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Anonymous wrote:If parents show their children that they think homework doesn't matter, and that what the children are learning isn't important, children will learn tha school doesn't matter. It turns schooling into a farce.

My MS aged kids homework not mattering to me does not mean it isn’t required to matter to them. They are the ones in MS, there are repercussions if they don’t take it seriously. I already made it through MS, the joy of being an adult.

Is school just hazing that serves no productive purpose?

I can't comprehend this attitude that says, well, if my kids fail, they'll learn that they should have succeeded instead. Do you have a time machine in your house?

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Anonymous wrote:I love checking my kid’s math. So much fun re-learning it!

The idea of re-learning MS math is the actual opposite of fun. I’m landing the helicopter kids, good luck out there!

If MS math isn't worth knowing, why are you sending them them to school to learn it?

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Anonymous wrote:I love checking my kid’s math. So much fun re-learning it!

The idea of re-learning MS math is the actual opposite of fun. I’m landing the helicopter kids, good luck out there!

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Anonymous wrote:If parents show their children that they think homework doesn't matter, and that what the children are learning isn't important, children will learn tha school doesn't matter. It turns schooling into a farce.

That's a big leap. I never reviewed homework but they know I think it is very important as is school. They do come to me with questions occasionally but mostly go to tutorials if they have questions and need help. All great students - now in high school and college. I do not have the bandwidth to carry their education on a daily basis nor do I want to.

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Anonymous wrote:If parents show their children that they think homework doesn't matter, and that what the children are learning isn't important, children will learn tha school doesn't matter. It turns schooling into a farce.

My MS aged kids homework not mattering to me does not mean it isn’t required to matter to them. They are the ones in MS, there are repercussions if they don’t take it seriously. I already made it through MS, the joy of being an adult.

Anonymous wrote:My parents never ever knew if I had homework, so of course they never checked my homework.

Then in 11th grade I started hanging out with two girls whose parents were from Korea. I realized their parents not only checked their homework they had the teachers edition of the math textbook as well as other books. They turned in every single problem correctly. My grade in math got better when I started checking my homework against theirs and doing corrections. They also went to a tutoring program where the teacher previewed the upcoming lessons so it wasn’t the first time they saw the new math material. I also loved going to their house to study or do group projects. Their moms would make us tea and give us snacks. If we stayed up until 2 am finishing a project their moms stayed up as well (they both worked as well so it was a big sacrifice). If we needed supplies they ran to get us more tape, markers, science materials, etc.

I have now emulated that with my own kids. I check 100% of their homework and make them do corrections. I have teacher editions ti check the answers quickly. It really does pay off. My kids are in high school and junior high now and are doing great.

Anonymous wrote:I think that’s a good suggestion. If you check it, you can talk through any mistakes, and it will help your child learn and therefore get better grades. The teacher probably doesn’t have time to do that level of explaining for each individual kid, so she’s outsourcing it to the parents.

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Anonymous wrote:As a teacher, I'm surprised by this. I want students' unchecked work so I can see what they are able to accomplish on their own. A lot of the work I do involves putting students into groups based on what they need to learn and giving them corresponding support or materials. I don't need the additional headache of great homework and bad taste grades. It's more helpful to have a consistent performer.

Have you talked to other parents? What do they think?

As a parent, I have two very different kids in terms of their academic abilities, so my approach to their HW differs. With the more competent one, I check in every so often on writing to share advice, but that's it (also, that kid will often show me their HW for feedback.) With my more challenged kid, I sometimes look it over to prompt him to put in a missing word, spell something he knows how to spell, etc. But doing it for the purpose of improving their grades, esp in 6th grade, sends the wrong message on all kinds of fronts and, again, interferes with the teachers' ability to do their jobs, in my opinion.

You should ask an actual teacher whether they want parents helping students learn.

Anonymous wrote:If parents show their children that they think homework doesn't matter, and that what the children are learning isn't important, children will learn tha school doesn't matter. It turns schooling into a farce.

Anonymous wrote:If parents show their children that they think homework doesn't matter, and that what the children are learning isn't important, children will learn tha school doesn't matter. It turns schooling into a farce.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents never ever knew if I had homework, so of course they never checked my homework.

Then in 11th grade I started hanging out with two girls whose parents were from Korea. I realized their parents not only checked their homework they had the teachers edition of the math textbook as well as other books. They turned in every single problem correctly. My grade in math got better when I started checking my homework against theirs and doing corrections. They also went to a tutoring program where the teacher previewed the upcoming lessons so it wasn’t the first time they saw the new math material. I also loved going to their house to study or do group projects. Their moms would make us tea and give us snacks. If we stayed up until 2 am finishing a project their moms stayed up as well (they both worked as well so it was a big sacrifice). If we needed supplies they ran to get us more tape, markers, science materials, etc.

I have now emulated that with my own kids. I check 100% of their homework and make them do corrections. I have teacher editions ti check the answers quickly. It really does pay off. My kids are in high school and junior high now and are doing great.

This is us. Kids need parental support and involvement.

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher, I'm surprised by this. I want students' unchecked work so I can see what they are able to accomplish on their own. A lot of the work I do involves putting students into groups based on what they need to learn and giving them corresponding support or materials. I don't need the additional headache of great homework and bad taste grades. It's more helpful to have a consistent performer.

Have you talked to other parents? What do they think?

As a parent, I have two very different kids in terms of their academic abilities, so my approach to their HW differs. With the more competent one, I check in every so often on writing to share advice, but that's it (also, that kid will often show me their HW for feedback.) With my more challenged kid, I sometimes look it over to prompt him to put in a missing word, spell something he knows how to spell, etc. But doing it for the purpose of improving their grades, esp in 6th grade, sends the wrong message on all kinds of fronts and, again, interferes with the teachers' ability to do their jobs, in my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have the time to check it over, check it over. It doesn't mean doing it for them. You point out the questions where they got the wrong answer or misinterpreted what was being asked, and then tell them to redo it. Anyone, including a teacher, who calls this cheating is just trying to make themselves feel better about being a lazy parent.

But you would have to read the entire text, assignment or be present for class to know whether the answer is correct or not. Usually the answers are not simple. They’re compare/contrast. Relate XYZ to ABC. What evidence in the text supports the claim of blah blah. It’s not an insignificant amount of time to leaf through all the material to find the supporting evidence. Hopefully kids can do this on their own. My kids’ teachers are very thorough and clear, and ideally parents don’t need to double check their work!

There's always an excuse.