Anonymous wrote:Not much Seriously. I would not worry about this. Kids aren’t that mean anymore.
From what I can see, except for the crop tops, it’s pretty much the same as 5th grade. I don’t see a lot of dresses, but lots of baggy flannel pj pants and sweatshirts. Just have her wear what is comfortable.

The bolded is not true. There are many mean kids with mean parents out there eager to laugh at others for nonsense reasons.
I’ve seen girls in tiny shorts and tops as if there were walking on a beach.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you guys let your kids go to school wearing PJ pants?! So trashy imo

My kids hate the look and make fun of the kids who do this

I see packs of them—boys and girls all walking home in PJ bottoms every day after school.

My DD (rising 7th grader) must be behind. She wears platform high top converse. Lol.

We are middle class DC with a middle school girl at a public charter. The girls are overall very casual and comfy.
Mine wears yoga pants/leggings with the slightly flared leg, t-shirts with name of band she likes or cute pics, and oversized zip up hoodies.
In 5th grade she did more cropped hoodies and in 6th she go into oversized.
Lots of fitted t-shirts solid colors from H&M, American Eagle, etc. Some old navy.
Athletic shorts, but cotton knit, not like running shorts nylon, not name brand.
Crocs, Uggs (or look a likes), or sneakers.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on your middle school demographic. White UMC, lots of lululemon.

Diverse in both color and socioeconomics, anything goes, quite literally. At my DD’s diverse public middle school I see everything from jeans, pajamas, leggings, sweats, athletic wear, cosplay bizarre stuff, all black, fuzzy slippers, Nike shoes, tall combat boots..really I don’t think you could stand out if you tried. Everyone wears whatever and anything.

I agree with this. If girls stay away from the mean cliques (most of whom dress exactly alike, lots of lululemon yes), they should be fine wearing whatever they like.

This is what we've seen. When someone makes fun of my dd's outfit she gets a pretty clear signal that it's not someone she'll want to be close to, at least not right now. There was a pretty clear dividing line among the friends from elementary school, those who cared a ton what was cool and those who couldn't care less.

It made for a tough sixth and half of seventh grade until the more accepting kids kind of found each other. They wear whatever.

PS if your DD is asking for expensive name brands, you might want to ask her how her clique treats people who aren't wearing the "right" labels and styles. She might not listen right away but keep messaging that kind people don't exclude or put down others based on their outfits.

Good advice, thanks.

OP, my 13-year-old with ASD wears a lot of Lululemon and Athleta. She had lots of sensory issues so the clothes are comfortable. And she looks good. She goes to a mainstream school and has never been bullied.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on your middle school demographic. White UMC, lots of lululemon.

Diverse in both color and socioeconomics, anything goes, quite literally. At my DD’s diverse public middle school I see everything from jeans, pajamas, leggings, sweats, athletic wear, cosplay bizarre stuff, all black, fuzzy slippers, Nike shoes, tall combat boots..really I don’t think you could stand out if you tried. Everyone wears whatever and anything.

I agree with this. If girls stay away from the mean cliques (most of whom dress exactly alike, lots of lululemon yes), they should be fine wearing whatever they like.

This is what we've seen. When someone makes fun of my dd's outfit she gets a pretty clear signal that it's not someone she'll want to be close to, at least not right now. There was a pretty clear dividing line among the friends from elementary school, those who cared a ton what was cool and those who couldn't care less.

It made for a tough sixth and half of seventh grade until the more accepting kids kind of found each other. They wear whatever.

PS if your DD is asking for expensive name brands, you might want to ask her how her clique treats people who aren't wearing the "right" labels and styles. She might not listen right away but keep messaging that kind people don't exclude or put down others based on their outfits.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on your middle school demographic. White UMC, lots of lululemon.

Diverse in both color and socioeconomics, anything goes, quite literally. At my DD’s diverse public middle school I see everything from jeans, pajamas, leggings, sweats, athletic wear, cosplay bizarre stuff, all black, fuzzy slippers, Nike shoes, tall combat boots..really I don’t think you could stand out if you tried. Everyone wears whatever and anything.

I agree with this. If girls stay away from the mean cliques (most of whom dress exactly alike, lots of lululemon yes), they should be fine wearing whatever they like.

This is what we've seen. When someone makes fun of my dd's outfit she gets a pretty clear signal that it's not someone she'll want to be close to, at least not right now. There was a pretty clear dividing line among the friends from elementary school, those who cared a ton what was cool and those who couldn't care less.

It made for a tough sixth and half of seventh grade until the more accepting kids kind of found each other. They wear whatever.

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your middle school demographic. White UMC, lots of lululemon.

Diverse in both color and socioeconomics, anything goes, quite literally. At my DD’s diverse public middle school I see everything from jeans, pajamas, leggings, sweats, athletic wear, cosplay bizarre stuff, all black, fuzzy slippers, Nike shoes, tall combat boots..really I don’t think you could stand out if you tried. Everyone wears whatever and anything.

I agree with this. If girls stay away from the mean cliques (most of whom dress exactly alike, lots of lululemon yes), they should be fine wearing whatever they like.

Depends on your middle school demographic. White UMC, lots of lululemon.

Diverse in both color and socioeconomics, anything goes, quite literally. At my DD’s diverse public middle school I see everything from jeans, pajamas, leggings, sweats, athletic wear, cosplay bizarre stuff, all black, fuzzy slippers, Nike shoes, tall combat boots..really I don’t think you could stand out if you tried. Everyone wears whatever and anything.

Anonymous wrote:Not much Seriously. I would not worry about this. Kids aren’t that mean anymore.
From what I can see, except for the crop tops, it’s pretty much the same as 5th grade. I don’t see a lot of dresses, but lots of baggy flannel pj pants and sweatshirts. Just have her wear what is comfortable.

They absolutely are, middle school girls have been awful

OP asked what MS girls wear and we told her. They’re definitely wearing/or wanting to wear Lululemon shorts. Crocs.

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Anonymous wrote:So at what point do you all start making these girls pay for their own ridiculously high priced designer labels? My mom shop for me at TJ Maxx and Marshalls through my graduation from high school. She said if I wanted to buy the ridiculously expensive stuff from the mall, I’d have to pay for myself.

15. My daughter made 3K the summer she was 15 and started buying her own clothing.

doing WHAT???!!

She worked at a take-out counter at a restaurant. Made $13/hour plus tips which made her hourly rate $15-20.
She worked 30 hour weeks x 8 weeks. Took home right around $3500.

Impressive

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Anonymous wrote:So at what point do you all start making these girls pay for their own ridiculously high priced designer labels? My mom shop for me at TJ Maxx and Marshalls through my graduation from high school. She said if I wanted to buy the ridiculously expensive stuff from the mall, I’d have to pay for myself.

15. My daughter made 3K the summer she was 15 and started buying her own clothing.

doing WHAT???!!

She worked at a take-out counter at a restaurant. Made $13/hour plus tips which made her hourly rate $15-20.
She worked 30 hour weeks x 8 weeks. Took home right around $3500.

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Anonymous wrote:So at what point do you all start making these girls pay for their own ridiculously high priced designer labels? My mom shop for me at TJ Maxx and Marshalls through my graduation from high school. She said if I wanted to buy the ridiculously expensive stuff from the mall, I’d have to pay for myself.

15. My daughter made 3K the summer she was 15 and started buying her own clothing.

doing WHAT???!!

A lot of girls are using cash apps for selling pics and videos. Sketchy but scroll through tik tok feeds and you'll see it.