Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 19:19     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:My DD did this after she asked and got told no. So we took away ALL her earrings and held all her money for her so she couldn't buy more.


Wow you are a psycho.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 18:45     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
When I was her age, I triple pierced my own ears and bleached my hair. Both done in my bedroom. My very involved mother never batted an eye. She said it looked great. I’m now 50, have single piercings (let them grown in before college). And, my mom is my best friend. Op, it could be so much worse. Don’t over react.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 18:16     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why did you say no to a double ear piercing for a 15.5yr old? Just curious. What was your reasoning?


NP. I’ve told my daughter no because I think it looks trashy. I think that’s why most parents say no. To each their own.



Me too. I am glad you’re brave enough to admit it. And I started early with my gentle admonitions about technicolor hair and tattoos, too. I am a staunch Democrat, FWIW.


Lol. The teen years are the time to get it out of your system if you want purple hair or something.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 17:31     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why did you say no to a double ear piercing for a 15.5yr old? Just curious. What was your reasoning?


NP. I’ve told my daughter no because I think it looks trashy. I think that’s why most parents say no. To each their own.


Same, I agree, it looks trashy. Neither of my DD's got extra piercings.


You again! Popping up on every thread to say this. Multiple piercings are very trendy right now, you are behind the times.



Still looks tacky, can't change that fact. Nothing worse than seeing my otherwise gorgeous DH with his sad little hole in the ear when he pierce it when he was younger, screams tacky. I'll stay classic and behind the times, trendy is not something I subscribe to, just me being me. You do you. My DD do not have extra piercings and have thanked me for holding the line when they were younger and impulsive.


How boring.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 17:20     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
My DD did this after she asked and got told no. So we took away ALL her earrings and held all her money for her so she couldn't buy more.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 17:18     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:How old is she?

15.5


Piercing parlors require parental consent for minors. How did she pull this off?

And where did she get the money to pay for it? Piercings are expensive!


OP here, a piercing kit from Amazon, not expensive at all


Well you just schooled me. I didn't know this was a thing to look out for. Apparently teens are also buying edibles on Amazon. Seems like Amazon is more dangerous than I thought.


I just shoved an earring through my earlobe when I wanted double, triple piercings. It's not that hard to pull off it you want to. You don't need professional, tattoo artists, or amazon kits.


Seems like it would be bloody and prone to infection if not done right? But I have zero knowledge in this area as I've never pierced an inch of my flesh.


No, they were all fine. The one that got infected, was higher up in the cartilage that I had professionally done. My daughter had her ears pierced by a dermatologist and they got infected. I don't think in my experience the professionalism matters that much. It probably comes down to the after care more than anything.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 15:51     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
I did this too at about this age. I wouldn't make a big deal about it, though I would bring up the added risk of infection of doing that crap at home.

I'm currently in my mid-40s, the whole grew back, no scar - physically or mentally.

this is not a big deal
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 15:49     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old is she?

15.5


Piercing parlors require parental consent for minors. How did she pull this off?

And where did she get the money to pay for it? Piercings are expensive!


OP here, a piercing kit from Amazon, not expensive at all


Well you just schooled me. I didn't know this was a thing to look out for. Apparently teens are also buying edibles on Amazon. Seems like Amazon is more dangerous than I thought.


I just shoved an earring through my earlobe when I wanted double, triple piercings. It's not that hard to pull off it you want to. You don't need professional, tattoo artists, or amazon kits.


Seems like it would be bloody and prone to infection if not done right? But I have zero knowledge in this area as I've never pierced an inch of my flesh.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 15:48     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old is she?

15.5


Piercing parlors require parental consent for minors. How did she pull this off?

And where did she get the money to pay for it? Piercings are expensive!


OP here, a piercing kit from Amazon, not expensive at all


Well you just schooled me. I didn't know this was a thing to look out for. Apparently teens are also buying edibles on Amazon. Seems like Amazon is more dangerous than I thought.


I just shoved an earring through my earlobe when I wanted double, triple piercings. It's not that hard to pull off it you want to. You don't need professional, tattoo artists, or amazon kits.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 15:47     Subject: Re:Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:OP, You are the parent. It is quite simple, if you do not want her to have them, tell her that she has to remove them immediately. If she does not, ground her, take her phone or something else that will get the point across. Ear piercing is not a big deal, but respect is.


Ok. So the lesson is don’t ask permission then just do what you want. Very respectful that way.


May I ask what you mean exactly? OP said that she had asked prior, but the answer was 'No'.


Next time she won't bother asking. Duh. If mom says no to everything and is unreasonable then why bother asking permission? Just do what you want. Then "oops sorry!" when it turns out she doesn't like it or, God forbid, finds it "trashy". She will smile at you and say she had no idea you would mind. You really can't see how this would play out?


OP here. You are making incorrect assumptions. I don’t say “no to everything”. In fact, the opposite. We have a wonderful relationship and I rarely have to say no. Hence, this act was a bit surprising. I was simply asking for help in talking about it with my daughter.


There's probably a lot of other stuff you don't know about her. I would tread carefully here.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 15:45     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old is she?

15.5


Piercing parlors require parental consent for minors. How did she pull this off?

And where did she get the money to pay for it? Piercings are expensive!


OP here, a piercing kit from Amazon, not expensive at all


Well you just schooled me. I didn't know this was a thing to look out for. Apparently teens are also buying edibles on Amazon. Seems like Amazon is more dangerous than I thought.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 15:33     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why did you say no to a double ear piercing for a 15.5yr old? Just curious. What was your reasoning?


NP. I’ve told my daughter no because I think it looks trashy. I think that’s why most parents say no. To each their own.



Me too. I am glad you’re brave enough to admit it. And I started early with my gentle admonitions about technicolor hair and tattoos, too. I am a staunch Democrat, FWIW.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 15:30     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old is she?

15.5


Piercing parlors require parental consent for minors. How did she pull this off?

And where did she get the money to pay for it? Piercings are expensive!


OP here, a piercing kit from Amazon, not expensive at all
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 15:29     Subject: Re:Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, You are the parent. It is quite simple, if you do not want her to have them, tell her that she has to remove them immediately. If she does not, ground her, take her phone or something else that will get the point across. Ear piercing is not a big deal, but respect is.


Ok. So the lesson is don’t ask permission then just do what you want. Very respectful that way.


May I ask what you mean exactly? OP said that she had asked prior, but the answer was 'No'.


Next time she won't bother asking. Duh. If mom says no to everything and is unreasonable then why bother asking permission? Just do what you want. Then "oops sorry!" when it turns out she doesn't like it or, God forbid, finds it "trashy". She will smile at you and say she had no idea you would mind. You really can't see how this would play out?


OP here. You are making incorrect assumptions. I don’t say “no to everything”. In fact, the opposite. We have a wonderful relationship and I rarely have to say no. Hence, this act was a bit surprising. I was simply asking for help in talking about it with my daughter.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2023 15:27     Subject: Daughter double-pierced her own ears without my permission
Anonymous wrote:Op - are you around? Any chance you want to clarify 5 pages of questions?

OP here, what do you need me to clarify??