We ordered our turkey and a few side dishes from a DC restaurant and when the kid brought the stuff out to me with a big smile on his face I gave him 20 bucks and he responded with a very enthusiastic “I appreciate you!” It was not insincere in the slightest.

Yea, he was black and I’m white. So the hell what. I just laughed and said “I appreciate you, too.” Because I do.

He was black and I’m white. I don’t care if it’s ghetto.

Y'all are culturally illiterate.

This is Black culture. You don't have to say it. You don't have to like it. It isn't for you.

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Anonymous wrote:In DC this has been a thing black people say to each other for a long time. I think it sounds less genuine coming from white people, and I'm not sure why that is.

Back when I used to know some convicts they used to say this. Over 15 years ago. It sounded ghetto to me then & it sounds ghetto to me now.

Not very eloquent, but I agree.

This is a Maryland/DC thing, OP.

I'm guessing you're also the t type of person that says embarrassing things like "flyover country".

Cringing on your behalf.

I think another place where people heard about it as part of black culture was in the SNL skit with John Mulaney at his girlfriend's wedding -- Cha Cha Slide.

https://youtu.be/MC6xjO1JoR8?si=UInZWXMLi0oivU98

I have one coworker who uses this term, but she means it genuinely so I don't mind it at all.

I dislike it! It’s a poor excuse for not saying thank you! It sounds so phony!

Anonymous wrote:It sounds so phony to me! Many of my colleagues in the Midwest say this and also Write It in an email! My coastal colleagues do not do this. What happened to saying Thanks or Thank You the good old fashioned way.

I dislike it myself! I sounds phony a poor excuse for not saying thank you!

I feel like "I appreciate you" is a lazy way of saying " I really appreciate what you have done for me" ... Else an incredibly condescending way of saying the equivalent of "I deem you worthy" either way, it sounds so pretentious.

I don't need my existence validated for simple holding a door open... But if you appreciate something I did or gave you, a simple"Thank you" or "It's greatly appreciated" works.

I just don't feel that a simple gesture or act needs my entire being to be appreciated. If I were being recognized for some lifetime achievement, maybe that might warrant me being appreciated as a person ... But the casual way this phrase gets used kinda cheapens the meaning.

Anonymous wrote:It sounds so phony to me! Many of my colleagues in the Midwest say this and also Write It in an email! My coastal colleagues do not do this. What happened to saying Thanks or Thank You the good old fashioned way.

Appreciate ya!
Pre-shee-ate it!
I appreciate you!

All common and much older ways of saying thanks. Comes from Old English vernacular, centuries old.

People used to say this when I was in high school in the 90s at a majority black school in the south.

Anonymous wrote:In DC this has been a thing black people say to each other for a long time. I think it sounds less genuine coming from white people, and I'm not sure why that is.

Back when I used to know some convicts they used to say this. Over 15 years ago. It sounded ghetto to me then & it sounds ghetto to me now.

Anonymous wrote:I don't use that term in replacement of thank you. I can see "thank you, I truly appreciate your assistance" etc.

yes!