Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 19:18     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
I mean there’s always some but they’re not the majority. I think it’s pretty sad and depressing that you literally can’t think of ANY redeeming qualities children might have that would make working with them fun and rewarding and you assume anyone who likes them is a predator. That’s a pretty bizarre attitude even for protective parents. Like, the world relies on community members to help raise children.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 17:24     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
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Anonymous wrote:I think it's creepy, yes. Just like how I find male gymnastics coaches creepy. And male nanny's creepy. And male aides in SN classrooms creepy.


Sexism is alive and well.


You want to be mad at someone, be mad at the 99% of child molesters and abusers that are men. It's not the fault of women who point out this fact.


Um, your statists are misplaced.

99% + of all men are not pedophiles nor child molesters, but

50% or more (a majority) of the DC women / mothers responding here are openly distrustful of men working with children.

That phenomenon is called sexism.

PP: do you seriously not see sexism as a problem ??

Worse still, can you not see how these mother’s sexist attitudes will be passed on to their children, and just perpetuate the problem?


Reading is hard for you. I'm suspicious of people who don't have basic inference.

Also it sounds like you're really projecting, and you're clearly incredibly sexist yourself.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 17:19     Subject: Re:Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
I have joked that I’d make a lot more money working at Starbucks than an elementary school. But I choose to stay at the school because I find the work rewarding in a way I doubt I’d find in other fields. I like to think I am making a difference and helping kids and families.

Money isn’t everything when it comes to work. I also decided against law school and finance to pursue my non-lucrative interests (English Lit and foreign language)… which is how I ended up teaching in the first place. I’ve always liked having time to think and read and study. Never wanted to work 80+ hours a week and never wanted to work in an office setting.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 17:16     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's creepy, yes. Just like how I find male gymnastics coaches creepy. And male nanny's creepy. And male aides in SN classrooms creepy.


Sexism is alive and well.


You want to be mad at someone, be mad at the 99% of child molesters and abusers that are men. It's not the fault of women who point out this fact.


Um, your statists are misplaced.

99% + of all men are not pedophiles nor child molesters, but

50% or more (a majority) of the DC women / mothers responding here are openly distrustful of men working with children.

That phenomenon is called sexism.

PP: do you seriously not see sexism as a problem ??

Worse still, can you not see how these mother’s sexist attitudes will be passed on to their children, and just perpetuate the problem?
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 17:10     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
Not as a rule, but yes some guys can be shady as heck. My (male) high school track coach was always complaining about his wife to us kids. He’d talk about their sex lives and he’d get handsy.

We also had a lesbian basketball coach who would come into the locker room and just SIT AND STARE while we got dressed. This was early nineties. It was just sort of a joke, but looking back, totally messed up!
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 17:04     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's creepy, yes. Just like how I find male gymnastics coaches creepy. And male nanny's creepy. And male aides in SN classrooms creepy.


Sexism is alive and well.


You want to be mad at someone, be mad at the 99% of child molesters and abusers that are men. It's not the fault of women who point out this fact.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 17:01     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I think it's creepy, yes. Just like how I find male gymnastics coaches creepy. And male nanny's creepy. And male aides in SN classrooms creepy.


Sexism is alive and well.


If it’s sexism if it’s based on fact? Sorry. 95% of sexual predators are men.

If you want to prove you aren’t a misandrist and sacrifice your kids to a male caregiver go for it.

I’ll wear whatever label you want me to label and have protected kids.


Tell me you have girls without saying you have girls.

Of rather, I hope you only have girls. No boy needs to grow up with a mom thinking he's a sexual predator.


oh no- this is the sort of mother who raises a boy to believe that he cannot control himself and that girls who dress or act a certain way or are in certain situations are "asking for it" and then when their men are accused of assault or inappropriate behavior its always the accuser who is to blame and their son/husband would NEVER, that little sl-- isn't any better than she should be.


Yep!

She did admit to being sexist! She definitely raises her son's this way. Also, they must not do any care for their own children, they must only be responsible for the financial aspects (but only of they are married). After divorce that gold digger think she needs what?
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 16:59     Subject: Re:Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
I am an ES teacher and volunteer twice a week coaching a niche sport. It’s not like we can really teach kids these things without people doing jobs like these. I find joy in sharing my love of learning with kids, and I enjoy helping them feel confident in their developing skills.

I think parents should teach their kids about protecting their bodies and minds and to be wary of behaviors that make them uncomfortable. Parents should especially teach kids that trusted adults may misuse that trust, but also that those people are less common than caring, appropriate adults.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 16:58     Subject: Re:Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you find it suspicious that your husband wanted kids? How do you know he didn't have nefarious motives when having a child with you?


I know my husband. I don’t know random childcare workers.


Your husband is statistically most likely to abuse YOUR children.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 16:49     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
You don't like kids other than your own, so other people who DO like kids and work with them are automatically creepy?

Fwiw I work at a title I school and with kids who have a very rough home life, they are literally safer at school than at home. I am proud to be a stable adult who cares for them and will do my best to educate them and show them that there are good adults out there. I don't care if you think I'm "creepy." I know h am doing good by these kids and I'm proud of it.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 16:48     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I think it's creepy, yes. Just like how I find male gymnastics coaches creepy. And male nanny's creepy. And male aides in SN classrooms creepy.


Sexism is alive and well.


If it’s sexism if it’s based on fact? Sorry. 95% of sexual predators are men.

If you want to prove you aren’t a misandrist and sacrifice your kids to a male caregiver go for it.

I’ll wear whatever label you want me to label and have protected kids.


But 95% of men are not sexual predators. Do you think your husband is? Frankly he is the one most likely to abuse your child’s, statistically speaking.


More like 99.995% of men.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 16:47     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
Sometimes, because of my own experiences and those of so many others. Just as the medical field can attract people who are sadistic/have a god complex. You just have to keep the lines of communication with your child open and ensure they understand physical boundaries, and trust your gut.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 16:27     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I think it's creepy, yes. Just like how I find male gymnastics coaches creepy. And male nanny's creepy. And male aides in SN classrooms creepy.


Sexism is alive and well.


If it’s sexism if it’s based on fact? Sorry. 95% of sexual predators are men.

If you want to prove you aren’t a misandrist and sacrifice your kids to a male caregiver go for it.

I’ll wear whatever label you want me to label and have protected kids.


Actually, there are MANY women too. Most go undetected because if sexism like yours. You just THINK you are protecting your children. Good luck to them!


+1, I was sexually assaulted by a female coach. People didn't believe me because she was a woman and they thought I must have "misunderstood." I do think there is more female-perpetrated sexual assault than we realize because it doesn't get reported or, even if reported, accusers are not believed. I've read that this is also true for workplace harassment -- women harass more than gets reported because people are embarrassed to report harassment from a woman or reports are quickly dismissed as not credible.

There is also some gender normative stuff that goes on -- female aggressors are more likely to assault/harass other women (it makes sense, people looking for victims will target one who is physically weaker and who is unlikely to be believed). I think my assault was dismissed in part because both parties were female and that made it seem unimportant to others, like some kind of mean girl incident instead of a criminal assault, which is what it was.


I said 95% not all. You were assaulted by that 5% unfortunately.

I personally don’t trust my kid with anyone. Not even my own parents. Never worth the risk.


This is not healthy and is not going to be good for your kid in the long run.


Having a loving and protective parent will not harm my children.

What will is if they are sexually assaulted.


Realistically, education is more effective than a "bubble" at preventing sexual assault. Obviously one should steer clear of shady situations but if your kid doesn't have safe and supervised opportunities to understand how to interact with adults they are more vulnerable to being taken advantage of once you cannot supervise them.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 16:05     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
It's so sad that people are suspicious of men who like and want to care for children. If you believe that your child's male teacher is a pervert, I hope you aren't also complaining that your husband isn't pitching in with childcare.

Anonymous
Post 05/18/2023 16:00     Subject: Are you suspicious of people who chose to work with kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's creepy, yes. Just like how I find male gymnastics coaches creepy. And male nanny's creepy. And male aides in SN classrooms creepy.


Sexism is alive and well.


If it’s sexism if it’s based on fact? Sorry. 95% of sexual predators are men.

If you want to prove you aren’t a misandrist and sacrifice your kids to a male caregiver go for it.

I’ll wear whatever label you want me to label and have protected kids.


Tell me you have girls without saying you have girls.

Of rather, I hope you only have girls. No boy needs to grow up with a mom thinking he's a sexual predator.


oh no- this is the sort of mother who raises a boy to believe that he cannot control himself and that girls who dress or act a certain way or are in certain situations are "asking for it" and then when their men are accused of assault or inappropriate behavior its always the accuser who is to blame and their son/husband would NEVER, that little sl-- isn't any better than she should be.