Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:54     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I disagree with a lot of people here. I would take the high road and I personally would even send a gift if you like him. I would not start drama. It is not anyone's place to demand they invite people if they are paying for it.

OP, do you get along with his fiance? Did you dislike her this much before? Maybe she sensed it?

Life is short and very tragic. Allow people to have their happy days and be gracious. I would see this as a sign you are not going to be close with them, but if I saw them at an event I would be polite, just distant.

If the relationship between him and his fiance isn't meant to be, let that happen organically. Don't go setting off problems by starting a big family tah-do. You are allowed to feel hurt and process those feelings, but don't rain on their parade.

We eloped and I am so glad we did.


Did you not read the original post? OP grew up in the same house as her half-brother for several years and they just rented a house together on vacation.


You can grown up in the same house as siblings and not be close. Renting a house together may or may not mean something? How many people rented? Did stepmom fund it and invite everyone? Did everyone pay their own way? OP obviously thinks they are much closer than they are. There is something missing. Are the cousins closer in age to the couple? OP talks in extremes she claims everything is great except she paints the finance in a 1-dimensional highly superficial way. People don't hide their dislike well.

How many people at the wedding? Something is missing here. It isn't all half brother bad, OP good.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:51     Subject: Re:Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
OP is a troll.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:39     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
OK, I give up. What exactly is a “half-cousin?” Your parent’s half-sibling’s child?
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:39     Subject: Re:Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Why didn't the stepmom give you a heads up instead of letting you see it on social media. That would have been the decent and kind thing to do in a hurtful situation.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:34     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Seems very deliberate and intentional.

The relationship is beyond repair.

IMO
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:27     Subject: Re:Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Ask your brother if your father would have made the cut were he still alive.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:12     Subject: Re:Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Anonymous wrote:Do you know who is paying for the wedding? If stepmom is contributing, then she has a say. If she's not, she may have no say.. She may have argued that her step daughters should be invited, but was refused. At this point, she may feel that the young woman is going to be her son's wife and pushing any harder is just going to make things worse for her future relationship with her daughter-in-law. This may be the case if the bride's parents are paying and the bride doesn't want the groom's half-aiblings there.

How close in age are the half-cousins? Maybe the bride and groom are closer in age to them and see having more of a relationship with them going forward.


At this rate, it certainly seems like it.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:10     Subject: Re:Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Do you know who is paying for the wedding? If stepmom is contributing, then she has a say. If she's not, she may have no say.. She may have argued that her step daughters should be invited, but was refused. At this point, she may feel that the young woman is going to be her son's wife and pushing any harder is just going to make things worse for her future relationship with her daughter-in-law. This may be the case if the bride's parents are paying and the bride doesn't want the groom's half-aiblings there.

How close in age are the half-cousins? Maybe the bride and groom are closer in age to them and see having more of a relationship with them going forward.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:08     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Anonymous wrote:I disagree with a lot of people here. I would take the high road and I personally would even send a gift if you like him. I would not start drama. It is not anyone's place to demand they invite people if they are paying for it.

OP, do you get along with his fiance? Did you dislike her this much before? Maybe she sensed it?

Life is short and very tragic. Allow people to have their happy days and be gracious. I would see this as a sign you are not going to be close with them, but if I saw them at an event I would be polite, just distant.

If the relationship between him and his fiance isn't meant to be, let that happen organically. Don't go setting off problems by starting a big family tah-do. You are allowed to feel hurt and process those feelings, but don't rain on their parade.

We eloped and I am so glad we did.


Did you not read the original post? OP grew up in the same house as her half-brother for several years and they just rented a house together on vacation.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 21:02     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Anonymous wrote:If there is a 12+ year age difference between you, you two are not close and have never been. They don’t think if you as family. Sorry.


That's stupid. Who are you to say who is close and who isn't. My brother is years younger than I am and we're extremely close. I facetime with his daughter all the time and talk to him regularly. He's visiting this summer. Half brother, yes.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 20:56     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Really interesting that only one poster has picked up on the OP insulting the fiancé and suggested that maybe there’s a back story after all . . .


OP and her sister weren’t invited. Half cousins were.


Half cousin hasn’t vacationed with her and probably don’t refer to her as “vain” either.


+1. There’s more to this story.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 20:54     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Really interesting that only one poster has picked up on the OP insulting the fiancé and suggested that maybe there’s a back story after all . . .


OP and her sister weren’t invited. Half cousins were.


Half cousin hasn’t vacationed with her and probably don’t refer to her as “vain” either.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 20:52     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:STOP BLAMING THE STEPMOM IT IS NOT HER WEDDING !!!!
YOU SAME HARPIES BLAMING HER WOULD BE THE SAME ONES COMPLAINING ON DDVUM ANOUT YOUR FUTURE MIL INSISTING ON YOU INVITING SOMEONE UOUBDIDNT WANT TO YOUR WEDDING.
BLAME THE BROTHER!


Stop shouting, you nitwit. We aren't blaming the step mom. Just curious as to why she didn't tell op the real reason. Of course we blame the brother!


Why not both? It’s common for grooms to let their mothers choose which extended family to invite
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 20:52     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Anonymous wrote:Really interesting that only one poster has picked up on the OP insulting the fiancé and suggested that maybe there’s a back story after all . . .


OP and her sister weren’t invited. Half cousins were.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2023 20:51     Subject: Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding
Anonymous wrote:STOP BLAMING THE STEPMOM IT IS NOT HER WEDDING !!!!
YOU SAME HARPIES BLAMING HER WOULD BE THE SAME ONES COMPLAINING ON DDVUM ANOUT YOUR FUTURE MIL INSISTING ON YOU INVITING SOMEONE UOUBDIDNT WANT TO YOUR WEDDING.
BLAME THE BROTHER!


Stop shouting, you nitwit. We aren't blaming the step mom. Just curious as to why she didn't tell op the real reason. Of course we blame the brother!