Anonymous
Post 08/10/2023 22:18     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
Honestly this is true. We have two boys and we’re debating on a third child. I’ve had many ask us if we were sad we had two boys and if we would try for a girl. I told them “ no, I wanted two boys” and they shut up. Truthfully, we just wanted a healthy baby and didn’t care about gender. I feel like it probably goes both ways. I know a neighbor who gets asked if they will the for a boy.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 21:14     Subject: Re:Keep having kids until a girl is born
I really wanted 2 girls. I told DH we would keep having kids until we had 2 girls. I was open to having up to 4 kids, DH wanted 2 (and he didn’t care about the 2 girls thing).

Our first two were girls and then we loved having kids so much we had another. I didn’t care if it was a girl or a boy - I had my two girls. We had another girl. DH loved having girls, and I enjoyed it, too.

We ended up not having a 4th child because we both really wanted another girl if we had another baby and felt weird about having a very specific desire to have a girl. I think it seemed ok to me in the abstract to want girls as part of my family, but putting the expectation on one particular pregnancy felt uncomfortable.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 20:52     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:More often it is the reverse; keep having kids until the boy is born. If you can afford it, why not?


In other cultures maybe (Asian, Arab).


And American and most of Europe (not all)
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 19:36     Subject: Re:Keep having kids until a girl is born
Anonymous wrote:I know someone that had 4 girls and tried one last time for a boy and had twin daughters.

I have a friend who had two boys and tried for a third kid. They didn't care about the gender and then they had twin boys! Now, with 4 boys, my friend has said she would have a 5th if she could be guaranteed a girl.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 19:32     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had 2 boys and went for a third … because we really wanted a third. We had a girl and boy name already picked out before we learned the sex. And #3 was a girl. Now that I know my kids I can’t imagine any other breakdown. But it mildly annoys me when people make comments about how I “got my girl.” I love my boys, they are each their own unique person and not just a gender stereotype. I love my DD as well and think she is amazing. She’s a much younger sister of 2 older brothers (like a PP posted about). I’m not sure how/why it was well known their moms had them in the hopes of having a girl, but I do know my children will never hear about any sort of gender preference from DH nor myself, and they know we wanted each of them very much.


Exactly. I have only daughters, two of them. I have posted on previous DCUM threads that my husband did not have a gender preference and is not sad that he did not have a son. I was open to having a third and he’s the one who said, “we hit blackjack twice, it’s time to leave the table.” And I have been told my husband is lying to me. Like they can’t fathom a man’s life could be complete without a boy? WTF? Same with women with no daughters. It’s such a twisted and unhealthy way to think.

+1 We also have two girls and people were incredulous when we were pregnant with #2 whenever DH would say he really didn't care about gender and would be equally happy with a boy or another girl. Thankfully, people stopped making those comments pretty quickly after #2 was born.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 18:50     Subject: Re:Keep having kids until a girl is born
I know someone that had 4 girls and tried one last time for a boy and had twin daughters.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 15:19     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
Anonymous wrote:More often it is the reverse; keep having kids until the boy is born. If you can afford it, why not?


Climate change and sustainability?
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 15:18     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
Anonymous wrote:I worked for an attorney who had five girls. I wondered if she was aiming for a boy but couldn't ask that. (One of the tasks she gave me was to make sure nobody went into her office when she was pumping. I couldn't leave my desk for the bathroom during that time.)


That was good restraint to not ask. We have a large family - all one gender. We were never trying for the other and I think about how horrible that must feel to be a kid and hear people ask that question (it’s happened to us).
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 13:49     Subject: Re:Keep having kids until a girl is born
I have one of each, older boy and younger girl. I really did want a girl for #2 but in the run up to the u/s spent a lot of time reminding myself of all the great things about the two-brothers relationship. Did such a good job that I felt a twinge of regret that DS wouldn't get a brother when I learned we were having a girl. We debating having a third but did not mainly for financial reasons. I would not have had a gender preference for the 3rd.

Still, while I'm happy with my two I also see that among my friends and family there is a different closeness between same-sex siblings. If I were rich and could control the gender outcome I'd have four kids - two boys and two girls.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 13:34     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had 2 boys and went for a third … because we really wanted a third. We had a girl and boy name already picked out before we learned the sex. And #3 was a girl. Now that I know my kids I can’t imagine any other breakdown. But it mildly annoys me when people make comments about how I “got my girl.” I love my boys, they are each their own unique person and not just a gender stereotype. I love my DD as well and think she is amazing. She’s a much younger sister of 2 older brothers (like a PP posted about). I’m not sure how/why it was well known their moms had them in the hopes of having a girl, but I do know my children will never hear about any sort of gender preference from DH nor myself, and they know we wanted each of them very much.


Exactly. I have only daughters, two of them. I have posted on previous DCUM threads that my husband did not have a gender preference and is not sad that he did not have a son. I was open to having a third and he’s the one who said, “we hit blackjack twice, it’s time to leave the table.” And I have been told my husband is lying to me. Like they can’t fathom a man’s life could be complete without a boy? WTF? Same with women with no daughters. It’s such a twisted and unhealthy way to think.


+1 two daughters here with a VERY happy DH and same situation. Everyone feels sorry for him.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 13:12     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
One is enough for me! I got my girl.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 13:00     Subject: Re:Keep having kids until a girl is born
I have two girls and a boy is the youngest. People say ALL THE TIME, oh your husband finally got his boy. In front of my kids. It’s so gross.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 12:59     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
Anonymous wrote:We had 2 boys and went for a third … because we really wanted a third. We had a girl and boy name already picked out before we learned the sex. And #3 was a girl. Now that I know my kids I can’t imagine any other breakdown. But it mildly annoys me when people make comments about how I “got my girl.” I love my boys, they are each their own unique person and not just a gender stereotype. I love my DD as well and think she is amazing. She’s a much younger sister of 2 older brothers (like a PP posted about). I’m not sure how/why it was well known their moms had them in the hopes of having a girl, but I do know my children will never hear about any sort of gender preference from DH nor myself, and they know we wanted each of them very much.


Exactly. I have only daughters, two of them. I have posted on previous DCUM threads that my husband did not have a gender preference and is not sad that he did not have a son. I was open to having a third and he’s the one who said, “we hit blackjack twice, it’s time to leave the table.” And I have been told my husband is lying to me. Like they can’t fathom a man’s life could be complete without a boy? WTF? Same with women with no daughters. It’s such a twisted and unhealthy way to think.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2023 12:05     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
Anonymous wrote:More often it is the reverse; keep having kids until the boy is born. If you can afford it, why not?


In other cultures maybe (Asian, Arab).
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2023 23:54     Subject: Keep having kids until a girl is born
We had 2 boys and went for a third … because we really wanted a third. We had a girl and boy name already picked out before we learned the sex. And #3 was a girl. Now that I know my kids I can’t imagine any other breakdown. But it mildly annoys me when people make comments about how I “got my girl.” I love my boys, they are each their own unique person and not just a gender stereotype. I love my DD as well and think she is amazing. She’s a much younger sister of 2 older brothers (like a PP posted about). I’m not sure how/why it was well known their moms had them in the hopes of having a girl, but I do know my children will never hear about any sort of gender preference from DH nor myself, and they know we wanted each of them very much.