Anonymous wrote:I would never go to an establishment and buy something for myself and not allow my kids to get something, too. It works for us and if your way works for you, that's cool.

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We had a nanny who would do this regularly. Once we found out about it, we fired her on the spot - and it wasn't even Starbucks.

I think it is selfish (Starbucks or not) OP. Since you asked.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I would never order food or drink for myself without ordering something for my kids. That's horrifyingly rude.

This.

And unloving

Unloving!!!! No Starbucks for you is unloving now. No wonder you all can’t afford college and your homes on your 500k salaries. Your children run the show!

It is unloving. You can make coffee at home if you’re in a tight budget.

It’s a very American thing unfortunately to treat yourself in front of your kids and don’t treat them. Look at kids menus, always loaded with garbage offerings. Parents eating crabs, kids eating frozen chicken strips.

A very American thing? I’m not American and don’t go to Starbucks because the coffee is cr*p and it is mostly ultra-processed, over-sweetened stuff. However, I have no problem buying myself coffee and my kids nothing. They are mature enough to understand they get treats at other times.

I rarely go to Starbucks with my kids. If I do go there when they're with me, I always ask them if they want something. Last time our oldest declined.

I would feel mean and selfish to enjoy a treat in front of my kids without offering them one.

Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? When my kid was 6 I'd have pointed to his drink from home. But now at 14, sure, if we go to get coffee we get coffee (or tea). Sometimes he wants it sometimes he does't.

If my kid wanted a simple coffee, that’s different. But my child’s current order is a grande iced matcha with vanilla cold foam 😳 whatever the bell that is. So it’s a hard no for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

Very bizarre rationalizing.

When you get a pedicure, do you always get one for your kids?

Our kids get the lions share of our disposal income, and I do not feel bad for treating myself.

More importantly, I get an iced coffee. The kids like drinks with sugar. So I have no problem saying no. I treat them once a week, that’s plenty. Some things are for adults.

If my daughter is with me, I’ve paid for her pedicure too. Otherwise I don’t bring her when I go.

Well obviously. Who would make their kid sit there and watch them a pedicure?But I’ve had my daughters ask if they can get manicures/pedicures when I get one (which isn’t often), and I say no. Just as I say no when they ask to get Starbucks.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I would never order food or drink for myself without ordering something for my kids. That's horrifyingly rude.

This.

And unloving

Unloving!!!! No Starbucks for you is unloving now. No wonder you all can’t afford college and your homes on your 500k salaries. Your children run the show!

It is unloving. You can make coffee at home if you’re in a tight budget.

It’s a very American thing unfortunately to treat yourself in front of your kids and don’t treat them. Look at kids menus, always loaded with garbage offerings. Parents eating crabs, kids eating frozen chicken strips.

I think you're criticizing the wrong thing. Most American kids WANT stuff off the kids' menu, because their palates are atrocious and their parents haven't really tried to expand their tastes beyond chicken nuggets and pizza. They don't want crab and wouldn't eat it if offered to them. It's not that the parents are cheap about it.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I would never order food or drink for myself without ordering something for my kids. That's horrifyingly rude.

This.

And unloving

Unloving!!!! No Starbucks for you is unloving now. No wonder you all can’t afford college and your homes on your 500k salaries. Your children run the show!

It is unloving. You can make coffee at home if you’re in a tight budget.

It’s a very American thing unfortunately to treat yourself in front of your kids and don’t treat them. Look at kids menus, always loaded with garbage offerings. Parents eating crabs, kids eating frozen chicken strips.

TLR. Normally if we go to Starbucks it's a family treat. The difference is I'm usually ordering something low cal, an iced coffee with a splash of sugar free syrup. My kids tend to love the frappuccinos, which even with skim milk and no whipped cream are high in sugar.

Again, it's a treat. But if it's a day when we had discussed something fun like ice cream, I give them the choice of which treat they want. At that point, they'll always skip Starbucks in favor of ice cream after dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen boys. There is nothing at Starbucks that they want.

Your teens don’t like cake pops, hot chocolate, frappachinos, water, cookies, muffins, a bagel or hard boiled eggs? Nothing at Starbucks?

Water? I don’t need to buy water at Starbucks. And no, they don’t want any of that other stuff. We never made Starbucks a habit when they were younger and I guess it has stuck with them.

This is so oddly self-righteous. Because you never took your kids to Starbucks, they have grown up to shun hot chocolate, cheese and crackers, chips, apple sauce, cookies, yogurt, and hard boiled eggs? Well ok…but, maybe they are just picky.

You seem to have a thing for these hard-boiled eggs.

How old are your kids? When my kid was 6 I'd have pointed to his drink from home. But now at 14, sure, if we go to get coffee we get coffee (or tea). Sometimes he wants it sometimes he does't.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I would never order food or drink for myself without ordering something for my kids. That's horrifyingly rude.

This.

And unloving

Unloving!!!! No Starbucks for you is unloving now. No wonder you all can’t afford college and your homes on your 500k salaries. Your children run the show!

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird if you’re dragging them into a Starbucks to treat yourself and making them stand in line and then telling them to lump it if they are hungry or thirsty. And yes, it’s a treat even if it’s black coffee because you can make that easily and cheaper at home.

I make them stand in line at the liquor store too, call CPS.

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Anonymous wrote:F no.

I’m getting coffee I’m not even sure my kids know Starbucks has something they want.

Wtf is wrong with some of you.

My tweens can’t read is a new weird for DCUM flexes.

To be clear, no judgement if your kids are still learning but judging people whose kids can is kinda weird.

It's a weird flex that your teen knows how to order capa mocha latte light with almond milk and a splash of steamed oatmilk with 3 pumps of vanilla skinny. lol

Yea my kids know there is coffee and some really bad food, only because I get coffee and i've tried their dry nasty food when desperate.

If my kids are going to get an unhealthy snack it's not coffee it's gonna be a big mac, fries and a shake, which is probably healthier than the crap at Starbucks.

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Anonymous wrote:So for all the “omg it’s so rude” people, if you need to shop for an item of clothing, and need to bring your kid along, do you automatically purchase them an item of clothing as well?

I mean " I need new jeans" really isn't the same as "i'm in the mood for a mocha." I probably pick up something Starbucks-y a couple of times a month, it's not an every day or even weekly thing. So I'm standing by "rude" as the description of getting yourself something nice and telling kids sorry they're outta luck.

Wow. The entitlement you all are teaching your kids.

No, you’re right. Sometimes adults get something and the child doesn’t. The child doesn’t work. And most likely they are getting other “treats” and toys and experiences or whatever. They should not be taught that because someone gets something as a treat, they must as well.

This must be why the current teen generation is out of control with their whiney demands and self important attitude

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Anonymous wrote:F no.

I’m getting coffee I’m not even sure my kids know Starbucks has something they want.

Wtf is wrong with some of you.

This!

Me getting coffee and not getting my child an unnecessary sweet drink or treat is not rude. Kids get so much. They don’t need to be entitled to something every time I get something.

To the pedicure person, my mom went every week to get a mani/pedi when I was growing up and I just sat in the waiting area flipping through random magazines, most full of hair styles. And I certainly didn’t feel deprived. I just recognized that as an adult activity that kids didn’t do all the time.

Eating and drinking is not an activity that kids do? Why take them then? Pretty mean.

LOL “Mean”!?!? Good lord. No, kids do not eat and drink sugary and/or caffeinated drinks and don’t need processed unnecessary snacks and food.
Of course if they NEEDED something I would get it. But no, just because I’m getting a drink does not mean they NEED something. They can learn that just because someone else gets something does not entitle them to get something….just because.

You all must be the same people who can’t walk into a toy store, Target, or anywhere else without your kids demanding to buy something for them.

You are the parent! Get a grip.