So odd that anyone care why someone did or did not get married. How about everyone just accept each other as they are and don't judge people for their life decisions/circumstances? You never know the whole story and it's rude to assume an explanation without any facts.

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Anonymous wrote:50 year old men date 30 year old women, 50 year old women date 70 year old men

This won’t be true however many times you post it, but I know you super duper wish it was.

Um, we already had a 50 YO woman validate the accuracy of that statement - see the comment on 2/27 at 12:17:

"I’m a 50 year old woman and this is proving sadly true for me. That’s who’s showing up interested and they want a companion and discounted future caregiver with no plans for who cares for me after they’re gone."

50 yo women who don’t need a free rent don’t date anyone, particular 70 yo men. If he’s got the money, maybe, but in general nobody wants an old man.

Old women do. These men should be dating women around their age, there are so many.

I was just responding to commenter who said 50 yo women date 70 yo men. No they don't! But I agree a 65+ woman on the same retirement stage would probably date a 70yo man.

I am 45 and my dating range is minus 5 years plus 10 years, e.g. 15 years span. From slightly younger men to up 10 years older. All men I've been dating are professional with grad degrees, earn at least 200K pay for the dates, want a relationship etc. When I was in my 20s, my dating age span for men was 5-15 years older than me as only these older men were looking for marriage. So in fact I date relatively younger men in my 40s than in my 20s.

Not sure where this belief comes that 40-50 yo women only date 15+ years older men!

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Anonymous wrote:50 year old men date 30 year old women, 50 year old women date 70 year old men

This won’t be true however many times you post it, but I know you super duper wish it was.

Um, we already had a 50 YO woman validate the accuracy of that statement - see the comment on 2/27 at 12:17:

"I’m a 50 year old woman and this is proving sadly true for me. That’s who’s showing up interested and they want a companion and discounted future caregiver with no plans for who cares for me after they’re gone."

50 yo women who don’t need a free rent don’t date anyone, particular 70 yo men. If he’s got the money, maybe, but in general nobody wants an old man.

Old women do. These men should be dating women around their age, there are so many.

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Anonymous wrote:50 year old men date 30 year old women, 50 year old women date 70 year old men

This won’t be true however many times you post it, but I know you super duper wish it was.

Um, we already had a 50 YO woman validate the accuracy of that statement - see the comment on 2/27 at 12:17:

"I’m a 50 year old woman and this is proving sadly true for me. That’s who’s showing up interested and they want a companion and discounted future caregiver with no plans for who cares for me after they’re gone."

50 yo women who don’t need a free rent don’t date anyone, particular 70 yo men. If he’s got the money, maybe, but in general nobody wants an old man.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend from college finally got married when he was about 56. In the 35 years since college he certainly slept with 300 women.

Does he have many STDs?

There are only three STDs that aren’t curable. There’s a vaccine to prevent one of them. And the other two can be transmitted without sex.
People on DCUM seem to think anyone who’s had a certain number of partners is walking around riddled with diseases.

Men don’t get tested for HPV so they have no idea if they have it or transmit it most of the time and after 20 the vaccine doesn’t work and it’s not offered after 45. Many stds are not curable after a time and take a long time for symptoms to show up.

That is not true HPV vaccine is now offered to women after age 45. HPV washes away from female body if she has strong immune response and doesn’t detect on PCR even
Herpes I believe is not curable but it can be regulated with meds

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Anonymous wrote:A friend from college finally got married when he was about 56. In the 35 years since college he certainly slept with 300 women.

Does he have many STDs?

There are only three STDs that aren’t curable. There’s a vaccine to prevent one of them. And the other two can be transmitted without sex.
People on DCUM seem to think anyone who’s had a certain number of partners is walking around riddled with diseases.

Men don’t get tested for HPV so they have no idea if they have it or transmit it most of the time and after 20 the vaccine doesn’t work and it’s not offered after 45. Many stds are not curable after a time and take a long time for symptoms to show up.

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Anonymous wrote:50 year old men date 30 year old women, 50 year old women date 70 year old men

This won’t be true however many times you post it, but I know you super duper wish it was.

Um, we already had a 50 YO woman validate the accuracy of that statement - see the comment on 2/27 at 12:17:

"I’m a 50 year old woman and this is proving sadly true for me. That’s who’s showing up interested and they want a companion and discounted future caregiver with no plans for who cares for me after they’re gone."

Anonymous wrote:I’m 47 and have never been married or had a LTR.
Parents have been married for 50+ years, siblings married for 20+, not religious, not gay, never been fat, pretty normal. Been asked out by two men since Saturday. I’ve been a loner since I was a kid and honestly have never been very happy in a relationship. If I ever meet someone with whom I’m happier than being alone, that would be great. But it doesn’t concern me much if I don’t.

Are you a virgin?

I am 45, single parent and have been proposed to twice. I only recently realized that I don't desire traditional marriage. I am dating a divorced dad of two. He is so busy with his kids and work. I love that he has a whole life apart from me. When we get together, we have a great stress free time. I don't feel the need to merge our lives legally or financially. I am very happy going places on my own, with my friends, spending time with my kid and other activities.

A relationship is fun but it also consumes so much energy that I could devote to other things that bring me joy. Marriage is a life path but not the ONLY life path. I think people assume something is wrong with someone who is not married. Many ways to live a fulfilled life without a legal romantic contract.

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Anonymous wrote:50 year old men date 30 year old women, 50 year old women date 70 year old men

So there is justice in this world?

No. It’s not true. It’s MRA wish fulfillment fiction.

Anonymous wrote:50 year old men date 30 year old women, 50 year old women date 70 year old men

This won’t be true however many times you post it, but I know you super duper wish it was.

Anonymous wrote:My cousin will probably end up like this. Good job, decent looking and well dressed/takes care of herself, goes to church, great with kids, lots of friends. But she has some ridiculous requirements like 6’1” and up in height, which eliminates a lot of eligible men.

I know women like this too. They are great but had unrealistic expectations of what a partner and a relationship would be like and it closed them off to really great people.

But I also don’t think anyone HAS to get married and if you are happy alone, more power to you. I do think 50s is when some regret sets in though because you start thinking about the end of your life and actually being alone all the way through. My divorced friends embrace that thought, the ones who never married can’t always.

I also know a few who really wish they’d had kids. They could have done it in their own financially, but again, they were looking for an ideal and not willing to compromise to get at least some of what they wanted.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend from college finally got married when he was about 56. In the 35 years since college he certainly slept with 300 women.

Does he have many STDs?

There are only three STDs that aren’t curable. There’s a vaccine to prevent one of them. And the other two can be transmitted without sex.
People on DCUM seem to think anyone who’s had a certain number of partners is walking around riddled with diseases.

Can you please elaborate? I would be interested in getting the vaccine: is it HPV or something else? And the other 2 are HSV1 and HSV2?

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Anonymous wrote:A friend from college finally got married when he was about 56. In the 35 years since college he certainly slept with 300 women.

Does he have many STDs?

There are only three STDs that aren’t curable. There’s a vaccine to prevent one of them. And the other two can be transmitted without sex.
People on DCUM seem to think anyone who’s had a certain number of partners is walking around riddled with diseases.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend from college finally got married when he was about 56. In the 35 years since college he certainly slept with 300 women.

Does he have many STDs?

I know a few people who’ve had hundreds of partners and no STDs. Also a few people with only one or two partners who had the bad luck of catching one.