Focus all of the typical parenting responsibilities regarding your child on your ex-DH, the child’s bio dad. Anything extra that your boyfriend does for your child is icing on the cake. Making unreasonable demands on your boyfriend to parent your child, especially when she has an involved dad, seems like a good way to kill your relationship.

Birthdays do not trump work obligations.

Anonymous wrote:It's just a day. You can celebrate the bday on another day. you're making far too big of a deal of this. You're setting a terrible example for your child.

This! We do a small family celebration at home and then have a birthday party on another day when it's more convenient. We don't travel, but this is how we have always done it.

Huh? This is next level crazy. My DH travels for work and he’s been gone on ours kids birthdays. Didn’t even cross my mind to ask him to skip work travel. We celebrate/have a party when he’s home. The kids have never expressed any sort of dismay about it either.

I am my child's biological parent and have been in his life since he was born. I would have gone to the conference. It is a birthday, not a milestone graduation or similar major event. Celebrate again when he gets home.

I posted on website feedback to see if this poster might be a troll. I feel like we’ve been taken for a ride.

Holy crap, this man is taking on responsibility that isn't his by taking care of you and your child and you are playing this sort of trifling foolishness. This is his work and you expect his to shirk work for a child's birthday. You are so incredibly entitled.
Do the dang birthday before he goes to work. Be grateful and stop making this man's life harder.