Anonymous
Post 07/05/2023 02:11     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Anonymous wrote:This all comes down to whether the other family are jerks, or normal people. Could go either way.

Basically this. End thread.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 21:07     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just eat vegan for a week?


The point of a vacation is to have fun, and not being able to have ice cream, seafood, grilled meats, etc. is no fun.

You can go out for ice cream.
Could also agree to split for a couple of dinners and maybe lunches.


Nope you can’t, unless is sorbet or almond milk or tofu ice cream……


Most ice cream places have vegan options. But I think PP was pointing that OP can also take her own kids out for a treat.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 21:05     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
This all comes down to whether the other family are jerks, or normal people. Could go either way.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 20:05     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just eat vegan for a week?


The point of a vacation is to have fun, and not being able to have ice cream, seafood, grilled meats, etc. is no fun.

You can go out for ice cream.
Could also agree to split for a couple of dinners and maybe lunches.


Nope you can’t, unless is sorbet or almond milk or tofu ice cream……
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 20:03     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Sadly I have a lot of experience dealing with vegans, because I live in LA. You need to make sure they’re okay with you bringing meat and animal products into the home (if you are sharing). Some vegans are really upright and won’t share a fridge with meat or go to restaurants that serve meat or get really offended and upset if you order meat at a restaurant. You realllyyyyyy need to have these conversations- ask me how I know!! I’m so used to this in LA it’s easy to accommodate because we have so many vegan options, but it might not be the same for you.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 19:42     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Spaghetti with vegan sauce, meat in the side
Tacos with lots of veggies, meat on the side
Pbjs for lunch
Fruit for breakfast
Lots of vegan side dishes, main course whatever each family wants
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 18:49     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Anonymous wrote:My brother and his family are long time vegans and they always bring their own food. We went on vacation with them and it worked fine. They made their food and we made ours. It all went out on the same table and we all shared. There were crossover things like salad, beans, pasta, fruit, etc. We do the same thing for the holidays.


+ 1. My vegan relatives go out to eat with us, too, and it's never been a problem.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 18:21     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Anonymous wrote:This isn’t hard unless you make it hard. (And I’m not saying OP is making it hard but some of the posters are.) Just talk to them and make a plan.


+2
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 13:02     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
The vegans will need to guide this, since they have experience navigating eating with non-vegans. OP, as many have said, reach out to the other parent and ask how they’d like to handle it. In your shoes I’d definitely want an occasional cheeseburger or fish and chips, so ask the other parent if your family should plan to go to those kids of places separately.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 12:56     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
This isn’t hard unless you make it hard. (And I’m not saying OP is making it hard but some of the posters are.) Just talk to them and make a plan.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 12:52     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just eat vegan for a week?


Because they don't want to? I, for one, am not giving up my morning yoghurt. Not sure why OP's family has to be the one to shoulder most of the discomfort when it's the other family that has the more extreme diet.


We have had this discussion many many times on dcum and it boils down to the above. One person or family takes a particular position that is limiting to themselves in some way (they are vegan, they only eat outdoors because of covid, etc.). The other person or family would have to sacrifice their comfort or do extra cooking/planning or would have to avoid foods or restaurants they’d otherwise enjoy in order for the group to eat together. It seems rude or callous for the second family to just disregard their friends or loved ones at meals. On the other hand, it seems rude or callous for the family who has chosen extreme restrictions to expect everyone else to adhere to their complicated limitations for more than a meal or two. All OP can do is talk to the other family ahead of time and find out what they had in mind. I agree with the others it gets dicey with the kids.


I feel certain the kids are used to being the only vegans around people who eat meat. The family is no doubt used to going on vacation with people who eat meat. This will probably be much easier than you all are predicting.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 11:39     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just eat vegan for a week?


Because they don't want to? I, for one, am not giving up my morning yoghurt. Not sure why OP's family has to be the one to shoulder most of the discomfort when it's the other family that has the more extreme diet.


We have had this discussion many many times on dcum and it boils down to the above. One person or family takes a particular position that is limiting to themselves in some way (they are vegan, they only eat outdoors because of covid, etc.). The other person or family would have to sacrifice their comfort or do extra cooking/planning or would have to avoid foods or restaurants they’d otherwise enjoy in order for the group to eat together. It seems rude or callous for the second family to just disregard their friends or loved ones at meals. On the other hand, it seems rude or callous for the family who has chosen extreme restrictions to expect everyone else to adhere to their complicated limitations for more than a meal or two. All OP can do is talk to the other family ahead of time and find out what they had in mind. I agree with the others it gets dicey with the kids.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 10:17     Subject: My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
My brother and his family are long time vegans and they always bring their own food. We went on vacation with them and it worked fine. They made their food and we made ours. It all went out on the same table and we all shared. There were crossover things like salad, beans, pasta, fruit, etc. We do the same thing for the holidays.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 09:51     Subject: Re:My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Going vegan” doesn’t require anyone to eat a single thing they don’t find appealing or morally acceptable. I would expect that the vegan family has a plan for making meals work already and it won’t require changes to OPs diet but you people who cannot imagine meals without meat or dairy must be the most boring cooks in the world.


To me, boring cooking is restricting the ingredients I can use.


me me me me me me me me




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Anonymous
Post 07/04/2023 09:19     Subject: Re:My family and another family are going on vacation for 5 days together but the family is vegan
Has OP ever come back?