Anonymous wrote:You’d be a catch to a man who is either divorced and done with having children or doesn’t want kids. It takes the kid conversations off the table which would be a relief to some men.

Is this a joke?

Everyone I know who at that age who didn’t already have kids, had a plan to have them right away. Starting to date at this age means the kid conversations are at the forefront of dating!

Anyone can be a catch at any point but it’s all relative. A 35 year old woman is not going to be a catch to a 25 year old guy. But she can be a catch to a guy closer to her age or slightly older.

and before you come at me, I don’t think a 35 year old guy should be a catch for a 25 year old woman either. When I was online dating at 24, I got the ick when 30 year olds would initiate with me. Larger age gaps can become more appropriate when you’re older, more mature and the pool of singles is overall smaller, but when you’re younger, it generally signifies issues, gold/status digging, or both.

Yes, 36 is not too old to have kids, and you don't have to settle for a divorcee who already has some.

36 is a catch if you have a great education, a high net worth, a solid career, and are thin/attractive. You'll still have your pick. If you don't have those things, you're not a "catch" at any age (other than no one expects you to have a high net worth yet at 22). If you're only beautiful, whether 22 or 36, you're not actually a catch and you're going to attract a lot of men who you don't want to build a life with.

You’re a catch for any guy over 50.

In theory you could definitely be a catch. But ask yourself this question: why have you not been caught yet?

There is some yellow flag there. Figure out what it is and perhaps you can become a catch.

If you achieve wealth, looking pretty is easy with surgery, work out, Ozempic, colored contacts, highlights and extensions, make up, styling, expensive dressing etc.

Only question is if you want to be so shallow? Being a catch or scoring a catch isn't a guarantee of happiness yet but for sure everyone will see you as the IT person do there is some satisfaction in that.

Anonymous wrote:Can I as a 36 year old childless woman ever be considered a catch? What would my attributes have to be?

This is a superficial world where women want 6.5 ft blond and blue eyed finance bro with trust fund so why wouldn't men expect less than young, pretty, accomplished and wealthy?

You still can be a catch if you offer beauty, fame, wealth and success.

Anonymous wrote:36 is not old.

Its old if you want to have children.

Anonymous wrote:Can I as a 36 year old childless woman ever be considered a catch? What would my attributes have to be?

not usually, it seems like many red flags, but possibly

Anonymous wrote:Can I as a 36 year old childless woman ever be considered a catch? What would my attributes have to be?

You as a 36 year old are less of a catch than you as a 25 year old. No amount of "attributes" changes that math.

Being a "catch" is subjective. Instead of people buying into this notion of value on the dating market, why not decide to be a human being connecting with other human beings instead?

Absolutely. Being interesting, smart, solvent, degreed, happily employed. Open to kids - having them, step-, is also fine.

I think it raises red flags for sure why single at 36 and if a man is divorced with kids he probably isn’t looking for more kids so if you want them that might not be the best demographic for you. Statistically, it’s not great odds but doesn’t mean it can’t happen. I’d focus on becoming the best version of yourself for you. Have you had serious relationships? What happened?

Yes, of course. If you don’t want kids, you are literally a catch, if as other posters correctly noted you are slender, sexy and kind. And don’t hide poor behavior. Be up front with any long term partner. If you are low libido, catty, critical and controlling they need to know. You just need to be yourself. If you are kind and sexy then you’ll have no problem meeting nice child free educated men or wealthier divorced men who have kids. If you do want kids, you’re in dangerous territory. Might take too long to find someone quickly.

36 is not old.