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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

I’m 35, and 20 years ago the mom the uptight moms made fun of as “sloppy” was the one all the girls liked the most because she was not obsessed with looks— she was a cool artist. So don’t worry, while you judge OP your daughter is embarrassed by you for being the uptight mom. We cannot escape embarrassing our child but you could try to be more creative about it.

I'm really not uptight. I was embarrassed by own mother for normal reasons, but absolutely mortified when she took me to school in her pajamas. I'm no fashionista, either.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't judge hair. I know that curly/wavy hair is what it is and does not benefit from running a brush through it, lol.

Athletic wear makes sense since a lot of families walk or bike to school and a lot of parents are coming from our going to a workout. The thing that confuses me the most are the people who wear slippers. I notice the pajama pants more when they're paired with slippers than with normal shoes. I don't understand how they shuffle along, they're not even comfortable for walking long distances.

What is the specific design that makes something a pj pant as opposed to a regular pair of casual pants?

Not PP, but generally:
-colorful prints or patterns
-loose-fitting
-flannel or cotton

There are plenty of nondescript casual pants that might also be worn as PJs but you'd never know: solid colors, closer-fitting, jogger style, or athleisure pants.

So, like these? https://paxphilomena.com/products/prickly-pax-lounge-pants?variant=19470664335414¤cy=USD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gclid=CjwKCAiA7vWcBhBUEiwAXieItgUtSMHamwpDV55E4ZRgVcJRFRq5GWrdy0FwhGrOxx7Y7__iRZ1G-RoCOFwQAvD_BwE

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

I’m 35, and 20 years ago the mom the uptight moms made fun of as “sloppy” was the one all the girls liked the most because she was not obsessed with looks— she was a cool artist. So don’t worry, while you judge OP your daughter is embarrassed by you for being the uptight mom. We cannot escape embarrassing our child but you could try to be more creative about it.

Sweatpants no judgement. Pajama pants - I would think you were following teen fashions and think it is a bit sad....

I don't get out of the car at drop-off so yes, I wear pajama pants. I also have been caught by neighbors in pajamas when I was in my yard feeding my chickens at dawn. I am generally put together otherwise. At our old school the pta president wore Mickey mouse pajama pants to address the school board. The entire pta would make prejudiced comments about the moms who tried to look nice!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a teacher and I asked her this once— the people the teachers are judging (moms and dads) are the ones who are perfectly turned out, blown out, manicured and botoxed whose kids are wearing a shirt that hasn’t fit in a year and that has stains on it from dinner. Every family has different resources but when none of them are spent on the kids, then the teachers care.

Never once has she mentioned caring whether anyone has brushed their hair

I’m not a teacher but as a parent who has seen this before, I agree with your sister. It’s definitely something I notice and once I’ve noticed it enough that it appears to be a pattern and not just a one-off thing, I’m judging those parents and feel bad for the child(ren). It’s also something not easily forgettable…meaning I have a heightened awareness of their other interactions and my thoughts about them are not that they’re good, well-meaning parents who love their kids. These thoughts are always confirmed by their other actions, too. Like the time one of them was out in her driveway shouting obscenities at her husband telling him he was such a piece of shit in the middle of the afternoon. Yeah, she definitely comes off as crazy. Other things I notice: these types always tend to walk ahead of their small, very young children. Like five or ten steps ahead, no eyes on the child. Idk why I’ve noticed this but’s it stands out as a negative when combined with these other things.

To be clear, I’m not talking about those done up who also have clean, presentable children. I’m talking about the ones that are done up while their kids are unkept and it’s a consistent thing rather than a one-off thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't judge hair. I know that curly/wavy hair is what it is and does not benefit from running a brush through it, lol.

Athletic wear makes sense since a lot of families walk or bike to school and a lot of parents are coming from our going to a workout. The thing that confuses me the most are the people who wear slippers. I notice the pajama pants more when they're paired with slippers than with normal shoes. I don't understand how they shuffle along, they're not even comfortable for walking long distances.

What is the specific design that makes something a pj pant as opposed to a regular pair of casual pants?

Not PP, but generally:
-colorful prints or patterns
-loose-fitting
-flannel or cotton

There are plenty of nondescript casual pants that might also be worn as PJs but you'd never know: solid colors, closer-fitting, jogger style, or athleisure pants.

Just don't wear PJ pants. Go to the effort to put on pants. Or yes, you look like a slob

If you're not getting out of your car then unless you're driving a go-kart, nobody can see your pants. So wear clown pjs - nobody has to know but you.

Anonymous wrote:I don't judge hair. I know that curly/wavy hair is what it is and does not benefit from running a brush through it, lol.

Athletic wear makes sense since a lot of families walk or bike to school and a lot of parents are coming from our going to a workout. The thing that confuses me the most are the people who wear slippers. I notice the pajama pants more when they're paired with slippers than with normal shoes. I don't understand how they shuffle along, they're not even comfortable for walking long distances.

What is the specific design that makes something a pj pant as opposed to a regular pair of casual pants?

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Anonymous wrote:I wear sweatpants and pajama looking loungewear out all the time. I also wear fitted athleisure. Occasionally I am actually dressed. If it is true drop off or pick up, I don’t care. If I am actually watching a game or interacting with others, I put in slight effort.

You may not care how you look but other people have to look at you and they do care. There is no excuse for not coming your hair. Brushing your teeth, bathing regularly, and wearing appropriate clothes that fit.

I am very fit. I don’t know if it matters but we are also rich. Of course I’m clean and brush my teeth. When I do drop off, it is usually a drive by drop off. I don’t get out of my car.

I have good skin and hate face make up. I also get eyelash extensions so I normally look out together even when I don’t wear makeup.

Pure fiction

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wear sweatpants and pajama looking loungewear out all the time. I also wear fitted athleisure. Occasionally I am actually dressed. If it is true drop off or pick up, I don’t care. If I am actually watching a game or interacting with others, I put in slight effort.

You may not care how you look but other people have to look at you and they do care. There is no excuse for not coming your hair. Brushing your teeth, bathing regularly, and wearing appropriate clothes that fit.

Sure theres an excuse. It’s that i dont want to, and i dont have to.

That isn't an excuse but acknowledging that you are a slob.

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.