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Anonymous wrote:If my child got someone pregnant and that person was not an upstanding human, I would encourage my child to discreetly move cross-country and deny paternity.

I nominate you for parent of the year. Well done.

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Not necessarily grandparent of the year

Anonymous wrote:If my child got someone pregnant and that person was not an upstanding human, I would encourage my child to discreetly move cross-country and deny paternity.

I nominate you for parent of the year. Well done.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Given that I got pregnant at 18, I would push for an abortion if it were my daughter and pray that the girl was smart enough to have an abortion if it were my son.

I am reporting from the field that teen pregnancy is a terrible idea.

Mom to boys here. If there was male birth control medication, I would put mine on it. Ridiculous that birth control medication is only for women when it takes two.

Vasectomy is easy and reversible.

Anonymous wrote:Given that I got pregnant at 18, I would push for an abortion if it were my daughter and pray that the girl was smart enough to have an abortion if it were my son.

I am reporting from the field that teen pregnancy is a terrible idea.

Mom to boys here. If there was male birth control medication, I would put mine on it. Ridiculous that birth control medication is only for women when it takes two.

Anonymous wrote:They are dependent on us for money or support? They can get an abortion. Otherwise, they can do what they want to.

Mostly, my kids have been raised well and they will not do something like this.

And what if they don’t get an abortion?

Your second line is hilarious and naive.

They are dependent on us for money or support? They can get an abortion. Otherwise, they can do what they want to.

Mostly, my kids have been raised well and they will not do something like this.

If my child got someone pregnant and that person was not an upstanding human, I would encourage my child to discreetly move cross-country and deny paternity.

Depends on the age and how much i would have to support.

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Anonymous wrote:Kind of, but the reality is accidents happen, and birth control doesn't work 100% of the time. I've been telling my kids since they were young they are not to become parents until at least age 30, so they have time both for their brains to fully develop AND have a few years with those fully formed brains to experience adult life. So they know to get an abortion.

You know that you don't have that kind of control over your adult children's decisions?

Signed, mom at 29

You know that parent’s have influence over their adult children and instill values in their decisions?

Signed, a mom at 35

Well, it sounds more like control, conditioning and enmeshment.

That’s my parenting the holy trinity

Anonymous wrote:Of course. I am presuming it is about an underaged, unemployed, unmarried child?

Bien sûr, ma chérie

Anonymous wrote:Happened to a friend recently… Got me thinking how other parents would react if their child told them they were pregnant or got someone pregnant. How would you react and what would you do?

I am realistic and I put my daughter on the pill when she was 16. She said that she was not sexually active but I remembered when I was her age and I showed her how to put a condom on using a sex toy. My DH drummed it into their heads the absolute necessity of condoms.

This far, no pregnancies or STDs. Thank God.

Anonymous wrote:I would be thrilled.

Me too! I'd be supportive in every way possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Congratulations?! What are your plans?

+1

I'm astonished by all the people who are all in on making this decision for their adult children. Unless they're asking for advice or not financially independent it's really not the parents' place to decide what happens next.

Bingo!

I've thought about this endlessly because I only have daughters. They are younger now, but I plan to talk early and often about birth control, positive sex, EXPLAIN cycles, fertility, ovulation, etc. SO many grown women don't even know these things and it's truly a shame. My kids will have the option to get on BC with me taking them no questions asked and no judgement. If they do end up pregnant it will largely be their own stupidity and not because they weren't given all the information or set up for success. So yes, I'd be mad.

Anonymous wrote:Happened to a friend recently… Got me thinking how other parents would react if their child told them they were pregnant or got someone pregnant. How would you react and what would you do?

No. DD is 26. She’s happy with long time BF and planning marriage anyway. Would be thrilled and so would she.