College women file so they can get primary legal and physical custody even if it’s still close to 50 percent shared and they file for money from their spouse or to protect their assets. That’s why they file first.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol it’s not that they can’t handle it. It’s that they have enough income to have other options when things go south. And yes, some men don’t like that. See Steven Crowder.

This. They have the jobs and financial possibility to leave the men who dont pull their weight as partners.

+1 you treat me or our kids badly, we're out

The kids aren’t “out.” It’s not like they divorce their father, and it’s not like their care of custody defaults to their mother, nor should it be. If anything, if mom wants to leave, fine, but the kids get to stay with dad since mom’s abandoning the family.

Eh, my ex was present but about as active a parent as a plant. When he emptied the children's custodial accounts to pay for a compulsive art purchase that's when I finally awakened to how bad a future tethered to this guy would be.
I do have to own my stupidity for marrying him. The kids spend time with him regularly but he is happy not to deal with them unless it is to parade these well-turned out children in front of his parents (he has been waiting for them to die for years).
My 15 year old asked me during my Mother's Day lunch - "Do you know dad's alcohol tolerance?"
I was flummoxed, such a weird question, I didn't know how to answer but could only ask, "Why do you ask?"
"Because he drnks, like, maybe a bottle by himself during dinner".
So so glad not to be married to that anymore AND not normalizing this lifestyle for my kids by silently condoning it as his spouse.

Duh. You are kidding the major point: the educated/higher SES class are the ones married in the first place.

Divorce is also more common among working-class and poor adults age 18–55, provided that they have married in the first place. Less than one-third of ever-married middle- and upper-class men and women have ever been divorced. Among working-class and poor men and women who have ever married, more than 40 percent have ever been divorced.

A majority of middle- and upper-class Americans are married, whereas only a minority of working-class Americans are married. This stands in marked contrast to the 1970s, when there were virtually no class divides in the share of adults married, and a majority of adults across the class spectrum were married.

Lower- income and less-educated Americans are more likely to be living outside of a partnership. Specifically, about six in 10 poor Americans are single, about five in 10 working-class Americans are single, and about four in 10 middle- and upper-class Americans are single.

When it comes to coupling, poor and working-class Americans are more likely to substitute cohabitation for marriage. . Poor Americans are almost three times more likely to cohabit, and working-class Americans are twice as likely to cohabit, compared with their middle- and upper-class peers age 18–55.

This is just completely false. College-educated women have the longest marriages.

“Researchers at the National Center for Health Statistics estimate that 78% of college-educated women who married for the first time between 2006 and 2010 could expect their marriages to last at least 20 years. But among women who have a high school education or less, the share is only 40%.”

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https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2015/12/04/education-and-marriage/

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

There are not less marriages and more divorces with college educated people. This was discussed already with stats to show it. More college women are marrying than non college women. More college women are staying married than non college women. Of those that get divorced which is a smaller group than the non college educated women, 90 percent of the filings are by women. So when these women divorce they are doing so to protect their assets and they have the means to pay. That’s all this statistic is saying

But blue collar men & women aren’t marrying, by and large. Upper middle & upper class men and women are marrying one another.

But even in those marriages more college educated are staying together so college helps you in various ways get married and stay married compared to others. If you divorce the woman might decide to file because she has the means to.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

There are not less marriages and more divorces with college educated people. This was discussed already with stats to show it. More college women are marrying than non college women. More college women are staying married than non college women. Of those that get divorced which is a smaller group than the non college educated women, 90 percent of the filings are by women. So when these women divorce they are doing so to protect their assets and they have the means to pay. That’s all this statistic is saying

But blue collar men & women aren’t marrying, by and large. Upper middle & upper class men and women are marrying one another.

I married a man who was working on his college degree but did not have one yet. Big deal. I had a masters.

I would not have.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

There are not less marriages and more divorces with college educated people. This was discussed already with stats to show it. More college women are marrying than non college women. More college women are staying married than non college women. Of those that get divorced which is a smaller group than the non college educated women, 90 percent of the filings are by women. So when these women divorce they are doing so to protect their assets and they have the means to pay. That’s all this statistic is saying

But blue collar men & women aren’t marrying, by and large. Upper middle & upper class men and women are marrying one another.

I married a man who was working on his college degree but did not have one yet. Big deal. I had a masters.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

There are not less marriages and more divorces with college educated people. This was discussed already with stats to show it. More college women are marrying than non college women. More college women are staying married than non college women. Of those that get divorced which is a smaller group than the non college educated women, 90 percent of the filings are by women. So when these women divorce they are doing so to protect their assets and they have the means to pay. That’s all this statistic is saying

But blue collar men & women aren’t marrying, by and large. Upper middle & upper class men and women are marrying one another.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

There are not less marriages and more divorces with college educated people. This was discussed already with stats to show it. More college women are marrying than non college women. More college women are staying married than non college women. Of those that get divorced which is a smaller group than the non college educated women, 90 percent of the filings are by women. So when these women divorce they are doing so to protect their assets and they have the means to pay. That’s all this statistic is saying

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

Latino couples today don't tend to be as arrogant as other race people may be. My Salvadoran friend has a masters degree but she married a Hispanic guy who only had a high school degree. Her family didn't like him because they thought he was a bum. Same with other Hispanic couples I know. My boss was a Colombian with a masters degree and her husband was a truck driver. Most of my black women friends with upper degrees are single though. My cousin married an Indian woman whose family had tremendous influence on her decisions. They wanted her to be with a man who had money not the high school sweetheart she married. God those people have no heart and are selfish and cruel.

Why would I marry a man with a high school diploma or one who is a truck driver. He adds no value to my life. I’d rather be single.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

Latino couples today don't tend to be as arrogant as other race people may be. My Salvadoran friend has a masters degree but she married a Hispanic guy who only had a high school degree. Her family didn't like him because they thought he was a bum. Same with other Hispanic couples I know. My boss was a Colombian with a masters degree and her husband was a truck driver. Most of my black women friends with upper degrees are single though. My cousin married an Indian woman whose family had tremendous influence on her decisions. They wanted her to be with a man who had money not the high school sweetheart she married. God those people have no heart and are selfish and cruel.

Those “other race” people are not “arrogant”; it’s called having standards & knowing your options in life. Selfish? Are you under the impression that you’re owed someone’s romantic love?

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

Latino couples today don't tend to be as arrogant as other race people may be. My Salvadoran friend has a masters degree but she married a Hispanic guy who only had a high school degree. Her family didn't like him because they thought he was a bum. Same with other Hispanic couples I know. My boss was a Colombian with a masters degree and her husband was a truck driver. Most of my black women friends with upper degrees are single though. My cousin married an Indian woman whose family had tremendous influence on her decisions. They wanted her to be with a man who had money not the high school sweetheart she married. God those people have no heart and are selfish and cruel.

What is “friendly” about this and just who needs reminding?

Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

Anonymous wrote:What is up with them? Why can’t they handle marriage?

Where are you getting that statistic, non college educated man?