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Anonymous wrote:OMG. OP, next year just leave your porch light off.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is 4 and very shy. She often whispers to adults she doesn’t know. I’m sure quite a few adults didn’t hear her say thank you last night.

Some kids are shy, some are too excited/forget, some might just be rude. Whatever.

She can still say thank you. Stop making excuses because you are a crap parent.

DP but this child is FOUR. Are you a parent? Have you ever had a 4 yo? My kid is unfailingly polite now as a 6 yr old but at 4 she could barely make eye contact and IIRC, at a number of houses on that Halloween, she simply hid behind us while we collected candy on her behalf. We would say thank you, but it was totally unreasonable for anyone involved to expect her to say thank you at that age.

Growing up is a process. Stop expecting kids to go from babies to fully formed and perfect adults.

+1, and I'm someone who liked the anecdotes in "Bringing Up Bebe" about French parents sending their kids to their room for not saying "bonjour" to guests, lol

What do you want me to do with my stubborn toddler -- beat her?

I cannot *make* her do something.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is 4 and very shy. She often whispers to adults she doesn’t know. I’m sure quite a few adults didn’t hear her say thank you last night.

Some kids are shy, some are too excited/forget, some might just be rude. Whatever.

She can still say thank you. Stop making excuses because you are a crap parent.

DP but this child is FOUR. Are you a parent? Have you ever had a 4 yo? My kid is unfailingly polite now as a 6 yr old but at 4 she could barely make eye contact and IIRC, at a number of houses on that Halloween, she simply hid behind us while we collected candy on her behalf. We would say thank you, but it was totally unreasonable for anyone involved to expect her to say thank you at that age.

Growing up is a process. Stop expecting kids to go from babies to fully formed and perfect adults.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Virtually none of the kids said "Trick or Treat," and only a few said thank you.

I asked my kids to say TOT and Thank you while I stood at the end of the driveway. Mostly they were too shy to do it. Most of the adults helped them out by saying Happy Halloween! and What a cute costume!

Sorry.

If your kids are old enough to walk up to the door, they are old enough to say "ToT" and "thank you."

For heaven's sake.

A year or so of covid wasn't great for kids' socialization. Some of the younger kids are having a normal trick or treating experience for the first time in years. Even last year most people set up tables at the end of their driveway or just left a bowl out so that they were not exposed to kids and their germs

You socialize children at home so that they know how to behave in public. Stop blaming Covid for you not teaching your children how to behave at home.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Virtually none of the kids said "Trick or Treat," and only a few said thank you.

I asked my kids to say TOT and Thank you while I stood at the end of the driveway. Mostly they were too shy to do it. Most of the adults helped them out by saying Happy Halloween! and What a cute costume!

Sorry.

If your kids are old enough to walk up to the door, they are old enough to say "ToT" and "thank you."

For heaven's sake.

A year or so of covid wasn't great for kids' socialization. Some of the younger kids are having a normal trick or treating experience for the first time in years. Even last year most people set up tables at the end of their driveway or just left a bowl out so that they were not exposed to kids and their germs

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Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids you're referring to, OP?

I'm very strict on etiquette expectations and I did make my child say thank you each time last night, but she doesn't get the "trick or treat" saying yet. She's 3. I seriously hope you are not judging preschoolers on this.

Hell yes, I am. If you are standing with your three year old, you need to tell her to say thank you. What is wrong with you?

The person you're responding to said they did make their kid say thank you each time last night just that her kid doesn't say trick or treat.

I thought she was referring to me judging three year olds, I misread.

Also, people, clearly I am not talking about your disabled children - I know some of the children that came by with their parents and I know they have no problem talking to adults, I am CLEARLY not talking about disabled children.

My nephew is disabled and has no problem saying "please and thank you."

Neat! Not all kids with visible or invisible disabilities are the same. You’d think you’d know that.

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Anonymous wrote:You say "happy halloween" and give candy because you want to give kids candy.

That's it. That's the transaction.

It's nice if they say thanks, but if you are expecting it, then you are in the wrong.

It's like giving a homeless person $20. You give it to help out. They buy food or they buy beer. You don't control the outcome. You don't consider yourself the great savior.

No, sorry, teach your kids to be gracious and kind just like the person giving them candy.

DP. Some of y'all are rewriting what Halloween is about. Kids are threatening you - Give us candy or we'll play a trick on you!

Anonymous wrote:OMG. OP, next year just leave your porch light off.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Virtually none of the kids said "Trick or Treat," and only a few said thank you.

I asked my kids to say TOT and Thank you while I stood at the end of the driveway. Mostly they were too shy to do it. Most of the adults helped them out by saying Happy Halloween! and What a cute costume!

Sorry.

DP: If my kids feel "too shy" to say thank you for what they're given, then it is taken away. They can't have something if they can't receive it properly.

That will teach them to feel more comfortable in stressful situations. Definitely.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Virtually none of the kids said "Trick or Treat," and only a few said thank you.

I asked my kids to say TOT and Thank you while I stood at the end of the driveway. Mostly they were too shy to do it. Most of the adults helped them out by saying Happy Halloween! and What a cute costume!

Sorry.

If your kids are old enough to walk up to the door, they are old enough to say "ToT" and "thank you."

For heaven's sake.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids you're referring to, OP?

I'm very strict on etiquette expectations and I did make my child say thank you each time last night, but she doesn't get the "trick or treat" saying yet. She's 3. I seriously hope you are not judging preschoolers on this.

Hell yes, I am. If you are standing with your three year old, you need to tell her to say thank you. What is wrong with you?

The person you're responding to said they did make their kid say thank you each time last night just that her kid doesn't say trick or treat.

I thought she was referring to me judging three year olds, I misread.

Also, people, clearly I am not talking about your disabled children - I know some of the children that came by with their parents and I know they have no problem talking to adults, I am CLEARLY not talking about disabled children.

My nephew is disabled and has no problem saying "please and thank you."

Anonymous wrote:One house we went to was making kids recite a poem or do a dance in order to get candy.