Anonymous
04/11/2023 12:09
Subject: Re:My BFF will only date "tall" men so that she feels small in comparison
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She is 55, she likes what she likes. Leave her TF alone.
She clearly doesn’t NEED a man she just prefers certain ones.
WTF do you care who she dates?
I care that I just discovered she's kind of pathetic.
She’s attracted to what she’s attracted to. You don’t know why. It’s her business if she can’t get it up for anyone under 6 feet.
Most reasonable adults are at least open to the idea that someone who isn't their usual physical preference can be attractive under the right circumstances. It sounds like OP's friend isn't, which is pretty rigid. That said, calling her preference "pathetic" or saying she's "mentally damaged" is way over the top. I can't imagine caring so much about my friend's preferences
Romantic/ sexual relationships are not water, food and/ or air.
One is allowed to be as rigid as one wants. There is nothing unreasonable about a want. Now if she was this rigid about finding food, water or a job to feed herself, that's unreasonable.
There are happy, healthy adults out there who have not had a romantic/ sexual relationship in decades.
Anonymous
04/11/2023 11:58
Subject: My BFF will only date "tall" men so that she feels small in comparison
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
What does control have to do with anything? Most of the traits women *should* find most important fall into this category, like impulse control, executive function, IQ, etc.
It's relevant because a man can refine those social and decision making skills as he matures. If height is the primary factor then 5'9 men who possess said impulse control, IQ, etc never get consideration to begin with. Again, people are entitled to preferences, but something like a 6ft requirement shrinks the dating pool even before one gets into how compatible their personalities may be
Except no you can’t “refine” these things. You either have a high IQ, strong impulse control, strong executive function, etc, or you will struggle your whole life to function as well as someone who was born with it.