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Anonymous wrote:I would have a penthouse apt for me and my well endowed ex bf so that we could hook up on the regular, no strings attached.

This has inspired me to add to my otherwise wholesome and family oriented fantasy life.

I keep a room in a fancy upscale hotel. One a week I get to hook up with an ex or crush of my choosing. Then he leaves and I order room service and watch tv

I don’t want to turn this thread into a lifestyle flame war, but suffice to say I have had great sex in a hotel room outside marriage and then enjoyed a bubble bath and room service and a Showtime binge. Im talking 50 shades fantasy sex. And it was amazing. The fantasy is real, it was 1,000% amazing.

This sounds amazing. I have always wanted to do hook up with some hot hung guy. Alas it will just stay a fantasy.

Anonymous wrote:Can someone reply to my answer and say what you think?

My answer to this is:

My hair fully grows back. I feel healthy and finally comfortable in my body.
When I was a child I had no sensation of being in my body. Since I was 13 years old I have been majorly uncomfortable in it. I can always feel everything . Even though I’m not overweight I have big bones.

But I feel wrong answering this question because I have family and health and a roof over my head+food. So it’s embarassing to admit that I’m not fully happy. It all started when I lost half of my hair.

I think almost all of us responding have very good lives in reality (I do I know!) and our fantasy are just sure would be nice if dreams. Nothing wrong with a fantasy of attractiveness and confidence — it seems no more embarrassing than my desire to have no more financial worries ever and more kids than I actually have and emotional bandwidth to be a wonderful parent to all of them.

I live in a temperate mountain town with decent access to the big city and adorable historic houses with amazing architectural detail. We live in a walkable neighborhood and can walk to locally owned and very good bakeries, restaurants, coffee shops, and small health food grocer. We have a close knit and diverse neighborhood where kids play in the streets and neighbors are civically involved through active representation on local government boards and committees. Neighbors come from a huge diversity in terms of origins and professions and the conversations are always interesting.

Husband and I both have passion jobs that actually pay decently and are stable. We have a comfortable upper middle class household income that allows us to not worry about day to day expenses but also not so high that we feel like we've lost touch with the middle class and have to worry about things like our kids not having perspective of the "real world."

Husband is loving and devoted. We are both active and enjoy active pursuits together, like a weekend bike ride in the countryside. We both love travel and take our kids on cultural or active vacations that feel authentic at least once or twice a year.

I live my fantasy life. However, even passion jobs can be stressful and old charming houses need a lot of maintenance and updating. And we are both working parents so the work -life balance thing is stressful. But writing this out makes me so grateful for my life.

I have an apartment in the 7th Arrondissement in Paris and I have 3-4 good friends living close by. None of us are married. We meet at each other’s apartments, but also go out to cafes and restaurants a lot. Once a week we have a private cooking lesson together.
My children live down the street with their wives, whom I get along with great and who feel like daughters to me. I see them twice a week.
I live with two cats, but ones that sleep through the night.
I also own a small house in a small town at the water in Normandy. Also maybe a chalet in the Swiss Alps.
I write novels and practice street photography. Somehow I make enough money with this to live comfortably.
I travel to a different country every 3 months and stay as long as I feel like it.

Can someone reply to my answer and say what you think?

My answer to this is:

My hair fully grows back. I feel healthy and finally comfortable in my body.
When I was a child I had no sensation of being in my body. Since I was 13 years old I have been majorly uncomfortable in it. I can always feel everything . Even though I’m not overweight I have big bones.

But I feel wrong answering this question because I have family and health and a roof over my head+food. So it’s embarassing to admit that I’m not fully happy. It all started when I lost half of my hair.

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Anonymous wrote:In my fantasy life, I own a small home in the pacific northwest on a decent plot of land. My BFF lives in a cottage on the property, as does my brother (who handles upkeep on the buildings) and my SIL who is a crazy plant lady manages the garden. There is also a well-appointed guest cabin on the property. My parents don’t know where we are so we never have to talk to them. I am independently wealthy (not crazy rich, just “comfortable”), which allows my friend and I to spend our time and energy jointly serving as temporary foster parents to young children.

I love that your fantasy includes living with your BFF, brother and SIL. You and they must have great relationships IRL for you to include them that way. I hope that's the case.

I am lucky to have a lot of good, deep relationships. I would love to live closer to my brother and his family and my BFF and I have an actual long-term plan to retire together, or at least close to one another.

Awww, I love this for you!! Get it , girl!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have a penthouse apt for me and my well endowed ex bf so that we could hook up on the regular, no strings attached.

This has inspired me to add to my otherwise wholesome and family oriented fantasy life.

I keep a room in a fancy upscale hotel. One a week I get to hook up with an ex or crush of my choosing. Then he leaves and I order room service and watch tv

I don’t want to turn this thread into a lifestyle flame war, but suffice to say I have had great sex in a hotel room outside marriage and then enjoyed a bubble bath and room service and a Showtime binge. Im talking 50 shades fantasy sex. And it was amazing. The fantasy is real, it was 1,000% amazing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my fantasy life, I own a small home in the pacific northwest on a decent plot of land. My BFF lives in a cottage on the property, as does my brother (who handles upkeep on the buildings) and my SIL who is a crazy plant lady manages the garden. There is also a well-appointed guest cabin on the property. My parents don’t know where we are so we never have to talk to them. I am independently wealthy (not crazy rich, just “comfortable”), which allows my friend and I to spend our time and energy jointly serving as temporary foster parents to young children.

I love that your fantasy includes living with your BFF, brother and SIL. You and they must have great relationships IRL for you to include them that way. I hope that's the case.

I am lucky to have a lot of good, deep relationships. I would love to live closer to my brother and his family and my BFF and I have an actual long-term plan to retire together, or at least close to one another.

Anonymous wrote:I would have a penthouse apt for me and my well endowed ex bf so that we could hook up on the regular, no strings attached.

This has inspired me to add to my otherwise wholesome and family oriented fantasy life.

I keep a room in a fancy upscale hotel. One a week I get to hook up with an ex or crush of my choosing. Then he leaves and I order room service and watch tv

I would have a penthouse apt for me and my well endowed ex bf so that we could hook up on the regular, no strings attached.

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Anonymous wrote:What is killing me about all these fantasies is how oddly specific they are. All the little details like we have all been thinking hard about this.

I love how there are some other people whose fantasy details overlap with mine. I appreciate all the other people who want to be humanitarian goddesses too.

Thanks OP for starting the thread; it’s fun to follow!

Agree, it's a fascinating thread to me too!

NP and interested by the "humanitarian goddess" fantasies others are describing (thanks for that great term, PP!). How genuinely good!

My fantasy, which I could write about (and have written about) at length, is not humanitarian at all. Nor does it hinge on money like an earlier PP rather scowlingly insists is the focus of many of these fantasies. My fantasy husband and I don't need much money, considering we own the farmhouse where we live. We don't need to farm properly. I grow lavender and he keeps bees, who are fond of the lavender. Honey and lavender keep us in just enough income to buy things like food, gas, animal feed. We spend most of our time reading, listening to music, playing music, riding our horses and staying in bed some days. Not to read, though. Bed isn't for reading at our house. Not a lot of sleeping goes on there, either. (I admit, the thing that struck me most about some fantasies here were that they seem to be by women who want to live without men or only with anonymous lovers. But the devoted fantasy husband, and yes, he's extremly specifically painted in my mind, is essential to my own fantasy. Not criticizing anyone else's choices! Just interesting to note how widely varied our minds and desires can be.)

Oh I love that fantasy! (Humanitarian goddess PP here — my fantasy was the house in Alaska from page 2) I do find it fascinating the mix of people who want anonymous/no strings attached lovers vs those who want none vs those who want a true partner.

Tangentially related, have you read The Blue Castle by LM Montgomery? I suspect you would enjoy it.

Hello Alaska H.G. -- I'm Farmhouse Couple PP to whom you're responding--thanks for the recommendation! I read a lot of LM Montgomery some years ago when my DC was deeply into all Montgomery's books but we never read that particular one. I just now looked it up and will give it a try!

Agree that the configurations of what people do or do not fantasize romantically and sexually are fascinatingly different. Looking at my own post again, I realize that it's entirely divorced from any aspect of my real life, since I am happily married for decades to a great person and have a delightful young adult DC. Neither appears even tangentially in this fantasy (or others!) but some PPs include their real-life kids, spouses, friends, relatives. Maybe it's the difference between "fantasy that rewrites real life into an ideal version including loved ones" and "fantasy that is completely unrelated to real life."

I live in a freshly-renovated home on an expansive waterfront. Each of my 3 children sleep in their own bedrooms (and actually sleep there). DH has a soundproofed library to work in, where we can’t hear him ranting and he can’t hear us giggling. An Alice-like housekeeper keeps the kitchen spic and span. There’s never a dish on the counter. I spend my time reading and on creative outlets.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is killing me about all these fantasies is how oddly specific they are. All the little details like we have all been thinking hard about this.

I love how there are some other people whose fantasy details overlap with mine. I appreciate all the other people who want to be humanitarian goddesses too.

Thanks OP for starting the thread; it’s fun to follow!

Agree, it's a fascinating thread to me too!

NP and interested by the "humanitarian goddess" fantasies others are describing (thanks for that great term, PP!). How genuinely good!

My fantasy, which I could write about (and have written about) at length, is not humanitarian at all. Nor does it hinge on money like an earlier PP rather scowlingly insists is the focus of many of these fantasies. My fantasy husband and I don't need much money, considering we own the farmhouse where we live. We don't need to farm properly. I grow lavender and he keeps bees, who are fond of the lavender. Honey and lavender keep us in just enough income to buy things like food, gas, animal feed. We spend most of our time reading, listening to music, playing music, riding our horses and staying in bed some days. Not to read, though. Bed isn't for reading at our house. Not a lot of sleeping goes on there, either. (I admit, the thing that struck me most about some fantasies here were that they seem to be by women who want to live without men or only with anonymous lovers. But the devoted fantasy husband, and yes, he's extremly specifically painted in my mind, is essential to my own fantasy. Not criticizing anyone else's choices! Just interesting to note how widely varied our minds and desires can be.)

Oh I love that fantasy! (Humanitarian goddess PP here — my fantasy was the house in Alaska from page 2) I do find it fascinating the mix of people who want anonymous/no strings attached lovers vs those who want none vs those who want a true partner.

Tangentially related, have you read The Blue Castle by LM Montgomery? I suspect you would enjoy it.

I live in a electric sprinter van that magically gets great wifi wherever it goes. In it are my musical instrument and sheet music, a handful of good books, a few boardgames I play with family, that new good smelling shampoo I just discovered, a laptop I use to run my business, another laptop that I use for writing, my 3 favorite pans and all my spices. Also, all my workout clothes. I go where I please, always find great local coffee spots, meet new people, and visit friends and see off the beaten path places in the U.S.

I have a nice set up where I park and set up a little canopy right outside, so when the weather's nice I sit outside.

Every few weeks or so, I check into a nice hotel or AirBnb and live "normally" for a bit.

Not in my van: paper and paperwork. Years of accumulated crap. Other people's stuff.

Anonymous wrote:In my fantasy life, I own a small home in the pacific northwest on a decent plot of land. My BFF lives in a cottage on the property, as does my brother (who handles upkeep on the buildings) and my SIL who is a crazy plant lady manages the garden. There is also a well-appointed guest cabin on the property. My parents don’t know where we are so we never have to talk to them. I am independently wealthy (not crazy rich, just “comfortable”), which allows my friend and I to spend our time and energy jointly serving as temporary foster parents to young children.

I love that your fantasy includes living with your BFF, brother and SIL. You and they must have great relationships IRL for you to include them that way. I hope that's the case.