Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kids hate phone calls. They really talk to no one on a phone if they can help it.
Texts and yes, memes,are shared. I call about 1x a month.
This. I wish DD liked to talk on the phone. We text a few times a week, but that’s it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That's so sad, OP. I would feel very unloved.
I feel it's the role of parents to initiate calls. My parents call me, and I call my college kids. My MIL calls way less often, but she's older and not in good health, so I excuse her.
We couldn't come from more different families/ beliefs. My parents taught us that when we turn 18 we are adults with all those adult responsibilities. I never had a problem with it.
Anonymous wrote:That's so sad, OP. I would feel very unloved.
I feel it's the role of parents to initiate calls. My parents call me, and I call my college kids. My MIL calls way less often, but she's older and not in good health, so I excuse her.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DIL is a very jealous person and a know it all. I avoid her. She talks baby talk. Adults don't go potty.![]()
We're lucky. They live in another state so I don't see them.
My husband texts with her and our son so that is as good as it gets. I do share very limited emails with our son. She reads every single one. He's not allowed to have an email account she doesn't have access to. Their marriage not mine. I really dislike drama and she thrives on it. Waste of time. This is the second domineering wife our son has had.
I don't hear from them for months at a time until they need money then it's all lovey dovey. FAKE. I need to cut ties with them. Both are very disrespectful.
I keep in touch with my younger sister instead. She's like my child. We are 11 years apart. Our parents died long ago. I feel more connected to her.
You sound like a horrible mother.
this is my experience tooAnonymous wrote:I call one more often and the other one calls me more often. The one that calls, calls nearly everyday. I have no chance to be the one that calls.
Anonymous wrote:My DIL is a very jealous person and a know it all. I avoid her. She talks baby talk. Adults don't go potty.![]()
We're lucky. They live in another state so I don't see them.
My husband texts with her and our son so that is as good as it gets. I do share very limited emails with our son. She reads every single one. He's not allowed to have an email account she doesn't have access to. Their marriage not mine. I really dislike drama and she thrives on it. Waste of time. This is the second domineering wife our son has had.
I don't hear from them for months at a time until they need money then it's all lovey dovey. FAKE. I need to cut ties with them. Both are very disrespectful.
I keep in touch with my younger sister instead. She's like my child. We are 11 years apart. Our parents died long ago. I feel more connected to her.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I talk to my adult daughter everyday, she calls me when she gets off work late at night. She knows I stay up late and she knows I always want to talk to her, sometimes the calls are short sometimes long. I also call her if I want or need to at other times.
I talk to my son about once a week, sometimes I call him and sometimes he calls me. I also text with both my kids often, sometimes it's a group text between the three of us.
I don't know how often they talk to their dad (we are divorced) but I do know that sometimes all four of us have a group text chat or a group video chat.
I wonder why it is that many people here think it's okay to say their parents or inlaws are narcissists or annoying or dysfunctional or whatever but it doesn't occur to them that maybe their parents find them to be annoying or difficult to talk to and that's why they don't call often or at all. That stuff goes both ways, even if they are your parents and supposed to love you unconditionally.
This. If I am being honest, my parents don't like me and I don't like them. We keep disappointing each other. I can't change them. They can't change me. So we don't talk. My dh's family is very involved and we have many older individuals around us who are appreciated as examples of awesome older adults for the kids.