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Anonymous wrote:Big law partner here. 48yo. Income $1m+. Career tip: get good education, work hard, look for opportunities and use them!

Are you married? Children? Household or family help around the house?
How many hrs do you work a week?

Thanks

All good questions. I am married and have two children, although both happened later in life. We have a housekeeper who comes once a week, a gardener, and an au pair. I do work a lot, but the work fluctuates. For example, I was in trial earlier this year and did not see my family for weeks. But I also traveled with my kids for 3 weeks this summer. Last year was a killer and I averaged 55h/week. This year is quieter and I've barely worked since my trial. I expect to be right around 45h/w this year.

Yea, not seeing your family for “weeks” is no way to be a parent. Traveling with the kids for “three weeks” doesn’t make up for that. I mean, many many many parents travel for three weeks with their kids without also disappearing for weeks on end.

God this is so pathetic. You’d never say this to military parents right? What doctors who do doctors w out borders? They’re just terrible parents inherently?

Or what abt migrant workers who leave their families for months or even years? Just awful?

Just get over yourself, you don’t know everything and you selectively judge people based on your uninformed views.

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+1 my a$$. You’re insulting Doctors Without Borders (who are volunteering) and migrant workers (who are desperate to support their families) by comparing your greed and what you’re willing to sacrifice for big money to them.

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Anonymous wrote:Big law partner here. 48yo. Income $1m+. Career tip: get good education, work hard, look for opportunities and use them!

Are you married? Children? Household or family help around the house?
How many hrs do you work a week?

Thanks

All good questions. I am married and have two children, although both happened later in life. We have a housekeeper who comes once a week, a gardener, and an au pair. I do work a lot, but the work fluctuates. For example, I was in trial earlier this year and did not see my family for weeks. But I also traveled with my kids for 3 weeks this summer. Last year was a killer and I averaged 55h/week. This year is quieter and I've barely worked since my trial. I expect to be right around 45h/w this year.

Yea, not seeing your family for “weeks” is no way to be a parent. Traveling with the kids for “three weeks” doesn’t make up for that. I mean, many many many parents travel for three weeks with their kids without also disappearing for weeks on end.

God this is so pathetic. You’d never say this to military parents right? What doctors who do doctors w out borders? They’re just terrible parents inherently?

Or what abt migrant workers who leave their families for months or even years? Just awful?

Just get over yourself, you don’t know everything and you selectively judge people based on your uninformed views.

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Anonymous wrote:Big law partner here. 48yo. Income $1m+. Career tip: get good education, work hard, look for opportunities and use them!

Are you married? Children? Household or family help around the house?
How many hrs do you work a week?

Thanks

All good questions. I am married and have two children, although both happened later in life. We have a housekeeper who comes once a week, a gardener, and an au pair. I do work a lot, but the work fluctuates. For example, I was in trial earlier this year and did not see my family for weeks. But I also traveled with my kids for 3 weeks this summer. Last year was a killer and I averaged 55h/week. This year is quieter and I've barely worked since my trial. I expect to be right around 45h/w this year.

Yea, not seeing your family for “weeks” is no way to be a parent. Traveling with the kids for “three weeks” doesn’t make up for that. I mean, many many many parents travel for three weeks with their kids without also disappearing for weeks on end.

Stop the shaming. It doesn't make her a bad parent. Dads do this all the time. Kids are not scarred from parents who work hard as long as the parent can maintain a loving relationship with them. Calm down with the judgments. What may work for some families might not work for another.

Excuse me? I didn’t say it made her a bad mother; I said it made her a bad parent. I don’t care what the gender is – it is not typical for parents not to see their families “for weeks” unless they are off to war or something. I don’t know any parent like that.

DP. I did not see my dad many years for months. It happens. Stop shaming.

Anonymous wrote:How old are you? What do you do? What is your income? What are your career tips?

Looking for some successful women as inspo.

Anonymous wrote:Not a lawyer here. I’m an expert in a niche topic that fintechs who are going public need to have. So I look for contacts who are in Series D raise, join the firms as a director helping them to go public, vest my stocks, and then do it again next firm. Love my job. This year I’m on track to clear about $800,000 if you include stock options.

I’m very proud of my track. It took some creativity and trusting myself to find my niche. I was woman studies major and really didn’t even do that well at school. But I did find my way through some luck and true grit to some great big names, and so got into a great graduate school and worked my ass off and for better or worse really played the game. I have a lot of integrity though, and have really kept my nose clean and have pretty strong business morals, which in my view pays off in the end.

The other secret to making money is to just admit that you want to make lots of money. Perhaps this comes more easily to others, but I had to learn to take up enough space, and not feel embarrassed by the fact that I was totally comfortable being the main breadwinner and having a lot of money. Once I was able to embrace it for myself, a lot of doors opened for me, it’s actually a lot about being in touch with a higher power in the universe and believing in manifestation, but I don’t over index in that. I mostly just do great work, make lotta friends, and have genuine enthusiasm for my job.

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Anonymous wrote:Big law partner here. 48yo. Income $1m+. Career tip: get good education, work hard, look for opportunities and use them!

Are you married? Children? Household or family help around the house?
How many hrs do you work a week?

Thanks

All good questions. I am married and have two children, although both happened later in life. We have a housekeeper who comes once a week, a gardener, and an au pair. I do work a lot, but the work fluctuates. For example, I was in trial earlier this year and did not see my family for weeks. But I also traveled with my kids for 3 weeks this summer. Last year was a killer and I averaged 55h/week. This year is quieter and I've barely worked since my trial. I expect to be right around 45h/w this year.

Yea, not seeing your family for “weeks” is no way to be a parent. Traveling with the kids for “three weeks” doesn’t make up for that. I mean, many many many parents travel for three weeks with their kids without also disappearing for weeks on end.

God this is so pathetic. You’d never say this to military parents right? What doctors who do doctors w out borders? They’re just terrible parents inherently?

Or what abt migrant workers who leave their families for months or even years? Just awful?

Just get over yourself, you don’t know everything and you selectively judge people based on your uninformed views.

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Anonymous wrote:Big law partner here. 48yo. Income $1m+. Career tip: get good education, work hard, look for opportunities and use them!

Are you married? Children? Household or family help around the house?
How many hrs do you work a week?

Thanks

All good questions. I am married and have two children, although both happened later in life. We have a housekeeper who comes once a week, a gardener, and an au pair. I do work a lot, but the work fluctuates. For example, I was in trial earlier this year and did not see my family for weeks. But I also traveled with my kids for 3 weeks this summer. Last year was a killer and I averaged 55h/week. This year is quieter and I've barely worked since my trial. I expect to be right around 45h/w this year.

Yea, not seeing your family for “weeks” is no way to be a parent. Traveling with the kids for “three weeks” doesn’t make up for that. I mean, many many many parents travel for three weeks with their kids without also disappearing for weeks on end.

Stop the shaming. It doesn't make her a bad parent. Dads do this all the time. Kids are not scarred from parents who work hard as long as the parent can maintain a loving relationship with them. Calm down with the judgments. What may work for some families might not work for another.

Excuse me? I didn’t say it made her a bad mother; I said it made her a bad parent. I don’t care what the gender is – it is not typical for parents not to see their families “for weeks” unless they are off to war or something. I don’t know any parent like that.

Anonymous wrote:I made $3 million last year with about 10 hours of work per week as a business owner. Some weeks more, others almost nothing. Basically passive?

My business advice? Lie to people on the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:Big law partner here. 48yo. Income $1m+. Career tip: get good education, work hard, look for opportunities and use them!

Let me guess: Dad had high powered job.

Love these women that mask their class level by telling the rest of us to ‘work hard’

Law school is what these days? 250,000?

It ain’t about working hard and getting a law degree solely. There are so many nonverbal clues you likely just picked up by osmosis - oh and Dad’s law partner just happened to pick you up for that summer internship…

How about illegal immigrant raised by a single mother, and now a BigLaw partner?

Is that good enough for your stereotypes?

Big Law partner here. Thanks to everyone who defended me. And PP, you almost nailed it.

I really hate to disappoint the presumptuous poster, but my parents are (legal) immigrants. Technically speaking, I am an immigrant myself. So no upper class upbringing here or Big Law connections. I came from nothing. So yeah, working hard occasionally does pay off.

You did not “come from nothing.“ You came from hard-working immigrant parents. They are the ones who came from nothing.

NP, but seriously what does the phrase even mean then? Everyone comes from “something.” Your genes/environment made you more inclined to work harder, be intelligent enough, etc to get to where you are.

It seemed that PP’s point was she did have a big law dad or family money to help her achieve partner status behind the scenes; but all of us are shaped in some way by our families, including those who (in your view) actually “come from nothing.”

If the poster had said “I come from an immigrant family that did not have a lot of money,“ that would be one thing. But to refer to her hard-working, immigrant parents as “nothing” is a real insult and slap in the face to them. This poster had two parents with enough drive to move to another country. They obviously instilled their work ethic in her. She wasn’t disadvantaged in the slightest. In the most important of ways - parenting - she actually had an edge.