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Anonymous wrote:I used to go to a dive bar, but it was closed down. I need a new one .
I walk into any bar/restaurant as if I own the place. I used to be a bartender. I need a bartender, bar seat, and a beer. I don't even need people around me.They can all rush home up above on street while I'm chilling.
Ok, op, which bar? I'll go check him out. He will never know you sent me.

She said he goes to random different ones. This is all fishy to me, especially since she only found out about it by credit card receipts.

There are several of you who keep making inferences from the fact that she "found out about it by checking credit card receipts." I think the only thing she found out was that he was drinking beer. She said that he has answered the cell phone when she has called while he is in these places and she's mentioned she's heard the background noise. She apparently thought he was somewhere else that was noisy with possible television in the background and didn't realize that he was at a bar getting a drink. But he wasn't doing anything fishy and he wasn't trying to hide anything. He just didn't think that a 5-15 min side trip on the way home was significant enough to mention.

Most people who stop at Starbucks or Panera on the way to work for 5-15 min to grab a coffee and a pastry wouldn't think that it was worth mentioning, so why would a 5-15 stop on the way home be worth mentioning. Do you all mean to say that you mention every time you stop for coffee or to put in gas in the car or any one of other errands to your spouse? That sounds like a lot of tedium in your daily conversations. I really don't want to hear a blow by blow of my spouse's commute or errands.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to go to a dive bar, but it was closed down. I need a new one .
I walk into any bar/restaurant as if I own the place. I used to be a bartender. I need a bartender, bar seat, and a beer. I don't even need people around me.They can all rush home up above on street while I'm chilling.
Ok, op, which bar? I'll go check him out. He will never know you sent me.

She said he goes to random different ones. This is all fishy to me, especially since she only found out about it by credit card receipts.

That doesn’t mean it was a secret. Kitten stop off at target or the grocery store on the way home and don’t bother to mention it to anyone in my family.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds innocuous, if it really is what he’s describing. Let the man have a beer.

That sounds fun. I'm a woman and would LOVE a legit dive bar to stop in at.

Maybe I’m using the dive term incorrectly. But they’re just not fancy and definitely not where white collar professionals go for a happy hour. They look like random crummy bars on Apple Maps.

Yeah, but their cheaper. He doesn't want to go to more upscale places that may be loud and charge more. $5 is cheap. He's probably adding a tip on the card for the rest. He doesn't want to go and pay $8-10 for a quick decompression drink.

Ugh. they're.

“Ugh”??

Why are you so Invested in other people’s grammar. We are not in school anymore and everyone understood the post.

Sorry I didn't mention that I was the one who made the error and corrected myself. Just annoyed with myself for making the error.

I’m picturing a bunch of pickup trucks and Harley motorcycles…… then a yuppy stepping out of sparkling Tesla Model S.

Anonymous wrote:What is a 3rd place? I think I missed all that

Not your home, not your office, but somewhere you frequent.

The British and Irish have pubs, Germans Bierhalls, Dutch have cafes, French, Spanish, Italians, Greeks have bistros, tavernas, etc.


Americans have church.

I wouldn't worry. My dad has always done this. He's very social and will strike up a conversation with anyone while having a beer and waiting for carryout before going home.

What is a 3rd place? I think I missed all that

As long as he’s not lying about it it’s 100% a non issue. I think it’s kind of cool.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to go to a dive bar, but it was closed down. I need a new one .
I walk into any bar/restaurant as if I own the place. I used to be a bartender. I need a bartender, bar seat, and a beer. I don't even need people around me.They can all rush home up above on street while I'm chilling.
Ok, op, which bar? I'll go check him out. He will never know you sent me.

She said he goes to random different ones. This is all fishy to me, especially since she only found out about it by credit card receipts.

Credit card receipts and also that he picks up his phone from these places when she calls.

This is only fishy to weird overbearing people with control and trust issues.

If my wife went to random wine bars 3 times a week for a single glass of wine and doomscrolling or whatever it is she does on her phone, she’d be even more my idol than she already is.

This seems like a fantastic habit.

Honestly, more Americans should just hang out in low key pubs to socialize, get to know their neighbors, others - or even if they don’t talk to anyone, just be near them. The social connectedness only continues to degrade and it is corrosive. Making your way in the world today, takes everything you’ve got. Sometimes you wanna go where every knows your name. It’s as simple as that.

Anonymous wrote:I used to go to a dive bar, but it was closed down. I need a new one .
I walk into any bar/restaurant as if I own the place. I used to be a bartender. I need a bartender, bar seat, and a beer. I don't even need people around me.They can all rush home up above on street while I'm chilling.
Ok, op, which bar? I'll go check him out. He will never know you sent me.

She said he goes to random different ones. This is all fishy to me, especially since she only found out about it by credit card receipts.

I used to go to a dive bar, but it was closed down. I need a new one .
I walk into any bar/restaurant as if I own the place. I used to be a bartender. I need a bartender, bar seat, and a beer. I don't even need people around me.They can all rush home up above on street while I'm chilling.
Ok, op, which bar? I'll go check him out. He will never know you sent me.

Anonymous wrote:Stopping at a random blue collar bar for a beer is fun.

And totally normal.

What's wrong with you people?

100% agree. Some of these responses are kind of insane.

Anonymous wrote:Stopping at a random blue collar bar for a beer is fun.

And totally normal.

What's wrong with you people?

Totally agree. I read OP and was like what a harmless and not especially time consuming or expensive way to decompress. I might start doing the same!

If his behavior changes during that time, it would cause a concern. If not, let the man has his beer and decompression. He'd be happier and it would affect your family.

Stopping at a random blue collar bar for a beer is fun.

And totally normal.

What's wrong with you people?