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Anonymous wrote:Good family = Still Married
I’m not saying a divorced family is a bad family, it’s just not the utopic poster child ideal version of GOOD family.

My parents have been together for 50 something years but my dad suddenly up and left. Am I from a bad family?

I mean yes, if someone is looking at your family from the outside they will perceive it differently than they did 10 yrs ago. Does not erase your own experience.

I don't think there is a perfect family though. A good family mostly depends on the father. If the father is good, lawful, financially responsible, puts family first and isn't a selfish narcissist then it's all good times ahead for the family. [b]You have the kids college paid, nice house in nice neighborhood instead of some roach or mouse infested place, nice schools, more opportunities, parents speak fluent English, good jobs, all those equal good family.

Wait what?

You missed the part “parents speak fluent English” . . . Wait what?

Correct. Parents who speak fluent English have more job opportunities meaning higher pay meaning affording a better neighborhood and life for their kids. I worked in hr and we couldn't move up any people who refused to speak or learn English because they wouldn't be able to communicate with their teams.

So immigrant families where the parents may not speak “good English” are by definition not “good” families? I don’t where you’re from PP, but I grew up in So. Fla. and it was difficult to find most work if you were not bi-lingual in English and Spanish.

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Anonymous wrote:Good family = Still Married
I’m not saying a divorced family is a bad family, it’s just not the utopic poster child ideal version of GOOD family.

My parents have been together for 50 something years but my dad suddenly up and left. Am I from a bad family?

I mean yes, if someone is looking at your family from the outside they will perceive it differently than they did 10 yrs ago. Does not erase your own experience.

I don't think there is a perfect family though. A good family mostly depends on the father. If the father is good, lawful, financially responsible, puts family first and isn't a selfish narcissist then it's all good times ahead for the family. [b]You have the kids college paid, nice house in nice neighborhood instead of some roach or mouse infested place, nice schools, more opportunities, parents speak fluent English, good jobs, all those equal good family.

Wait what?

You missed the part “parents speak fluent English” . . . Wait what?

Correct. Parents who speak fluent English have more job opportunities meaning higher pay meaning affording a better neighborhood and life for their kids. I worked in hr and we couldn't move up any people who refused to speak or learn English because they wouldn't be able to communicate with their teams.

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Anonymous wrote:Stable, financially self-sufficient (not getting gov't assistance), no addictions, no illegal activities, educated, no mental illness.

So no PPP loans, and no family farm.

Anonymous wrote:A family without any drama or messiness
Nuclear family
Educated or skilled
Hygienic
Carry themselves with decorum and honor
Help neighbors/community

Anonymous wrote:The traditional definition of a "good family" is one with generational wealth.

Anonymous wrote:The traditional definition of a "good family" is one with generational wealth.

Anonymous wrote:The traditional definition of a "good family" is one with generational wealth.

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Anonymous wrote:A family without any dramatization or chaos
Atomic family
Taught or gifted
Ability to respect maps
Mostly clean or only a little dirty
Carry themselves with etiquette and honor
Offer assistance to any/all at all times without caveat, question or reservation
Willing to evacuate

Respect maps?

Yes, not all families do.

What does that mean?

? Well they refuse to follow the laws and order that maps establish. They think they can galivant as they please.

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Anonymous wrote:A family without any dramatization or chaos
Atomic family
Taught or gifted
Ability to respect maps
Mostly clean or only a little dirty
Carry themselves with etiquette and honor
Offer assistance to any/all at all times without caveat, question or reservation
Willing to evacuate

Respect maps?

Yes, not all families do.

What does that mean?

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Anonymous wrote:Good family = Still Married
I’m not saying a divorced family is a bad family, it’s just not the utopic poster child ideal version of GOOD family.

My parents have been together for 50 something years but my dad suddenly up and left. Am I from a bad family?

I mean yes, if someone is looking at your family from the outside they will perceive it differently than they did 10 yrs ago. Does not erase your own experience.

I don't think there is a perfect family though. A good family mostly depends on the father. If the father is good, lawful, financially responsible, puts family first and isn't a selfish narcissist then it's all good times ahead for the family. [b]You have the kids college paid, nice house in nice neighborhood instead of some roach or mouse infested place, nice schools, more opportunities, parents speak fluent English, good jobs, all those equal good family.

Wait what?

You missed the part “parents speak fluent English” . . . Wait what?

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Anonymous wrote:Traits of a good family:

- Educated parents who are upstanding citizens and have a good moral compass. No drinking or drug abuse. Good head on their shoulders.
- No drama. Pleasant and friendly with a good reputation in the community.
- devoted to family and their children. Celebrate holidays with vigor, birthday parties, weddings, celebrations. Family comes together to support and uplift one another. Bonus if there are family traditions!
- lack of severe financial distress. You do not have to be extremely wealthy but you must possess enough wealth to have a safe clean home in a safe neighborhood, decent schools and neighbors. Children must have at least college education and be gainfully employed as adults.

Why would this matter for your spouse’s parents?

Good education is important. Elite schools aren’t needed but good basic schools are a necessity.

Interesting. I've known farmers who never went to college, took over their dad's farm, married their high school sweethearts, raised good kids, and were well-respected in their communities and churches. And, in some cases, they make more than most people who post on here. But since they never went to college, their family isn't "good."

You do realize the majority of Americans don't have a college degree, right?

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Anonymous wrote:A family without any dramatization or chaos
Atomic family
Taught or gifted
Ability to respect maps
Mostly clean or only a little dirty
Carry themselves with etiquette and honor
Offer assistance to any/all at all times without caveat, question or reservation
Willing to evacuate

Respect maps?

Yes, not all families do.