Anonymous wrote:Yea at that age my son wanted to paint his nails. We were a hard no. He would have looked like a freak and would have been teased. Luckily it was a phase and my boys are well aware that they are men and there is no confusion.


Not a chance I’d encourage my boy to feminize himself. Why any parent in these times where some males are lobbing their knobs off and playing make believe they are women would encourage this freakshow is beyond comprehension.

Anonymous wrote:If my spouse prohibited one of my kids from doing something solely due to gender and we let our kids of the other gender engage, I’d be making an 100% equalization policy in my house. If both sexes can’t do it, neither can. And I’d take earrings away from my girls.

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Anonymous wrote:We wouldn’t allow any of our children to get piercing ears until 12. DS has never asked for them, but if he had, we would’ve said no. Now at 16, we would likely concede.
One thing we agree on, is that anything dealing with the kids must be a shared agreement. It will erode your marriage, and even your relationship with your kids, if you don’t put up a united front.

Second paragraph is very important. Your marriage is more important than the earring issue. For me it would not be a hill to die on. Other parenting clashes, perhaps but not this one. Either the vote is 2 to zero or it doesn’t happen.

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Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.

There's definitely an element of truth to this.

My white son had both ears pierced in elementary school, but it was a very diverse school. Even know, he wears a chain/necklace to school and it looks fine/normal.

I suspect all the people scoffing at the idea go to predomanitely white schools

What? So only black kids can have ear piercings now??!! What about other non-white?

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Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.

There's definitely an element of truth to this.

My white son had both ears pierced in elementary school, but it was a very diverse school. Even know, he wears a chain/necklace to school and it looks fine/normal.

I suspect all the people scoffing at the idea go to predomanitely white schools

Anonymous wrote:We wouldn’t allow any of our children to get piercing ears until 12. DS has never asked for them, but if he had, we would’ve said no. Now at 16, we would likely concede.
One thing we agree on, is that anything dealing with the kids must be a shared agreement. It will erode your marriage, and even your relationship with your kids, if you don’t put up a united front.

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Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.

There's definitely an element of truth to this.

My white son had both ears pierced in elementary school, but it was a very diverse school. Even know, he wears a chain/necklace to school and it looks fine/normal.

I suspect all the people scoffing at the idea go to predomanitely white schools

Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t think this is a big deal. My older brother pierced his ear as a teen and then never wore any earrings again. It left a small hole but they can close up.

A piercing really isn't a big deal.

So not piercing shouldn't be a big deal either, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t think this is a big deal. My older brother pierced his ear as a teen and then never wore any earrings again. It left a small hole but they can close up.

A piercing really isn't a big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Male ear-piercings are hideous.

This and it is not age-appropriate. Child is too young and is setting himself up to be hazed/teased at school.

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Anonymous wrote:Tough one OP. I personally would not let me son get his ear pierced (I think) unless I thought he might be gay or transgender (in which case I would probably allow it). I think earrings on boys are not ok and I am pretty sure our private school would not allow it.

My husband is from South America and girls get their ears pierced as babies to distinguish boys and girls. I allowed my DD to get them at 8 after she begged for years. You get DD is almost 8 and does not care. I got my ears pierced at 12 and would like to wait that long if possible.

But I hear your argument OP… it’s a delicate subject.

Also and more importantly, why is your son asking to get his ears pierced? I have never seen a boy that young with earrings. My only son is 4 so my experience with boys is limited, but my girls have several boy- friends.

I think the reason why he wants them is what would dictated my decision. Because his sisters have them? Not happening. Because he wants to look more girlie? I would consider it