Anonymous
09/11/2023 07:32
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?
Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.
Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.
Why?
9:30 is too early even for the 13 year old.
Depends entirely on the kid and the schedule. I voluntarily went to sleep at 9:30pm in HS because I had to wake up at 6am for school and I was totally exhausted. I would have gone to sleep even earlier if not for homework.
Anonymous
09/11/2023 07:13
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?
Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.
Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.
It’s very early. But, some kids get up early. Mine gets up at the am for swim. Their choice, not mine.
Anonymous
09/11/2023 07:10
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?
Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.
Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.
Why?
9:30 is too early even for the 13 year old.
It works well at our home.
Anonymous
09/11/2023 00:51
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
How do you “enforce” bedtime for older teens?
Anonymous
09/11/2023 00:41
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?
Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.
Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.
Why?
9:30 is too early even for the 13 year old.
Anonymous
09/11/2023 00:23
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?
Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.
Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.
Why?
Anonymous
09/09/2023 20:07
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?
Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.
Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.
Anonymous
09/09/2023 15:49
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Depends. 11pm or midnight? No. 9pm. Yes.
Anonymous
09/09/2023 15:20
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?
Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.
Anonymous
09/08/2023 22:41
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Definitely no judgement. My mom tried to enforce a bedtime of 10 pm. I didn't have computer or phone and I'm young enough that those things existed as a teen. I simply wasn't tired. The fights we had. Eventually we came to a truce of I just had to be quiet. I usually fell asleep by midnight as I do now. Very healthy. Then and now, straight As etc. Sister would go to bed at 8 all the way through high school and still is an early sleeper with 2. kids. She is the same very healthy then and now and a straight A student.
You are an anecdote, not a statistic.
Sleeping at midnight means only 6 hours of sleep (assuming a 6 am alarm for MS), and 6 hours is an unhealthy amount of sleep for teens.
And going to bed earlier would not have resulted in more sleep. Some people require less sleep..
Bottom line I don't judge parents by when their kids go to bed.
You shouldn't either it's not good for your health.
Anonymous
09/08/2023 17:31
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:No, because sleep is the glue that holds people together. I judge parents who are highly-educated and *don't* pay attention to something as fundamental as their children's sleep needs.
+1. Sleep is the actual foundation on which everything is built. Humans cannot thrive without the proper amount and that amount is more than most are getting.
Anonymous
09/08/2023 16:02
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
I don’t judge parents
Anonymous
09/08/2023 15:13
Subject: Re:Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:My DS often had rehearsal until 10, got home at 10:30, needed to shower and do homework. Not sure how I would have enforced a 9:30 bedtime for a high school student. On those nights, he usually had time for a nap right after school - he has ADHD and usually needed a break anyway. I was not at all involved in his evening routine - people are monitoring whether their teens have changed into pajamas and brushed their teeth by a certain time?
Don’t be obtuse. If kids have later commitments, of course they have to stay up sometimes.
I’d think having a kid with ADHD would have made you more aware of the importance of sleep…
Anonymous
09/08/2023 12:55
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Anonymous wrote:Definitely no judgement. My mom tried to enforce a bedtime of 10 pm. I didn't have computer or phone and I'm young enough that those things existed as a teen. I simply wasn't tired. The fights we had. Eventually we came to a truce of I just had to be quiet. I usually fell asleep by midnight as I do now. Very healthy. Then and now, straight As etc. Sister would go to bed at 8 all the way through high school and still is an early sleeper with 2. kids. She is the same very healthy then and now and a straight A student.
You are an anecdote, not a statistic.
Sleeping at midnight means only 6 hours of sleep (assuming a 6 am alarm for MS), and 6 hours is an unhealthy amount of sleep for teens.
Anonymous
09/08/2023 12:51
Subject: Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?
Definitely no judgement. My mom tried to enforce a bedtime of 10 pm. I didn't have computer or phone and I'm young enough that those things existed as a teen. I simply wasn't tired. The fights we had. Eventually we came to a truce of I just had to be quiet. I usually fell asleep by midnight as I do now. Very healthy. Then and now, straight As etc. Sister would go to bed at 8 all the way through high school and still is an early sleeper with 2. kids. She is the same very healthy then and now and a straight A student.