Oh geez 🤮

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Anonymous wrote:Many guys are not ready for relationships that lead to marriage either in college or just after leaving college. If I told my DD to pursue someone like this, I'd just be setting her up to be a long term girl friend who gets dumped just when the guy realizes what he really wants in a marriage.

High earning men who went to a top schools aren’t settling down until their 30s, and if and when they are, it’s with a woman in her 20s.

Which is a recipe to end up with gold diggers.

(shrug) she wants money, he wants youth and hotness, this is a successful recipe as old as time.

Anonymous wrote:Assortative mating is not a good thing. Too many ugly nerds. See, e.g., DMV.

You looking for a good partner or Miss/Mr world contestants?

My Ivy attending sibling dated a high school drop out while attending said Ivy. Why? Bucking the expectations of classmates I guess. I give my parents a huge amount of credit at how well they handled this. They embraced the partner and eventually the relationship ended without them saying a single negative word.

Sibling's eventual partner has a PhD. As does sibling.

Anonymous wrote:I want my kids to go to schools that are a good fit socially, where they will meet lots of potential friends and dating partners. Eventually, I hope they'll have loving partners or spouses, not necessarily elite ones.

This^.

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Anonymous wrote:Many guys are not ready for relationships that lead to marriage either in college or just after leaving college. If I told my DD to pursue someone like this, I'd just be setting her up to be a long term girl friend who gets dumped just when the guy realizes what he really wants in a marriage.

High earning men who went to a top schools aren’t settling down until their 30s, and if and when they are, it’s with a woman in her 20s.

Which is a recipe to end up with gold diggers.

Anonymous wrote:Because many (most?) of us meet our spouses in the workplace or through post-college networks. Gone are the days of marrying right out of college. How old are you?

Probably PP is old enough to know that its easier to grow together if you meet in early 20's and easier to naturally have kids if you try during late 20's or early 30's.

Anonymous wrote:^^ women don't attend college to get their MRS degrees any longer

Neither do men for MR degree but its a bonus if it happens.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the divorce rate in this country?

Probably higer if you meet someone early like in colleges

It's lower for higher SES. I went to HYP and have plenty of friends who married their college SO. But they didn't get married at 21, more like 27 and then a kid at 30. Pretty normal time-frames.

I’d be interested to see whether the divorce rate is lower for higher SES. We lived in Falls Church and moved to a wealthier area. My kids commented how many more parents are divorced in the wealthier suburb. It gave more the impression that wealthier people got more divorces, but it could just be where we moved.

Anonymous wrote:What's the divorce rate in this country?

Probably higer if you meet someone early like in colleges

It's lower for higher SES. I went to HYP and have plenty of friends who married their college SO. But they didn't get married at 21, more like 27 and then a kid at 30. Pretty normal time-frames.

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Anonymous wrote:i just returned from admitted student/parent day at an Ivy and even considering the selection bias of who attends those, there is clearly no shortage of elite, rich kids getting in these days.

They already revealed to a stranger like you their elite and rich status at an admitted student school visit? Or you have an insightful eye that can see through someone's eliteness and wealth from the first sight?

You can tell who the elite are because they look like 1990s Abercrombie & Fitch ads not the repulsive 2023 ones.

So... white?

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Anonymous wrote:i just returned from admitted student/parent day at an Ivy and even considering the selection bias of who attends those, there is clearly no shortage of elite, rich kids getting in these days.

They already revealed to a stranger like you their elite and rich status at an admitted student school visit? Or you have an insightful eye that can see through someone's eliteness and wealth from the first sight?

You can tell who the elite are because they look like 1990s Abercrombie & Fitch ads not the repulsive 2023 ones.

So much cartoon-villain speech. "EUGH, my daughter can't marry one of those poors! She simply muuuuust marry a High Value Male from HYP!" Absolute self-parody.

Remind me on May 1, 2033 7:07am. Strap in. GenZ data will be out.

What's the divorce rate in this country?

Probably higer if you meet someone early like in colleges