Anonymous wrote:A lot of thinly veiled envy on this thread. So, basically just a Monday in DCUM.

+1. What’s it to you if someone’s husband wants to commemorate a huge day in his and his wife’s life with a nice piece of jewelry?

And the statement that childbirth is “just a biological function” is dumb. Bringing life into this world isn’t “just” anything. It’s a major life event!

Anonymous wrote:My husband gave me diamond studs with the birth of our first and a diamond solitaire necklace with our second. It wasn’t a thank you. It was to commemorate the occasion and every time I wear them we think of two of the happiest days of our lives.

We didn’t do gift giving for the births of either of our kids but I think it’s a very sweet sentiment.

People denying the fact that gifts can be sentimental and that deeper meaning can be attributed to them are intentionally missing the point. I don’t view my wedding ring as a cash prize or “thank you”, it’s a symbol of my marriage.

Big thing to do when I lived in LA in the early 2000's. I hated the term and did not ask for a present from my husband

A lot of thinly veiled envy on this thread. So, basically just a Monday in DCUM.

My husband gave me diamond studs with the birth of our first and a diamond solitaire necklace with our second. It wasn’t a thank you. It was to commemorate the occasion and every time I wear them we think of two of the happiest days of our lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. I hope you guys also don’t expect presents for graduations, birthdays, or anniversaries.

I’ve never heard so much negativity about getting or giving a gift.

The term is weird and I wouldn’t use it. But the gift seems totally benign. You guys are oddly negative and worried about what other people do.

But why a gift for the mother?? Seems odd. She performed a biological function because she wanted a child.

Couldn’t you say that about any accomplishment? I mean you do absolutely nothing and you get birthday presents. Graduation? Wohoo- you showed up to high school. Wedding? You got someone to propose. I did a lot more to bring my kids into this world. IVF, shots, pregnancy, being two weeks overdue. Gifts are sweet and sentimental.

But who is thanking you? You did what is necessary to have a child. It is not a gift you gave your husband, it is just how our procreation works.

Sorry but I do not get it.

What things in life do you think warrant celebration?

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. I hope you guys also don’t expect presents for graduations, birthdays, or anniversaries.

I’ve never heard so much negativity about getting or giving a gift.

The term is weird and I wouldn’t use it. But the gift seems totally benign. You guys are oddly negative and worried about what other people do.

But why a gift for the mother?? Seems odd. She performed a biological function because she wanted a child.

DP. You’re being deliberately obtuse, but if it helps, I also gave my husband a gift when our children were born. So he received a nice watch for the births of both of our children and engagement years prior. I’ll probably get him something for our 10 or 20 year anniversary.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. I hope you guys also don’t expect presents for graduations, birthdays, or anniversaries.

I’ve never heard so much negativity about getting or giving a gift.

The term is weird and I wouldn’t use it. But the gift seems totally benign. You guys are oddly negative and worried about what other people do.

But why a gift for the mother?? Seems odd. She performed a biological function because she wanted a child.

Thank you for reminding us that there are still a lot of knuckleheads out there…

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. I hope you guys also don’t expect presents for graduations, birthdays, or anniversaries.

I’ve never heard so much negativity about getting or giving a gift.

The term is weird and I wouldn’t use it. But the gift seems totally benign. You guys are oddly negative and worried about what other people do.

But why a gift for the mother?? Seems odd. She performed a biological function because she wanted a child.

Couldn’t you say that about any accomplishment? I mean you do absolutely nothing and you get birthday presents. Graduation? Wohoo- you showed up to high school. Wedding? You got someone to propose. I did a lot more to bring my kids into this world. IVF, shots, pregnancy, being two weeks overdue. Gifts are sweet and sentimental.

But who is thanking you? You did what is necessary to have a child. It is not a gift you gave your husband, it is just how our procreation works.

Sorry but I do not get it.

You don’t get it because you don’t want to.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. I hope you guys also don’t expect presents for graduations, birthdays, or anniversaries.

I’ve never heard so much negativity about getting or giving a gift.

The term is weird and I wouldn’t use it. But the gift seems totally benign. You guys are oddly negative and worried about what other people do.

But why a gift for the mother?? Seems odd. She performed a biological function because she wanted a child.

Couldn’t you say that about any accomplishment? I mean you do absolutely nothing and you get birthday presents. Graduation? Wohoo- you showed up to high school. Wedding? You got someone to propose. I did a lot more to bring my kids into this world. IVF, shots, pregnancy, being two weeks overdue. Gifts are sweet and sentimental.

Except PP’s comment is even worse than that. My brother just graduated from college. He got a college degree because HE wanted one. I had babies because DH and I BOTH wanted kids. But of course the process of bringing that about cost me far more than it cost him.

And of course this cost isn’t hypothetical. Gay men who need surrogates to help them become parents know exactly the cost in dollars and cents.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. I hope you guys also don’t expect presents for graduations, birthdays, or anniversaries.

I’ve never heard so much negativity about getting or giving a gift.

The term is weird and I wouldn’t use it. But the gift seems totally benign. You guys are oddly negative and worried about what other people do.

But why a gift for the mother?? Seems odd. She performed a biological function because she wanted a child.

Couldn’t you say that about any accomplishment? I mean you do absolutely nothing and you get birthday presents. Graduation? Wohoo- you showed up to high school. Wedding? You got someone to propose. I did a lot more to bring my kids into this world. IVF, shots, pregnancy, being two weeks overdue. Gifts are sweet and sentimental.

But who is thanking you? You did what is necessary to have a child. It is not a gift you gave your husband, it is just how our procreation works.

Sorry but I do not get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. I hope you guys also don’t expect presents for graduations, birthdays, or anniversaries.

I’ve never heard so much negativity about getting or giving a gift.

The term is weird and I wouldn’t use it. But the gift seems totally benign. You guys are oddly negative and worried about what other people do.

But why a gift for the mother?? Seems odd. She performed a biological function because she wanted a child.

Couldn’t you say that about any accomplishment? I mean you do absolutely nothing and you get birthday presents. Graduation? Wohoo- you showed up to high school. Wedding? You got someone to propose. I did a lot more to bring my kids into this world. IVF, shots, pregnancy, being two weeks overdue. Gifts are sweet and sentimental.

Anonymous wrote:I also dislike the term “bump”. When did that start and when will it go away?

I feel like paparazzi started that when speculating about whether Celebs were pregnant??

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. I hope you guys also don’t expect presents for graduations, birthdays, or anniversaries.

I’ve never heard so much negativity about getting or giving a gift.

The term is weird and I wouldn’t use it. But the gift seems totally benign. You guys are oddly negative and worried about what other people do.

But why a gift for the mother?? Seems odd. She performed a biological function because she wanted a child.

If that’s how you feel, don’t get one. Obviously the men who do don’t see it that way.

Anonymous wrote:Lol. I hope you guys also don’t expect presents for graduations, birthdays, or anniversaries.

I’ve never heard so much negativity about getting or giving a gift.

The term is weird and I wouldn’t use it. But the gift seems totally benign. You guys are oddly negative and worried about what other people do.

But why a gift for the mother?? Seems odd. She performed a biological function because she wanted a child.