer 1: People typically wear underwear (underpants). Underwear is clothing.
Answer 2: There are undergarments that you wear over your underwear, called "safety shorts" or "spandex." Like cheerleading briefs. Like the insides of skorts.


80s here: we called these “spankies”, which makes me wonder if that’s where the brand Spanx got it’s name? Anyway, yes, it’s a thing.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2023 10:17     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Anonymous wrote:Mom of a late elem school girl who has been hoping a new trend would emerge, but alas…. Anyway serious question - most of these dresses can’t pass the “bend over” or “squat” tests. Some don’t look like they’d pass the “sit down” test frankly. Is there some undergarment I’m not aware of or are parents really cool with their daughters’ crotches and behinds being exposed with any sudden move.


My daughter wore shorts under her dresses starting in Kindergarten. you are the one who isn't with it. Stop trying to shame parents and teenage girls.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2023 08:55     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Anonymous wrote:I’m an old lady who can’t buy even an ugly dress without spending hundreds of dollars, getting it custom-tailored, and wear layers of undergarments, and after all that effort I still look bad.

Teen girls should find a cheap, short, small, tight dress makes them happy and go have the best time ever. It’s not like society ever gives women a window of time when you’re allowed to dress how you want without being criticized by pretty much everyone, so might as well enjoy it while you have a young body, parents who might pitch in to buy something, and friends to enjoy it with! I love seeing homecoming dresses on Instagram- it’s the closest thing left to the spring issues of Seventeen and YM!

Add me to your list of +1s. I had no idea how amazing I looked when I was a young thing.

I also agree with the person who said creeps gonna creep no matter what.

OP, make your line in the sand - underwear can’t be visible or no cheeks or whatever - and then let her pick her own.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2023 08:51     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Anonymous wrote:I love that my DD chose to wear a dressy pant suit to Homecoming. I’m proud that she’s self-confident enough to go against the short, tight, Kardashian style that’s popular today. It will serve her well in life.

Another benefit of wearing a pantsuit is that she was comfortable and could actually dance with her friends without worrying about a wardrobe malfunction.

Anonymous
Post 09/12/2023 07:59     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Anonymous wrote:Mom of a late elem school girl who has been hoping a new trend would emerge, but alas…. Anyway serious question - most of these dresses can’t pass the “bend over” or “squat” tests. Some don’t look like they’d pass the “sit down” test frankly. Is there some undergarment I’m not aware of or are parents really cool with their daughters’ crotches and behinds being exposed with any sudden move.


Answer 1: People typically wear underwear (underpants). Underwear is clothing.
Answer 2: There are undergarments that you wear over your underwear, called "safety shorts" or "spandex." Like cheerleading briefs. Like the insides of skorts.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 23:22     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
We found a dress on Shein that was classy and came to a little bit above the knee. My daughter is not one of the hip crowd, though. But she and her academic group of girl pals went together and had fun and she looked appropriate and pretty.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 23:20     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
I've seen so many of the short tight bodycon dresses. I think they're fine - in the sense they'll cover what's absolutely necessary - but how on earth do they stay down? What keeps these tiny dresses from riding up? When I walk behind someone wearing one of these minidresses, I can't fathom how they stay put. Tape? Hairspray??
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 22:56     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Mom of a late elem school girl who has been hoping a new trend would emerge, but alas…. Anyway serious question - most of these dresses can’t pass the “bend over” or “squat” tests. Some don’t look like they’d pass the “sit down” test frankly. Is there some undergarment I’m not aware of or are parents really cool with their daughters’ crotches and behinds being exposed with any sudden move.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 18:27     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Anonymous wrote:I love that my DD chose to wear a dressy pant suit to Homecoming. I’m proud that she’s self-confident enough to go against the short, tight, Kardashian style that’s popular today. It will serve her well in life.

Another benefit of wearing a pantsuit is that she was comfortable and could actually dance with her friends without worrying about a wardrobe malfunction.


Were her friends also wearing pantsuits, and if not, how could she actually dance with her friends if her friends couldn't dance?

To clarify: it's great that your DD wore what she wanted. Please give the same grace to her friends, whatever her friends wore.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 16:38     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Even the cutest girls from the fanciest privates all look like cheap Vegas or game show hostesses. So unfortunate….. but my prom years were pretty pitiful too. White eyelet and pastel ribbons in the early 80’s. Does anyone remember Gunne Sax from late 70’s early 80’s?


+1
I decided this was not the hill I was going to die on. They all wear short and tight for Homecoming - as long as everything is basically covered, I'm ok.


Yep. One of the fairly conservative - in all ways - families I know shared a pic of their daughter in a barely there homecoming dress. Kid's at the top of her class, varsity athlete. One homecoming dress isn't the cornerstone of their entire lives.


In my experience it's the girls from the so-called socially "conservative" families who wear the trashiest dresses. Look at the pictures from the Catholic HS dances sometime.


We now live in PA and our Catholic High School no longer has a Homecoming Dance. It was canceled for Covid in 2020 and they never brought it back. I was talking with the principal and he said one of the main reasons they opted not to bring it back was the way the girls were dressing. When the school tried to enforce the dress code for the dance the parents complained. There was less drama by not having the dance. The uber wealthy families host their own party and the girls can wear their skimpy dresses to that. The kids that never wanted to go to the dance anyways are now relieved they don't need to make excuses about not going.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 14:59     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Anonymous wrote:I love that my DD chose to wear a dressy pant suit to Homecoming. I’m proud that she’s self-confident enough to go against the short, tight, Kardashian style that’s popular today. It will serve her well in life.

Another benefit of wearing a pantsuit is that she was comfortable and could actually dance with her friends without worrying about a wardrobe malfunction.


Yeah not like those dumb hussies in dresses who couldn’t “actually dance” and were worried the whole night. Can’t you like your daughter without putting down other people?
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:53     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
i only have little kids so i'm not in the homecoming crowd, but when I google "2022 homecoming pics" and see ones that people posted online (real ones, not like ads) it doesn't look that bad. so the dresses are out there!
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 10:34     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Anonymous wrote:I’m an old lady who can’t buy even an ugly dress without spending hundreds of dollars, getting it custom-tailored, and wear layers of undergarments, and after all that effort I still look bad.

Teen girls should find a cheap, short, small, tight dress makes them happy and go have the best time ever. It’s not like society ever gives women a window of time when you’re allowed to dress how you want without being criticized by pretty much everyone, so might as well enjoy it while you have a young body, parents who might pitch in to buy something, and friends to enjoy it with! I love seeing homecoming dresses on Instagram- it’s the closest thing left to the spring issues of Seventeen and YM!


This is actually good advice.

If anyone had told me when i was younger that the window for how great my body would look was so short, I would have flaunted it more.

Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 10:32     Subject: Re:Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
Good Luck with this goal.

The problem is it's the fashion style of dress for teens currently. I hate it too, but you are facing an uphill battle and trust me, you are going to cringe when you see what the other girls wear.

I agree with others, you just have to grit your teeth and try to get through it the best you can.

Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 09:55     Subject: Classy Homecoming dress - do they exist?
I love that my DD chose to wear a dressy pant suit to Homecoming. I’m proud that she’s self-confident enough to go against the short, tight, Kardashian style that’s popular today. It will serve her well in life.

Another benefit of wearing a pantsuit is that she was comfortable and could actually dance with her friends without worrying about a wardrobe malfunction.