Anonymous
07/04/2023 12:03
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
No way. Starting over 3 times? No
Anonymous
07/04/2023 11:11
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine the 20yo would have any sort of relationship with the newborn. They’d be in college, or hopefully at least out of the house by then, and involved in their own lives.
It’s one of those “hapless 20-something in suddenly responsible for a young relative they hardly know” movies waiting to happen. You’ve got to consider that something may happen to one or both parents before the youngest is 18, and while the elder/eldest sibling(s) would be the logical guardians, they may not have much of a day-to-day relationship with the youngest.
It would take a concerted effort on everyone’s part to ensure the siblings are close. And even that will depend on individual personalities.
My family doesn’t have this gap but I do have a sister 17 years older. We’re pretty close (although probably more like aunt/niece than sisters) and when I was a kid she wasn’t expected to be my gaurdian — that would have been my Dad’s sister.
Anonymous
07/04/2023 11:05
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
I can’t imagine the 20yo would have any sort of relationship with the newborn. They’d be in college, or hopefully at least out of the house by then, and involved in their own lives.
It’s one of those “hapless 20-something in suddenly responsible for a young relative they hardly know” movies waiting to happen. You’ve got to consider that something may happen to one or both parents before the youngest is 18, and while the elder/eldest sibling(s) would be the logical guardians, they may not have much of a day-to-day relationship with the youngest.
It would take a concerted effort on everyone’s part to ensure the siblings are close. And even that will depend on individual personalities.
It’s one of those “hapless 20-something in suddenly responsible for a young relative they hardly know” movies waiting to happen. You’ve got to consider that something may happen to one or both parents before the youngest is 18, and while the elder/eldest sibling(s) would be the logical guardians, they may not have much of a day-to-day relationship with the youngest.
It would take a concerted effort on everyone’s part to ensure the siblings are close. And even that will depend on individual personalities.
Anonymous
07/04/2023 10:34
Subject: Re:Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
Nothing about this appeals to me. I know someone who had two sets of kids two years part, ten years apart. Like having kids at 24, 26, 36, and 38. I could see the appeal there, though I would not want to start over when my kids were 10 and 12.
Anonymous
07/04/2023 00:12
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
I have kids who are 10, 5, and 1. I don’t regret anything but an even bigger gap seems nuts to me. Surely you want an empty nest at some point.
Anonymous
07/04/2023 00:00
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
Anonymous wrote:A friend from HS has four kids with large age gaps.
Had the first at 17 and last at 44.
I believe they’re 29, 20, 11 & 2. Four different dads which is usually how that goes.
Anyone who started having kids at 17 and had 4 kids by 4 different men has no clue on how to be a sensible and responsible parent.
Anonymous
07/03/2023 23:21
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
Anonymous wrote:A friend from HS has four kids with large age gaps.
Had the first at 17 and last at 44.
I believe they’re 29, 20, 11 & 2. Four different dads which is usually how that goes.
Wtf
Anonymous
07/03/2023 21:51
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
Anonymous wrote:Donald Trump, Clint Eastwood, Eddie Murphy.
They weren't mothers, fathers who did it with different women so kids aren't real siblings. Also these are super wealthy folks whose trophy wives had nannies who raised these children.
Anonymous
07/03/2023 21:47
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
My grandma did have kids, 30 years apart. First at 20, last at 50, few in between. It was a terrible idea. Youngest one was younger than his eldest sibling's firstborn.
Anonymous
07/03/2023 21:43
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
Anonymous wrote:I always think that would’ve been interesting. At least two of them would be in separate generations from one another. I also think I would’ve developed a lot of parenting wisdom.
I wouldn't at 24 or 44. I would between 28-34. Having children isn't an experiment, they are humans, not lab rats.
Anonymous
07/03/2023 21:15
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
A friend from HS has four kids with large age gaps.
Had the first at 17 and last at 44.
I believe they’re 29, 20, 11 & 2. Four different dads which is usually how that goes.
Had the first at 17 and last at 44.
I believe they’re 29, 20, 11 & 2. Four different dads which is usually how that goes.
Anonymous
07/03/2023 20:58
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
Anonymous wrote:I always think that would’ve been interesting. At least two of them would be in separate generations from one another. I also think I would’ve developed a lot of parenting wisdom.
Insane, not interesting at all.
Is there some Reddit website you keep pulling these oddball hypotheticals from all day long?
Anonymous
07/03/2023 18:41
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
I wish I had had them all in my early 30s. I had one at 30, then left a bad marriage. Then met someone in my late 30s and had a hard time conceiving, and resigned myself to having an only. Now I’m 42 and pregnant, and super anxious about the whole thing, even though I am in a significantly better place than I was at 30.
Anonymous
07/03/2023 18:38
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
Absolutely not.
I’d rather have three back to back at 34.
I’d rather have three back to back at 34.
Anonymous
07/03/2023 04:54
Subject: Theoretically, if you could have three kids each 10 years apart (so, for example, having the, at 24, 34 & 44) would you?
Anonymous wrote:No. That's like having 3 only children.
+1
But 3 times the work.